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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thank for contacting MSH. If you have not had sex, then its highly unlikely that you have caught and STI's as one sign of an STI is a discharge of fluid from the penis. It could be just pre-cum, this is a natural reaction a fluid the body produces when you are sexually excited, so many produce a lot of it, some only a little and so men not at all. Is this happening when your sexually excited? Or are is fluid just coming out any time of the day? If so it could possibly be a urinary infection that is causing this discharge. You may be best seeing your GP or Doctor about this if it is not pre cum. Please let us know if we can offer any further advice or support.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 14th June 2013 at 10:36

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Sam, thanks for getting in contact with MSH. From what you are describing it sounds like you may be suffering with Phimosis which is medical term for 'Tight Foreskin'. Regarding treatment, it depends if Phimosis is being caused because you were born with it, or if its occurred from an infection. Either way, you need to seek medical advice from your GP/Doctor as if its something you were born with he may prescribe a mild steroid cream to help and encourage you with some foreskin stretching exercises. If its an infection then again a medication will probably be prescribed to take care of this. But you need to maintain good personal hygiene in the mean time, when flaccid that you clean the head of the penis. We hope this has helped, please get back in touch we you need further advice or support.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 13th June 2013 at 11:11

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for contacting Men's Sexual Health. Having a pain on the head of your penis, isn't usually a sign of a STI, Sexually Transmitted Infection, but pain when urinating is. However the fact you are experiencing this pain 2 months after having sex could possibly be an indication that you may have picked something up. Did you wear a condom when you had sex? Condoms over the best form of protection against picking up an STI and HIV. You could possibly have a urinary infection that could be causing this pain. Regardless which it is, we definitely advice you to visit your local GP or Doctor so they can examine you, and provide you with the right course of treatment. Please get back in touch if you need further advice/support.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 12th June 2013 at 16:45

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for contacting MSH. I think in this case it would be wrong of us to guess or speculate what this could be. How long have you noticed it? Have you injured your penis at all? Is it painful day to day, or during sex? I think you are doing the right thing to see your Doctor, but I don't understand why it will take another month, in this case I would try and see someone sooner if at all possible. Sorry we couldn't help you further in this instance.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 10th June 2013 at 13:52

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem with a Q&A is that its not a walk in clinic that we can actually see for ourselfs, not that we do that anyway, so its hard to get across in words, but most times we can offer our advice, but odd occasions we can't for many reasons, and I think this really is one of them. The fact there is no pain, does rule out a few things I thought it could of been, but it would still be wrong to guess what it could be, and the doctors is deff they way forward. If you don't mind, would you be happy to come back to the Q&A and let us know what they think it is when you see your doc? Sorry again

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 10th June 2013 at 20:15 Edited by MSH

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for contacting us. Pre cum is a natural reaction to being sexually aroused, producing this natural lubricant. However not all men produce it, and the men that do, some will produce just a little and some will produce a lot. Try not to be worried or embarrassed by this, as I said it is perfectly natural reaction to being turned on, sexually excited. Obviously it could be difficult to know yourself if you are producing more than most me, as you prob unable to compare or feel comfortable discussing this with other men, but if you have a close male friend maybe discuss this with him and you may be surprised to hear he may too feel the same concern. Or if you feel you are producing too much, have a chat with you doctor or GP and I'm sure he can reassure you. We hope this has put your mind at ease but please get back in touch if you need to.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 7th June 2013 at 10:55

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

I think it is bad enough that it is causing you to have to shower after this happens, you should go to your GP/Doctor to discuss this, as it should be so much that it means you need to clean yourself.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 12th June 2013 at 16:36

