Welcome to our interactive Q&As where you can ask any question that you may feel embarrassed or uneasy to ask anyone else. Please keep topics to areas we work within, e.g sexual health, general health and wellbeing, male health, sexuality, etc.

We try to answer as many questions as we can, but members of the public are also able to offer their solution/advice too, and views are entirely those of the people who post.

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Involuntary / spontaneous orgasms

I'm 16 years old male and I'm very serious about this. When I'm mildly anxious quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. So basically every time I am writing an exam, i wear so much in my pants to hide this now, pants > shorts > underwear. I use to be pretty normal, school ends go to the park and play with friends. Now I cannot enjoy music or watching movies or any other activities as much as I used to. I don?t even care for regular social contact with friends or family anymore. This didn't all mysteriously happen, when I was 14 years old I had to get an appendix surgery, I know this is a very common procedure and happens so many times but after the surgery It was difficult to pee but it eventually got normal and I kept feeling physical arousal at my penis, like hypersensitivity slight movements would trigger it, I didn't really know how to explain it back then so i didn't even mention it. In school one day we had a test, I studied hard for it and there was like one question that i found difficult and my anxiety nerve went up mildy and that mildy made me spontaneous ejaculate. I was so distressed that day and felt so uncomfortable that something like that can happen without any control on my part. I told my dad and we went to an MD, refered to an urologist. The urologist which I waited so many months for said I was normal(do i have to record this for him or what!) yet I still get spontaneous ejaculations and hypersensitivity constantly. This is so embarrassing and i don't know what to do anymore. I also cant do presentation, luckily my doctor sent a document to my school that says i have extreme anxiety that excludes me from doing presentations (i don't but they aren't going to say spontaneous orgasm so im okay with it). What do i do? I came across this while searching i think he explained what happens during a test much better then i did: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/2uwgak/spontaneous_ejaculationorgasm_or_due_to_stress/ it is literally this, i messaged the op but it seems that account is inactive i hope he replies i asked him if he has fixed it somehow. I'm very desperate and i feel the medical system has failed me. My urologist would just lecture me how im at that age where i get "wet dreams and body development" and stuff i already knew. I don't know what else to do? See another doctor? See another urologist? See a psychologist?

Asked by Adrian (aged 16) from Canada
20th March 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation premature ejaculation erection gay testing

Hi, you may read my post (Dan) on a similar topic here:


I think we are lucky!

Apart of the little wet mess in our underwear, there is no need to worry about. Enjoy the nice feeling...

Do you have more than one orgasm during one exam? After you are done (with the pleasure) do you feel ok going to finish the exam?

I also had/have countless wet dreams in which I am dreaming to be at school exams, loosing the train or missing the flight.

Again, I think we are a lucky minority. You may share your story with your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I am sure she/he will get very aroused. It would be the perfect foreplay.

I am also sure that after you will start your sex life with a partner, these exam orgasm will diminish. At least when you will finish your school. You will miss the pleasure...

And I absolutely advise NOT to go to another doctor. You (we) are perfectly normal!

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Answered by Dan
12th August 2016

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Shake penis

I shake my penis one day five time..correct or not

Asked by Rajeswaran (aged 22) from Malaysia
11th April 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis

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Sex problem

Sir I am 18 years old and I release sperms 5 to 6 times in a day daily so I want to know it harmful or not?

Asked by anand (aged 18) from India
13th January 2016 (in Sex)

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Don’t worry it's not harmful: it shows you're young and healthy. You might get a bit sore and tired in time but it's not a problem: just wank/release sperm less if that happens. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
13th January 2016

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Penis goes soft

i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face that.it is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation

Asked by mr hash
10th June 2009 (in Sex)

Tags: penis ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health!

If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

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Answered by team member Mara
11th October 2010

Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!

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Answered by michael
12th August 2016

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Want to sperm more and more

Hi,I have been masterbating since last year but only a few drops of sperm cums out and it comes out too soon.what could be done to increase my sperm count?

