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Penis goes soft

i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face that.it is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation

Asked by mr hash on 10th June 2009 (in Sex) • Views: 51476

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health! If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

2 2Answered by team member Mara 11th October 2010 (edited 22nd Nov 2016)

Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!

2 2Answered by michael (member of the public) 12th August 2016 (edited 2nd Jul 2017)

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Occasional jelly like seminal discharge and a small lump

I'll keep this brief, but basically I have noticed that after peeing or sometimes just at random my penis may produce jelly like substances that are the same colour as the semen. This is not during any form of sexual act and it has never happened after ejaculation, it is always at a more random time. I have also found a small lump on the left of my groin in the fold between my groin and my leg. I am 17 so this could just be a normal spot but it doesn't share any of the symptoms that I associate with the usual spots, as there is no puss filled rise above the skin like normal, just a small area that has the same kind of hardness as a spot. I feel like I'm worrying about nothing, but even so, I'd like to know everything's okay. Ta!

Asked by Daniel (aged 17) from United Kingdom on 20th December 2016 (in Health) • Views: 261

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Involuntary / spontaneous orgasms

I'm 16 years old male and I'm very serious about this. When I'm mildly anxious quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. So basically every time I am writing an exam, i wear so much in my pants to hide this now, pants > shorts > underwear. I use to be pretty normal, school ends go to the park and play with friends. Now I cannot enjoy music or watching movies or any other activities as much as I used to. I don?t even care for regular social contact with friends or family anymore. This didn't all mysteriously happen, when I was 14 years old I had to get an appendix surgery, I know this is a very common procedure and happens so many times but after the surgery It was difficult to pee but it eventually got normal and I kept feeling physical arousal at my penis, like hypersensitivity slight movements would trigger it, I didn't really know how to explain it back then so i didn't even mention it. In school one day we had a test, I studied hard for it and there was like one question that i found difficult and my anxiety nerve went up mildy and that mildy made me spontaneous ejaculate. I was so distressed that day and felt so uncomfortable that something like that can happen without any control on my part. I told my dad and we went to an MD, refered to an urologist. The urologist which I waited so many months for said I was normal(do i have to record this for him or what!) yet I still get spontaneous ejaculations and hypersensitivity constantly. This is so embarrassing and i don't know what to do anymore. I also cant do presentation, luckily my doctor sent a document to my school that says i have extreme anxiety that excludes me from doing presentations (i don't but they aren't going to say spontaneous orgasm so im okay with it). What do i do? I came across this while searching i think he explained what happens during a test much better then i did: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/2uwgak/spontaneous_ejaculationorgasm_or_due_to_stress/ it is literally this, i messaged the op but it seems that account is inactive i hope he replies i asked him if he has fixed it somehow. I'm very desperate and i feel the medical system has failed me. My urologist would just lecture me how im at that age where i get "wet dreams and body development" and stuff i already knew. I don't know what else to do? See another doctor? See another urologist? See a psychologist?

Asked by Adrian (aged 16) from Canada on 20th March 2016 (in Health) • Views: 2177

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Hi, you may read my post (Dan) on a similar topic here: http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/qa/question/spontaneous-ejaculation/ I think we are lucky! Apart of the little wet mess in our underwear, there is no need to worry about. Enjoy the nice feeling... Do you have more than one orgasm during one exam? After you are done (with the pleasure) do you feel ok going to finish the exam? I also had/have countless wet dreams in which I am dreaming to be at school exams, loosing the train or missing the flight. Again, I think we are a lucky minority. You may share your story with your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I am sure she/he will get very aroused. It would be the perfect foreplay. I am also sure that after you will start your sex life with a partner, these exam orgasm will diminish. At least when you will finish your school. You will miss the pleasure... And I absolutely advise NOT to go to another doctor. You (we) are perfectly normal!

0 0Answered by Dan (member of the public) 12th August 2016

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Painfull when.partner ejaculates and painful.when inside and coming out lumpy

Asked by anonymous on 4th March 2017 (in Health) • Views: 145

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Jelly lumps in semen

I've started to notice in the past 6 months or so that my ejaculation has got more of a yellowish colour and has the odd jelly lump in it. The longer I wait between enaculation the more yellow it is and more jelly lumps there is and the bigger they are. Could this be a problem with my diet or is this normal with age (im 16)

Asked by Tom (aged 18) from United Kingdom on 28th July 2017 (in Health) • Views: 49

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Right testicle retraction

my right testicle never seems to come down and when it does it ascends straight back up it is significantly smaller then my left testicle I am worried and have contacted my GP but awaiting remittance your help would be very helpful-thanks

Asked by lorcan (aged 18) from Ireland on 13th December 2016 (in Health) • Views: 236

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Watery fluid coming out of my penis

Sir I am a 20 year old boy. Sir I am suffering from a sexual problem. whenever I walk with my girlfriend or have simple chat with her or when I read a sex related article a watery fluid comes out of my penis. Because of this my bones have become very weak and I feel sleepy. Sir please help me to come out of this problem it is really giving me a tough time.