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with MSH. Men's penis's come in lots of different shapes and sizes, and when they get erect, again the shape and size will change. Some men they curve up, some to the side left or right, some are straight and some curve down, this usually is what is perfectly normal for that person. However if the curve changes from how its always been, and it is now painful to masturbate or have sex, then this could be an indication of Peyronies Disease, where at some point during sex most likely you have injured your penis and scare tissue has formed and this creates a painful new curve or bend in the penis. But if yours hasn't suddenly changed, isn't painful then its very unlikely to be this, and you just have a naturally curving down penis. The issue is why does this upset you or you think this is a problem? Perhaps talking to your local Doctor would help put your mind at ease and he can examine you to ensure there is nothing wrong with your penis. Please let us know if we can help further.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 30th May 2013 at 12:07

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thanks for contacting MSH. This is a very common question on our Q&A. What you think as small may not be small. Many men would like to increase the size of their penis as penis size is one of the biggest male concerns, nearly all men worry at some stage in their life about the size of their penis. A lot of it can be due to watching porn and seeing how big other men are, but men in porn tend to always be very well hung and that is why they use them in porn. Some men are so unsatisfied it can cause them great distress and make them seek out ways to increase their size. Please ignore any adverts you find on the internet, in magazines or emails claiming to make your penis bigger via any form of pills, you could be putting yourself in more harm and these pills do not work. The only way to change the size of your penis is through surgery and this is extremely risky and could result in you unable to get an erection. The male penis comes in all shapes and sizes, all over the world there are different sizes, for example in India the average size is 4 inches, the UK is 5.5 and the congo in Africa is 7. We are all built differently and never let someone make you feel inadequate with what you have, people fall in love with the person not the penis. There are many different positions you can try with a partner so that you are both sexually satisfied, experiment and see what works best for you. You may benefit from some form of sexual counselling if it is affecting your life a lot, and if you live in Swindon please get in touch as we offer a free counselling service. Regarding pre-ejaculate, if you'd like to look at the question below this one you will find a question from someone who asking the same thing, and technique 4 will also help with you lasting longer. We hope this helps, please get in touch if we can be of any further support.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 23rd May 2013 at 13:00

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello Kevin, thanks for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. Obviously yours in fairly serve case of PE as you cum before stating sex. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob goning to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this skill with your gf. You don't mention how old you are, or if this is the first time its happend, but I'm assuming your fairly young and this is possibly your first time. This is again common with young lads who are overly sexually excited,just the thought of having sex can lead to PE. Please try the method listed above and we hope that helps. Also the penis will naturally lose erection most times after ejaculation, but after a short period of rest time, some men are able to get erect and and will find the second time it takes longer to ejaculate. Please get back in touch if you need to, we hope this has helped.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 22nd May 2013 at 11:44

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us at MSH. Erectile Dysfunction is either a Physiological issue, or a psychological issue. As you have stated, you have looked into the physiological sides and had tests done, so yes from what you have said it does sound more psychological. Some examples of such psychological effects are; Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Be open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If you live in Swindon, we provide a free counselling service, please let us know if you would like to discuss this. I wish I could suggest a more immediate and quicker solution to your problem, but unlike physiological where meds could be prescribed, psychological issues take more time to resolve, and must be resolved for progress of ED to happen. We hope this has helped, if you need further support please do get back in touch.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 21st May 2013 at 14:39

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for contacting MSH. We are sorry to hear you are struggling with your sexuality. You are not alone, people of all ages can find this a really difficult part of their lives. Being gay, bi, lesbian is perfectly normal, but due to many different reasons some struggle with accepting this part of themselves. Do you have a close friend or family member you can confide in, discussing this with someone you trust who can help support you during this struggle will be a big help. If not, and if you live in Swindon you could arrange to talk this through with one of our staff in confidence. We also have a big section dedicated to this on our website at the top menu labbled 'coming out', have a read through of that and hopefully you will find the information listed their useful. Accepting it in yourself is the first step of many, and this can take a long time for some, things will get easier though. Please do get back in touch if you would like futher support from a staff member or if you would like to use our Free counselling service.

Answered by staff member Matt Othold on 20th May 2013 at 11:44