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Penis is not Standing got to Soft

Hello I m from pakistan, in my childhood due to watching movies and interest in Sex i had done Alot of HP (Hand practices) and now from passed couple of mouths its near to my Wedding and my dick Even didn't stand from 2,3 months .. So worried what should i do ? and Which Doctor should i see and is there any cure for it.. because i m too worried about it .... Please any one Give some usefull Advice and also like for Ears we go to ENT Doctor, for Teeth we go to dentist so the same for this disease which kind of doctor should i see ??

Asked by anonymous (aged 26) from Pakistan on 19th August 2016 (in Health) • Views: 182

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Evn I have same kind of problem, my penis stand but it's too soft that I face prblm while inserting..??

0 0Answered by Amu (member of the public) 23rd September 2016

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Inability to pass out stools after anal sex.

After having anal sex for the 1st time I feel pain in my lower abdomen while passing out stools and very less stools come out.After passing out thee stools I have a feeling of having deposited stools in my abdomen.Please help!

Asked by Wells (aged 18) from India on 10th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 55

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No erections

No erections, not even excitement or sensation when a woman in room. I've used pumps, was told low t but in all Matters it isn't the low t I was 2.3 and last test was over the threshold with 2.9 .Ive used pumps, patches, rubs, All The pills and not a change now they want me to inject trimix into penis if not have surgery or implant that's about $25, 000 I'm 63 I'm on blood pressure Jed's, lipids after a heart triple by pass in 2000 that's 16 yrs ago I've asked to Be off of mess also on Ssri for anxiety and depression also on Jed's for epilepsy since I was 13. I honestly think mine is Caused by meds and psychological. But they as Drs and urologist says it's physical how can it be when I can't concentrate on making love.and touching her should be exciting and only thing on my mind.

Asked by Peter (aged 63) from Canada on 2nd October 2016 (in Health) • Views: 149

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Soft n lose penis

When I want to have sex with my partner I don't find my penis hard that I could insert it easily, it's too soft n lose all the time, even when I masterbate, it just couldn't stand tight n hard, it was hard b4 but from last couple of years it has become embarrassment with partner

Asked by U (aged 24) from India on 22nd September 2016 (in Health) • Views: 137

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Asked by anonymous (aged 30) from United States on 11th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 71

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Painfull when.partner ejaculates and painful.when inside and coming out lumpy

Asked by anonymous on 4th March 2017 (in Health) • Views: 19

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Spontanous erections... of 24 n virgin. i have a problem of spontanous erection in day time and in night...mostly when i got to bed i got a rock hard boner..some time it feels that iam about to ajaculate but didnt..during this i droped a lot of precum and had a strong urge to masturbate but i didnt.some time when erection does not go away for 1 or 2 hours i go to bathroom and get naked and site on floor and after 2 to 3 mins i got discharged without stimulation or visualized about sex...i dont understand it and it happens from when i hit puberty. i got 3,4 or some time 7,8 wetdreams in one month.i didnt masturbates or 1 time in 2 or 3 months and ejacultes as i above describe which i think it is a sort of masturbation.. plz help and describe my condition

Asked by Engg (aged 24) from Pakistan on 28th August 2016 (in Health) • Views: 158

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No spam after sex

Im age of forty. But i after sex sperm does not come out but i feels its coming out. Its not totally empty. What should i do now

Asked by anonymous (aged 42) from Bangladesh on 11th October 2016 (in Health) • Views: 137

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Weakness by seeking pennis

Hello my name is mohan Verma and I am 18 year old . Please sir as soon as possible give me the answer. Some 1 or 1.5 year from I starting seeking of pennis after I take it is in enjoying and after some year I feel weakness like I do some work I fell weakness , sometimes eye fell heavy,head also.all of this things happened by seeking of pennis.

Asked by Mohan (aged 18) from India on 3rd December 2016 (in Health) • Views: 62

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My penis cant stand properly

Hii my penis cant stand properly. It stand in loose position . I do arm practice since 7 yrs . 1 thing at past 1 yrs i m suffring from TB now its normal plz give solution

Asked by sumit (aged 20) from India on 5th October 2016 (in Health) • Views: 121

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Occasional jelly like seminal discharge and a small lump

I'll keep this brief, but basically I have noticed that after peeing or sometimes just at random my penis may produce jelly like substances that are the same colour as the semen. This is not during any form of sexual act and it has never happened after ejaculation, it is always at a more random time. I have also found a small lump on the left of my groin in the fold between my groin and my leg. I am 17 so this could just be a normal spot but it doesn't share any of the symptoms that I associate with the usual spots, as there is no puss filled rise above the skin like normal, just a small area that has the same kind of hardness as a spot. I feel like I'm worrying about nothing, but even so, I'd like to know everything's okay. Ta!