Asked by rocky (aged 15) from India
2nd February 2016 (in Other)

Tags: precum ejaculation masturbation gay

Hey guys,I just had sex just few minutes back but what shocked me is I had my 1st and my second round very well but on my third my penis just went dead in the midst of the round.So I want to know if this is normal/its a sickness or what cause am really concerned about it

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Answered by Kick Smack
7th February 2016

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Sperm is not coming from penis while masturbation

hi i am 21 year old. sperm are not coming from penis when i masturbation but when i sleep in bed and when there is erection i rub my penis againsts bed for 4-5 min i got my sperm. whats the promblem why sperm doesn't come when i masturbation? please have me solution

Asked by sam (aged 21) from India
22nd April 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation erection masturbation

Hello i am 24 year old.during erection when i shake my penish for long time dperm doesnot come outside.what should i fo?is it ok or not ok?tell me the solution plzzzzx

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Answered by joy
25th April 2016

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Penis ejaculate even though didn't do anything

Hi there, I'm 22 and am wondering, recently I discovered that my penis ejaculate even though I didn't do anything to it (This includes masturbating) for the past few days. At home playing games, outside hanging out with friends, going to school, and sometimes it just ejaculate. Is it a sign of unhealthiness?

Asked by Yat (aged 22) from Singapore
28th January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: penis ejaculation gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

I think you are talking about a goo called precum which men can produce whenever we are sexually aroused; and this can happen a lot when we are young (even when we don’t realise we are thinking about sex). It is a natural lubricant: sticky and generally clear. This is different from ejaculating which feels much more physical and tends to come in several bursts and is usually a creamy white and can be lumpy. 

If you have had sex with other people and you are leaking a yellowy green pus-like fluid and it stings when you piss (urinate) you may have an infection and you should visit a sexual health clinic or see a doctor.

But from your description I don’t worry that there is anything wrong and it actually shows you are fit and well.

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Answered by team member Douglas
29th January 2016

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Headache during sex

The other day me and mynlady were going at it really hard, right b4 I was about to ejaculate I got a headache so I had to stop. This has happened 4 times. Why do I get headaches

Asked by Alessandro (aged 36) from United States
9th January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

During sex our blood pressure rises, this may be causing your headaches. You should visit your family Doctor and talk to him about getting headaches during sex, if you can’t say sex at least say during strenuous exercise and have your blood pressure checked. You should do this as soon as you can. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

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Pain in panis

Hi Sir, I'm 20 year old i have recently seen my panis is curved to left side and i didn't feel pain before and now today i masturbate and start feeling small amput of pain middle of my panis iam so worried about it i feel like urinate,i didnt feel pain during masturbution or doing urine.my another question is i naver had wet dreams i used to masturbate 3 or 4 times in a week hope you understand my english is not good thankyou.

Asked by Rehan (aged 20) from India
7th February 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis size masturbation gay

Sorry forgot to fill in a answer. I would see a doctor that deals with penises a urologist would be a good start. Also I would check your balls and make sure there is no lumps in your sack. That is all I can say.

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Answered by Dave
9th March 2016

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More blood than semen

Hi i am a 28yr old male that hasnt had sex in almost a year, i have been tested 3 times already for an STD/STI but it always come back negative. All of a sudden tonight my hormones was rising and so i masterbated i actually masterbate often cause thats safer than physical sex but tonight i ejaculated blood and semen, more blood though. What can this be? From a worried man in North Carolina

Asked by Deran (aged 28) from United States
17th December 2015 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds most likely that you may have a condition called "haematospermia". There are a number of causes for this, but in a younger man it isn’t often serious. Leakage of blood into your sperm from small capillaries is the commonest cause. The blood itself can irritate the urethra (pee tube) as you ejaculate, causing some pain.

As you haven't had any recent sexual partners and you have been tested for STIs you really don't need to worry that this could be the cause of your blood.

We cannot tell you if your case is one of the rare ones which might be more serious so it would be a good idea to see your own doctor for a check. Depending on the findings you might need to see a specialist, but if nothing is found and you have had no more than 3 episodes of blood in a month, you will probably not need any treatment. In a man over 40 it is always recommended that you see a doctor for a specialist opinion.

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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016

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My dick

Do the gelationous lumps in my semen limit my sperm count?