Asked by anonymous (aged 20) from India on 31st January 2016 (in Sex) edited by MSH • Views: 657

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Same problem is here .. Plzz tell me solution.

3 3Answered by anonymous member of the public 1st February 2016 (edited 6th Jun 2017)

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello the fluid that is coming out of your penis is called precum and is the body's natural lubricant. It is totally normal for a person to have precum when they are with someone they find sexy or read about sexy things. Do not worry, this is not causing you any health problems, in fact it is a very natural and healthy thing to happen. 

If you are feeling tired and weak, look at other aspects of  your life. Are you stressed about work or family? Is your diet worse than it should be? Are you getting enough exercise? These things are more likely to make you feel, weak and sleepy. A few changes to your lifestyle may make you feel a lot better. 

0 0Answered by team member Douglas 2nd February 2016 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

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Want to sperm more and more

Hi,I have been masterbating since last year but only a few drops of sperm cums out and it comes out too soon.what could be done to increase my sperm count?

Asked by rocky (aged 15) from India on 2nd February 2016 (in Other) edited by MSH • Views: 449

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Hey guys,I just had sex just few minutes back but what shocked me is I had my 1st and my second round very well but on my third my penis just went dead in the midst of the round.So I want to know if this is normal/its a sickness or what cause am really concerned about it

0 1Answered by Kick Smack (member of the public) 7th February 2016 (edited 14th Apr 2016)

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Penis ejaculate even though didn't do anything

Hi there, I'm 22 and am wondering, recently I discovered that my penis ejaculate even though I didn't do anything to it (This includes masturbating) for the past few days. At home playing games, outside hanging out with friends, going to school, and sometimes it just ejaculate. Is it a sign of unhealthiness?

Asked by Yat (aged 22) from Singapore on 28th January 2016 (in Sex) edited by MSH • Views: 458

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

I think you are talking about a goo called precum which men can produce whenever we are sexually aroused; and this can happen a lot when we are young (even when we don’t realise we are thinking about sex). It is a natural lubricant: sticky and generally clear. This is different from ejaculating which feels much more physical and tends to come in several bursts and is usually a creamy white and can be lumpy. 

If you have had sex with other people and you are leaking a yellowy green pus-like fluid and it stings when you piss (urinate) you may have an infection and you should visit a sexual health clinic or see a doctor.

But from your description I don’t worry that there is anything wrong and it actually shows you are fit and well.

1 0Answered by team member Douglas 29th January 2016 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

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Weakness by seeking pennis

Hello my name is mohan Verma and I am 18 year old . Please sir as soon as possible give me the answer. Some 1 or 1.5 year from I starting seeking of pennis after I take it is in enjoying and after some year I feel weakness like I do some work I fell weakness , sometimes eye fell heavy,head also.all of this things happened by seeking of pennis.

Asked by Mohan (aged 18) from India on 3rd December 2016 (in Health) • Views: 214

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Water drop during erection and itchy top of penis

thanks for taking your time to read this messege. i have this problem from last many years i would say. whenever i get erection in a minute drops starts coming out of my penis , which firstly effect the erection and i Cum very fast . Also the top end of my penis (Glans) are is gets very itchy which seems to me very serious bcz of that i cant enjoy erection. i did too much masturbation as well.

Asked by shah on 6th July 2011 (in Sex) • Views: 6072

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, not all men get this, and those that do it can vary from just a little leak to a lot, but let me reasure you this is perfectly normall. Pre-cum is a clear fluid that emits from the tip of the penis when a man is sexually aroused, and its purpose is to act as a lubricant (please be aware this can transmit STI, HIV and can contain sperm if you are not using barrier methods such as condoms to have safe sex with). In very rare cases some men over produce this, if this is the case I would discuss with you GP if possible. Regarding the cumming very fast, this could be for various reasons, and I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your pre-cum. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Regarding the itchy end of your penis, if you masturbate too often then yes the penis could become sore, but there could also be other reasons, it could be a reaction to soap or cleaning product you are currently using, or it could be and Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), again I would recommend going to you doctor/GP and explain your concerns and get tested as most STI's can be treated. Please get back to us if you still have any further concerns.

0 1Answered by team member Matt 7th July 2011 (edited 14th May 2016)

As far as the itchiness is concerned, you should use a creme called Man1 Man Oil. It is made just for guys who have injured themselves during masturbation or other sex acts. Simply rub it into your penis skin once a day and things will be a lot better. It's a very helpful product. Safe too. You can get it online.