Asked by Daniel (aged 17) from United Kingdom on 20th December 2016 (in Health) • Views: 74

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Pain in panis

Hi Sir, I'm 20 year old i have recently seen my panis is curved to left side and i didn't feel pain before and now today i masturbate and start feeling small amput of pain middle of my panis iam so worried about it i feel like urinate,i didnt feel pain during masturbution or doing another question is i naver had wet dreams i used to masturbate 3 or 4 times in a week hope you understand my english is not good thankyou.

Asked by Rehan (aged 20) from India on 7th February 2016 (in Health) • Views: 398

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Sorry forgot to fill in a answer. I would see a doctor that deals with penises a urologist would be a good start. Also I would check your balls and make sure there is no lumps in your sack. That is all I can say.

0 0Answered by Dave (member of the public) 9th March 2016

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Water drop during erection and itchy top of penis

thanks for taking your time to read this messege. i have this problem from last many years i would say. whenever i get erection in a minute drops starts coming out of my penis , which firstly effect the erection and i Cum very fast . Also the top end of my penis (Glans) are is gets very itchy which seems to me very serious bcz of that i cant enjoy erection. i did too much masturbation as well.

Asked by shah on 6th July 2011 (in Sex) • Views: 4813

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, not all men get this, and those that do it can vary from just a little leak to a lot, but let me reasure you this is perfectly normall. Pre-cum is a clear fluid that emits from the tip of the penis when a man is sexually aroused, and its purpose is to act as a lubricant (please be aware this can transmit STI, HIV and can contain sperm if you are not using barrier methods such as condoms to have safe sex with). In very rare cases some men over produce this, if this is the case I would discuss with you GP if possible. Regarding the cumming very fast, this could be for various reasons, and I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your pre-cum. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Regarding the itchy end of your penis, if you masturbate too often then yes the penis could become sore, but there could also be other reasons, it could be a reaction to soap or cleaning product you are currently using, or it could be and Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), again I would recommend going to you doctor/GP and explain your concerns and get tested as most STI's can be treated. Please get back to us if you still have any further concerns.

0 1Answered by team member Matt 7th July 2011 (edited 14th May 2016)

As far as the itchiness is concerned, you should use a creme called Man1 Man Oil. It is made just for guys who have injured themselves during masturbation or other sex acts. Simply rub it into your penis skin once a day and things will be a lot better. It's a very helpful product. Safe too. You can get it online.

0 0Answered by MikeH (member of the public) 29th November 2016

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Spot of top of foreskin

15, virgin, flesh coloured spot towards top of foreskin, quite small and very slightly elavated, its been there for a while and is worrying me.....

Asked by Jake (aged 15) on 21st October 2016 (in Health) • Views: 101

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dr. i used to mastribute .. everything was going good.. but few days ago i realized that my dick is not erecting easily as it used to be.. why is this happening .. will it effect my sexual life as i am only 21 year old and unmarried

Asked by dev (aged 21) from India on 22nd November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 113

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Spontaneous ejaculation

When I'm anxious or excited I quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. It can be as simple as a stressful email at work, or if I think I'm going to miss the bus or something. I'm not saying that it happens every time something like that happens, but it does happen quite often, maybe a couple of times a month. I don't have an erection or anything when it happens. It can be quite awkward if I'm talking to someone or something, and I can't get to the toilet in time. This has been happening for years, on and off (I'm 35 now and I think it first happened during my exams, so I think it is more mental than physical). I take a spare pair of boxer shorts to work because of it, it happens so often. This doesn't happen when I have sexual thoughts, but I have a couple of sort of fetishes which can set it off. So, should I be worried? Anything I can do?

Asked by Dave on 10th June 2009 (in Health) • Views: 37780

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Dave, Thanks for coming to us with your concern. This is obviously a serious problem for you, effecting you not only physically, but mentally and no doubt emotionally as well. There are many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand what the cause of spontaneous ejaculation could be, from physical to psychological to stimulation and medication, among other things. Though you've given a description of your problem, there are still many questions to be asked in order to get an idea which direction one would need to look for an answer. Sometimes, these kind of problems can be linked to issues with an enlarged prostate, however, this generally happens to older men, and, as this has been going on since what appears to be your teens, it's probably not likely. Some medications (including antidepressants) can have the side effect of spontaneous ejaculation. It could be something as simple as too much stimulation that you're not aware of. Perhaps if you switched to briefs instead of boxers it might help. It is difficult to advise you with any kind of certainty as to the definate cause. The best course of action is for you to visit your GP who will be able to take a medical history and ask all the necessary questions, before advising you in this case. Hope this helps. Please let us know the outcome, as we are very curious ourselves.