Asked by Yoseed (aged 28) from Afghanistan
26th June 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation

Hi my name is ken and am 24 years old. I masturbate about 2-3 times a week just to get penis increase. My penis size currently is about 4.3 inches in length. I really want to grow length and girth and I have tried jelking and penis stretches. I haven't seen a change. I have been doing it for about 3 months with no change. I just get frustrated when I see no change and I rarely want to have sex but my premature ejaculation coupled with my small penis wouldn't allow me enjoy sex .this and more have been my worries until i came in contact with dr.joefel through a friend he had help before and since i contacted him my sex life changed , i grown tremendous increase in my penis and i last longer during sex all thanks to dr.joefel who sent me his herbs which i used for just 3weeks..contact him now and save your self the stress via dr.joefelspiritualtemple@gmail.com or through his company email adonkoherbalmixture@gmail.com you can also call or add him up on whats-app via +2348139452225..thanks

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Answered by kennedy
1st September 2016

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Producing sperms everyday without sex

Doctor iam producing sperms without sex i want to know that if i produce sperms everyday in future any side effects will be faced by me or after marriage i can satisfy my wife or not?

Asked by Puppy (aged 17) from Kuwait
22nd December 2015 (in Health)

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This is quite common, especially in younger men, sometimes it is a bit of precum (a natural lubricant) when you're thinking about sexy things or it can be a full cumming, orgasm / production of sperms. This is totally natural and is nothing to worry about and it will not cause any problems to you later in life. In fact is shows everything is working as it should do in a young man.

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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

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Misty yellow licuid

I was plasering myself and a yellow misty licuid came out So what dose that mean?

Asked by anonymous (aged 11) from France
22nd December 2015 (in Health)

Tags: yellow gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, it sounds like you have just had your first ejaculation. This is totally normal when you pleasure yourself and sounds like everything is working correctly. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
24th December 2015

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Chlamydia, impotence and infertility

hello i am a 29 year old male, lately my libido has diminished as well as my potency has reduced to near impotence. Actually i can hardly have full erection and maintain it long like i used to. However, what worries most is that i could've lived with the horrible chlamydia for more than a year. I am worried to near death that it has turned me impotent as well as infertile. how long is "if left untreated for long"? please do advice me.

Asked by anonymous (aged 29)
25th January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: horny dysfunction erection chlamydia

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, from your message it's clear you need to get checked out for clamydia if for no other reason that to put your mind at rest. Go to your local STD / STI / sexual health clinic (if you're in the UK you can find your closest clinic by following this link) where they will test you and treat you if you have it. If you are in UK you might be able to get a home testing kit with follow-up support.

The general advice seems to be to test each year or change of sexual partner, which would indicate that serious infertility issues take longer to emerge. As you say it has been more than a year you really should get tested.

Impotency does not seem to be associated with chlamydia and it may instead be caused by your worrying: so get tested and treated if necessary, and this will probably help with your libido issues too. Remember also the other things that can affect libido, like smoking, diet, exercise, stress, alcohol and medication. A healthy body helps build a healthy sex life. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
25th January 2016

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HIV infection

I mistakenly sleep with a girl and I wore condom, but I ddint check the expiration date YET the condom is in good shape. Also, my pennis didn't elect at all. I put my penis into her pussy n did the work for about 1 minute. As my penis did not erect I stopped it. Is there any chance I get infected by HIV?

Asked by JD (aged 26) from Cambodia
1st January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: penis penis size sti hiv

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It is very unlikely that you have got infected by HIV, you did everything as safely as possible by using the condom. It sounds like it would be useful for you to practice putting a condom on and wanking / masturbating with a condom as this might help you stay stay erect when using one in the future. If you are still worried about HIV or other sexually transmitted infections you should visit a sexual health clinic or STD clinic. Condoms are often free from clinics too. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

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Trying to conceive

My husband and I are trying to have a baby. We have been trying for 6 months but still no conception. My husband is 35 and I myself am 31. We have realised now however that when he ejaculates his sperm is not actually going inside me because a when he withdraws and pulls back his foreskin the sperm is still sitting around his penis, quite a lot of sperm as well. He believes very little, if any, is actually going inside me. We have tried numerous positions but nothing changes. We're thinking now of applying for IVF treatment but was hoping for an easier and cheaper solution?

Asked by anonymous (aged 31) from United Kingdom
6th January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: foreskin penis ejaculation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds like your husband has a tight foreskin, you say he can pull it back which is good, a little gentle stretching might help with that, below is the advice we gave to another person with a tight foreskin, we hope that helps. 