0 0Answered by MikeH (member of the public) 29th November 2016

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Masturbation

does masturbation result in protein loss and effect our body building?

Asked by arka (aged 23) on 29th January 2016 (in Sex) edited by MSH • Views: 453

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The simple answer is no. Spunk does contain a very small amount of protein but tiny compared to the intake of protein in a normal diet. You can masturbate without worry: it will not affect your body building.

0 0Answered by team member Douglas 29th January 2016 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

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Swollen sore penis

My foreskin and the top of my penis are very sore and swollen. My japs eye is wide open. Not caused by sex for certain. Any ideas?

Asked by NA (aged 34) from Ireland on 4th November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 437

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Sperm is not coming from penis while masturbation

hi i am 21 year old. sperm are not coming from penis when i masturbation but when i sleep in bed and when there is erection i rub my penis againsts bed for 4-5 min i got my sperm. whats the promblem why sperm doesn't come when i masturbation? please have me solution

Asked by sam (aged 21) from India on 22nd April 2016 (in Health) • Views: 1043

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Hello i am 24 year old.during erection when i shake my penish for long time dperm doesnot come outside.what should i fo?is it ok or not ok?tell me the solution plzzzzx

2 3Answered by joy (member of the public) 25th April 2016 (edited 27th Jul 2017)

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Pain in panis

Hi Sir, I'm 20 year old i have recently seen my panis is curved to left side and i didn't feel pain before and now today i masturbate and start feeling small amput of pain middle of my panis iam so worried about it i feel like urinate,i didnt feel pain during masturbution or doing urine.my another question is i naver had wet dreams i used to masturbate 3 or 4 times in a week hope you understand my english is not good thankyou.

Asked by Rehan (aged 20) from India on 7th February 2016 (in Health) • Views: 591

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Sorry forgot to fill in a answer. I would see a doctor that deals with penises a urologist would be a good start. Also I would check your balls and make sure there is no lumps in your sack. That is all I can say.

0 0Answered by Dave (member of the public) 9th March 2016

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Penis is not stand

Hi, i just got married 8 months ago. my sex life was very much ok. we intercourse every day with good feelings. Suddenly 4 days ago i realised my Penis is not standing while foreplay. I thought its normal but the next day also same thing happen. its now 4 days my penis is not stand. its not stand even 20 percent. seems no feelings in my Penis. i m worried about it that. Pls suggest me. and let me know is there is any issue.

Asked by Srikant on 29th October 2013 (in Sex) • Views: 89157

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur. Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue. We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.

8 6Answered by team member Matt 1st November 2013 (edited 8th Jun 2016)

When I jack it out and the white thing is about to come out my penis hurts

2 1Answered by Ayaan (member of the public) 29th February 2016 (edited 24th Jun 2016)

To determine whether it is psychological you may want to focus on your train of thought. The only thing that should be in your head is what you are going to do with your partner, the touch and feel. You can get yourself turned on if you are good at picturing things and have a good imagination. Personally I use it both ways, this way I can control my ejaculation mentally. It prevents premature ejaculation and gets you ready faster.

0 0Answered by Kenn (member of the public) 6th July 2016

I may not have clarified enough. If you use the method I mentioned you must be able to think of specific things only. If you think "Am I doing this right?" you have failed already. My girlfriend says she can see it in my eyes clearly when I am focusing my thoughts on this.

1 1Answered by Kenn (member of the public) 6th July 2016 (edited 15th Nov 2016)

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My Penis Foreskin Autoremoved Iam not A muslim Guy

Hello Sir I masturbte First Time When i in class "5th" And I rember The Pain of Penis I cant Touch My penis On that day Coz i felt so "Pain" Bt Now This Days I watch masturbates Videos and Saw The differnce between My Penis " My foreskin Is Removef Means My penis look like a " Cut Penis " Why ?? It Reason of Masturbate in Little Age Or etc ??

Asked by Indian Boy (aged 18) from India on 12th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 238

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Addiction to manstribation and porn

I am a 20 year old guy and is addicted to porn and manstribation. it has become so worse that I eject 3-4 times a day and watching alot of porn. thus I want to stop but it is so difficult. isn't there some medical way that can help me so that I cannot get hard easily and be in the mood everyday for jerking off. please help

Asked by Zandile (aged 20) from Namibia on 7th May 2016 (in Health) • Views: 534

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i have the same problem and what is working on me is simply doing something else... i tend to listen music untill the "mood" goes away, if you can do it it will get easier over time ... well it is for me atleast...

0 0Answered by anonymous member of the public 13th August 2016

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Sperm comes very quickly

When mood comes to me and have sex the sperm comes out with in a min but my penis are tight and in good length

Asked by Hari (aged 20) from India on 12th November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 526

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