0 1Answered by team member Mara 29th September 2010 (edited 27th Mar 2016)

Ok, thanks for your reply, not sure if I should be flattered or concerned that I seem to be a medical curiosity! I'm not sure if I want to bother a doctor about this, as aside from the embarrassment of describing it face to face it does not seem to be life threatening. I was sort of hoping it was common and only I did not know about it! If I do go to the Doctors and they can tell me exactly what is going on I will let you know.

3 1Answered by Dave (member of the public) 30th September 2010 (edited 17th May 2016)

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Well, we wouldn't call you a medical curiosity, but it would be interesting to know what the underlying cause is, especially in case anyone else came along who suffered the same problem! As for bothering your doctor, don't worry about that, you have a genuine concern. It would be best to have this looked at sooner rather than later. Though the condition may not bother you now, it may become more difficult to cope with as you age. From what you describe, it doesn't seem to show signs of letting up. GP's are used to patients being uncomfortable with discussing certain issues and should handle the situation professionally in a way to put you at ease. Men can be notoriously reluctant to visit medical professionals when it comes to their health... So, it's part of our job to give you a gentle nudge to make that dreaded appointment... We look forward to hearing from you again!

0 0Answered by team member Mara 30th September 2010 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

I am on doxycyclene right now for a testicular infection. upon taking the second pill this morning I had two spontaneous full on orgasms within 15 mins of each other. I have never had this happen before.Maybe you should get checked out.You may have a simple to cure infection.Im going to check with my GP to make sure this is normal.

1 1Answered by steve (member of the public) 18th January 2013 (edited 27th May 2016)

Hi, it's very interesting to read your mail. I also have spontaneous ejacualtions sometimes. They can happen anytime anywhere ... and can be embarrassing too, so I really understand how you feel. I "deal with it" the same way, bring extra underwear and change. I didnt want to ask the Dr as it's not like I'm sick or anything. I?m just trying to get on with it

0 0Answered by Luke (member of the public) 2nd June 2013 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

This sort of thing happens to me too (almost). It's only ever full on happened twice and both times it was when I was rushing to get something done. The first was in 8th grade (yeah...) trying to finish an art project before the bell rang. Luckily it was the end of the day and I had dark pants but it happened again freshman year of high school trying to finish an essay before the bell. It was 2nd period and I was wearing khakis. How there was no stain was a miracle. But every so often when I'm in a situation with high anxiety (performing, pressured situations of waiting, being with a girl I'm not comfortable around) I can feel it about to happen and a little leaks out. I usually dig my nails into my palms, arms, and back of my hands, hoping I can focus on the pain to reduce the feeling of ejaculation. I'm 19 going on 20 now and I want to know how to stop this because it BLOWS.

1 1Answered by Erik (member of the public) 6th August 2013 (edited 10th Apr 2016)

I had the same problem during my teens. My first experience was during exams, the last minute and haven't finished writing. I shot a load on my pants and had to rush to the toilet and deliberately spoil water over my pants to disguise it. Now I'm 40 and never had it since although I have had close encounters.... I thought I was the only one and this its my first tonne I've seek answers about. Unfortunately seemingly there's no medical explanation of the cause.

0 0Answered by Bhutini (member of the public) 13th August 2013 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

Hi, I had this happen to me when I was teenager now 50, but it use to happen to me while taking an exam. During final minutes and I had not finish yet, just the rush of not being done yet and they wher e going to take the tests away from us would make me heave an orgasm. Sometimes more than one. I'll say that it wasn't unpleasant, by the contrary I enjoyed it. It continued during college. Now not anymore since I dont take tests, but I wish I could feel this again. I have searched for other thrills, but nothing compares to the test taking. Just my grain of salt