However, I would be surprised if this is the cause of your lack of conception and your best course of action is to see your GP. There are several tests that need to be done to check your and your husband's fertility and in most to of the UK, fertility and IVF assistance is free, however the amount of assistance does vary across the uk, but your starting point is your GP.

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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

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Penis is not stand

Hi, i just got married 8 months ago. my sex life was very much ok. we intercourse every day with good feelings. Suddenly 4 days ago i realised my Penis is not standing while foreplay. I thought its normal but the next day also same thing happen. its now 4 days my penis is not stand. its not stand even 20 percent. seems no feelings in my Penis. i m worried about it that. Pls suggest me. and let me know is there is any issue.

Asked by Srikant
29th October 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur.

Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue.

We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.

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Answered by team member Matt
1st November 2013

When I jack it out and the white thing is about to come out my penis hurts

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Answered by Ayaan
29th February 2016

To determine whether it is psychological you may want to focus on your train of thought.

The only thing that should be in your head is what you are going to do with your partner, the touch and feel. You can get yourself turned on if you are good at picturing things and have a good imagination.

Personally I use it both ways, this way I can control my ejaculation mentally. It prevents premature ejaculation and gets you ready faster.

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Answered by Kenn
6th July 2016

I may not have clarified enough. If you use the method I mentioned you must be able to think of specific things only. If you think "Am I doing this right?" you have failed already. My girlfriend says she can see it in my eyes clearly when I am focusing my thoughts on this.

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Answered by Kenn
6th July 2016

Which Doctor should we go to for Such Disease Could any one Tell Please ?

Like for tooth we go to Dentist, for ears we go to ENT and Which doctor should we to for such Disease ?

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Answered by Abdullah
19th August 2016

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Pre ejaculation before sex.

Sir, i am 27 and newly married. while doing sex, liquid is coming out and my pennis is losing the temper..because of this, i fell that i dont have better end.

Asked by anonymous
24th February 2016 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation gay


I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure pre ejaculation, so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my pre ejaculation problems.The article was very helpful to me.

If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.html

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Answered by Chris
5th April 2016

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Sperm like water

When i masturbated today,first time in couple of weeks,my sperm was like water,i had sex with my partner last sunday,and am finding it hard to get aroused resently,and its putting a strain on my relationship.

Asked by jason (aged 44) from United Kingdom
10th January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: ejaculation erection masturbation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Everyone goes though these periods and it can be caused by a variety of factors. Firstly talk with your partner and explain this is happening. It's possible life has just got in the way of sex and emotional life and you need to reconnect again; also try focusing on other parts of each others bodies. Try not to let it worry you, its a normal thing, it is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. We hope this helps: let us know if the problems persist, or see your family doctor they can help with physical checks and counselling. 

As to your watery sperm, a persons cum can vary in many ways including volume, thickness and colour and is also affected by your diet and general well being, from your description it does not sound like something to worry about. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure watery sperm and arousal(libido}problem , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my watery sperm problems.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm

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Answered by john
5th April 2016

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Watery fluid coming out of my penis

Sir I am a 20 year old boy. Sir I am suffering from a sexual problem. whenever I walk with my girlfriend or have simple chat with her or when I read a sex related article a watery fluid comes out of my penis. Because of this my bones have become very weak and I feel sleepy. Sir please help me to come out of this problem it is really giving me a tough time.

Asked by anonymous (aged 20) from India
31st January 2016 (in Sex)

Tags: penis gay

Same problem is here ..

Plzz tell me solution.

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Answered by anonymous
1st February 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello the fluid that is coming out of your penis is called precum and is the body's natural lubricant. It is totally normal for a person to have precum when they are with someone they find sexy or read about sexy things. Do not worry, this is not causing you any health problems, in fact it is a very natural and healthy thing to happen. 

If you are feeling tired and weak, look at other aspects of  your life. Are you stressed about work or family? Is your diet worse than it should be? Are you getting enough exercise? These things are more likely to make you feel, weak and sleepy. A few changes to your lifestyle may make you feel a lot better. 

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Answered by team member Douglas
2nd February 2016