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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This can be quite normal when you are not feeling well. Try not to let it worry you and when your feeling better, it will probably be fine again. If problems persist its worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. Message us again if the problems persist.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, it sounds like you have just had your first ejaculation. This is totally normal when you pleasure yourself and sounds like everything is working correctly. 

Answered by team member Douglas
24th December 2015

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This is a totally normal reaction to being with someone you are sexually attracted to. The best way to overcome your embarrassment is to smile and talk to your partners about it. Explain that having an erection doesn’t mean you have to have sex but just shows how much you like them. The only thing that may help reduce your erections is to try and think of something non sexy when you feel an erection coming. 

Answered by team member Douglas
18th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, the things you are experiencing are quite normal and really nothing to worry about though I appreciate thats easier said that done. Sperming (ejaculating) at night is a very common experience for a young man, many have found wanking (masturbating) before going to bed can reduce this. 

One question: do you know if your penis is hard when you sperm in the night? If so it shows everything is functioning ok and that it is not a physical issue when you are sometimes not hard when you are intimate with someone. 

When you are with your partner try to focus on other parts of each others bodies, and build up the excitement so it's more exciting for you. Also talk about your worries with them. Try not to let it worry you: its a normal thing and will soon get better.

It is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. I hope this helps.

Answered by team member Douglas
15th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, this is a totally normal thing to happen and shows that you are healthy and everything is working normally. When we dream our bodies react to the dreams and we can get hard-ons / erections and sometimes ejaculate (sperm comes out) as well. There is nothing to worry about, even if it is sometimes inconvenient. You could try wanking / masturbating before going to sleep this sometimes reduces sperm coming out while you sleep.

Answered by team member Douglas
29th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, from your message it's clear you need to get checked out for clamydia if for no other reason that to put your mind at rest. Go to your local STD / STI / sexual health clinic (if you're in the UK you can find your closest clinic by following this link) where they will test you and treat you if you have it. If you are in UK you might be able to get a home testing kit with follow-up support.

The general advice seems to be to test each year or change of sexual partner, which would indicate that serious infertility issues take longer to emerge. As you say it has been more than a year you really should get tested.

Impotency does not seem to be associated with chlamydia and it may instead be caused by your worrying: so get tested and treated if necessary, and this will probably help with your libido issues too. Remember also the other things that can affect libido, like smoking, diet, exercise, stress, alcohol and medication. A healthy body helps build a healthy sex life. 

Answered by team member Douglas
25th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur.

Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue.

We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.

Answered by team member Matt
1st November 2013

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds most likely that you may have a condition called "haematospermia". There are a number of causes for this, but in a younger man it isn’t often serious. Leakage of blood into your sperm from small capillaries is the commonest cause. The blood itself can irritate the urethra (pee tube) as you ejaculate, causing some pain.

As you haven't had any recent sexual partners and you have been tested for STIs you really don't need to worry that this could be the cause of your blood.

We cannot tell you if your case is one of the rare ones which might be more serious so it would be a good idea to see your own doctor for a check. Depending on the findings you might need to see a specialist, but if nothing is found and you have had no more than 3 episodes of blood in a month, you will probably not need any treatment. In a man over 40 it is always recommended that you see a doctor for a specialist opinion.

Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This is quite common, especially in younger men, sometimes it is a bit of precum (a natural lubricant) when you're thinking about sexy things or it can be a full cumming, orgasm / production of sperms. This is totally natural and is nothing to worry about and it will not cause any problems to you later in life. In fact is shows everything is working as it should do in a young man.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Don’t worry it's not harmful: it shows you're young and healthy. You might get a bit sore and tired in time but it's not a problem: just wank/release sperm less if that happens. 

Answered by team member Douglas
13th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Everyone goes though these periods and it can be caused by a variety of factors. Firstly talk with your partner and explain this is happening. It's possible life has just got in the way of sex and emotional life and you need to reconnect again; also try focusing on other parts of each others bodies. Try not to let it worry you, its a normal thing, it is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. We hope this helps: let us know if the problems persist, or see your family doctor they can help with physical checks and counselling. 

As to your watery sperm, a persons cum can vary in many ways including volume, thickness and colour and is also affected by your diet and general well being, from your description it does not sound like something to worry about. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello the fluid that is coming out of your penis is called precum and is the body's natural lubricant. It is totally normal for a person to have precum when they are with someone they find sexy or read about sexy things. Do not worry, this is not causing you any health problems, in fact it is a very natural and healthy thing to happen. 

If you are feeling tired and weak, look at other aspects of  your life. Are you stressed about work or family? Is your diet worse than it should be? Are you getting enough exercise? These things are more likely to make you feel, weak and sleepy. A few changes to your lifestyle may make you feel a lot better. 

Answered by team member Douglas
2nd February 2016