2 0Answered by Bukake (member of the public) 15th November 2013 (edited 16th Apr 2016)

yes i have had the same problem for years, but much worse, and it has affected my career. I've seen a neurologist about it who said it was similar to premature ejaculation (but it isnt sexually aroused), but there is a new medication out now called silodosin, after a case in Japan. I first had a spontaneous ejaculation at 14 in an exam. No sexual thoughts are involved. After that, all my exams were suspect, and it happened several other times, forcing me to take extra clothes to school. It then spread to public speaking, where i have had to curtail my career. At university i couldnt do any presentations, despite being an able student and good speaker. I am now in my 40s. The problem doesnt respond to efforts to reduce, despite much effot, as i think it acts much like sweating, it is a physical neurological response to a stimuli, usually fear or stress, much like the body responds to heat with sweat. In my view it is not curable once learned. fear or it occurring is enough for it to occur. Fear of ejaculation-causes ejaculation. The medical establishment is not very aware of this problem, but there is a paper about the drug silodosin which someone directed me to, which makes dry ejaculations, which at least stops the wetness and odour.

0 0Answered by thingadonta1 (member of the public) 15th February 2016 (edited 16th Feb 2016)

There are a lot of real stories like yours, with orgasms induced by stress during exams. It is not a medical case, in my humble opinion, it is more a very nice gift of our mind/body while we are in a very difficult situation. It happened to me several times during one or two hours, when I was 11 or 12, being very scarred that my bike was stolen by a friend, who actually asked me to let him have a ride with my new bike. He was gone for 15-20 min, and I started to be very anxious/scared, and suddenly a very pleasurable feeling in my pants, even without erection, gave me a strong orgasm... It was sooo good that I had to touch my penis trying somehow to stop it. And after several more minutes another one came, intense, and another one... countless orgasms, without feeling exhausted as when I cum during masturbation. Finally, when my friend came back with my bike, I was a bit sad that the pleasurable experience stopped. Another story of these non-sexual and non-masturbating orgasms of mine was the intense climax during climbing a pole in the school yard, again at the age of 12 approx. There was no touching of my penis to the pole, no rubbing at all, nit even erection. This was more easy to reproduce, and even tell to my best friends how good it feels if you try to climb the pole several times. Later, when I was around 14, I Climbed again that pole, late in the afternoon, when nobody was looking, and when suddenly the good intense feeling approached, very quickly I took out my penis from the short pants and ejaculated in the air... There was also no erection, no sex thoughts, nothing. Just a pure orgasm coming from nowhere. I believe we are special and lucky to experience such feelings.

0 0Answered by Dan (member of the public) 11th August 2016

Same thing happened to me when I was 14 yo. I am 57 yo male.

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Sperm comes very quickly

When mood comes to me and have sex the sperm comes out with in a min but my penis are tight and in good length

Asked by Hari (aged 20) from India on 12th November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 222

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Erection problem

I mastrubate regular before 8 years ago and before 1-2 years i feels my erection is not maintained during sex and i dont get morning erection or any erection at night when i am foreplay with girl then my erection is occour not very stronger and my age is just 23 and after one educulation not eerect much stronger after an hours refactory time my penis is 12cm i am watching porn during mastrubation any medicine. Work for me as a permanent treatment my testorane level is 426

Asked by Reo (aged 23) from India on 12th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 50

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Penis ejaculate even though didn't do anything

Hi there, I'm 22 and am wondering, recently I discovered that my penis ejaculate even though I didn't do anything to it (This includes masturbating) for the past few days. At home playing games, outside hanging out with friends, going to school, and sometimes it just ejaculate. Is it a sign of unhealthiness?

Asked by Yat (aged 22) from Singapore on 28th January 2016 (in Sex) edited by MSH • Views: 313

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

I think you are talking about a goo called precum which men can produce whenever we are sexually aroused; and this can happen a lot when we are young (even when we don’t realise we are thinking about sex). It is a natural lubricant: sticky and generally clear. This is different from ejaculating which feels much more physical and tends to come in several bursts and is usually a creamy white and can be lumpy. 

If you have had sex with other people and you are leaking a yellowy green pus-like fluid and it stings when you piss (urinate) you may have an infection and you should visit a sexual health clinic or see a doctor.

But from your description I don’t worry that there is anything wrong and it actually shows you are fit and well.

1 0Answered by team member Douglas 29th January 2016 (edited 13th Feb 2016)

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Penis goes soft

i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation

Asked by mr hash on 10th June 2009 (in Sex) • Views: 40116

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health! If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

2 2Answered by team member Mara 11th October 2010 (edited 22nd Nov 2016)

Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!

1 1Answered by michael (member of the public) 12th August 2016 (edited 31st Jan 2017)