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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello the fluid that is coming out of your penis is called precum and is the body's natural lubricant. It is totally normal for a person to have precum when they are with someone they find sexy or read about sexy things. Do not worry, this is not causing you any health problems, in fact it is a very natural and healthy thing to happen. 

If you are feeling tired and weak, look at other aspects of  your life. Are you stressed about work or family? Is your diet worse than it should be? Are you getting enough exercise? These things are more likely to make you feel, weak and sleepy. A few changes to your lifestyle may make you feel a lot better. 

Answered by team member Douglas
2nd February 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health!

If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

Answered by team member Mara
11th October 2010

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

During sex our blood pressure rises, this may be causing your headaches. You should visit your family Doctor and talk to him about getting headaches during sex, if you can’t say sex at least say during strenuous exercise and have your blood pressure checked. You should do this as soon as you can. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds like your husband has a tight foreskin, you say he can pull it back which is good, a little gentle stretching might help with that, below is the advice we gave to another person with a tight foreskin, we hope that helps. 

However, I would be surprised if this is the cause of your lack of conception and your best course of action is to see your GP. There are several tests that need to be done to check your and your husband's fertility and in most to of the UK, fertility and IVF assistance is free, however the amount of assistance does vary across the uk, but your starting point is your GP.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, please try not feel alone or shamed, almost every man has had some kind problems with his body and sexual parts. Looking for and getting help is the right thing to do. Every doctor will have see and spoken to men about problems with there penis and anal area, they will help you talk about it and find the right treatment for you. 

I do think you need to visit a doctor or a sexual health clinic if you have them in your area, especially if you have had sex with another person. Please let us know how you get on and what services you find in your area, I am sure others in India would like to learn from your experience too.

Answered by team member Douglas
12th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, It is a little bit difficult to advise you with the information you have given. If this is something new it is probably not a problem and the blood is just from the sex and can happen so don’t worry. If it happens more often then get back to us. I would also think/guess the skin sticking is just from the blood and cum drying out, a gentle wash with soap and water (in a shower or bath if possible) will help it unstick. You should wash under the foreskin every time you wash. I hope this helps.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This is a totally normal reaction to being with someone you are sexually attracted to. The best way to overcome your embarrassment is to smile and talk to your partners about it. Explain that having an erection doesn’t mean you have to have sex but just shows how much you like them. The only thing that may help reduce your erections is to try and think of something non sexy when you feel an erection coming. 

Answered by team member Douglas
18th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This can be quite normal when you are not feeling well. Try not to let it worry you and when your feeling better, it will probably be fine again. If problems persist its worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. Message us again if the problems persist.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This sounds like a function of your sexual organs: the prostate produces liquids, as do the testicles it is most probably from them. You have done the right things by going to your sexual health clinic and being checked for STIs and to your GP. If the problem persists and it continues to worry you it might be worth trying to catch one of these lumps in a clean jam jar and taking it to your GP. Yes, this is much easier said than done!

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The simple answer is no. Spunk does contain a very small amount of protein but tiny compared to the intake of protein in a normal diet. You can masturbate without worry: it will not affect your body building.

Answered by team member Douglas
29th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It is very unlikely that you have got infected by HIV, you did everything as safely as possible by using the condom. It sounds like it would be useful for you to practice putting a condom on and wanking / masturbating with a condom as this might help you stay stay erect when using one in the future. If you are still worried about HIV or other sexually transmitted infections you should visit a sexual health clinic or STD clinic. Condoms are often free from clinics too. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, the things you are experiencing are quite normal and really nothing to worry about though I appreciate thats easier said that done. Sperming (ejaculating) at night is a very common experience for a young man, many have found wanking (masturbating) before going to bed can reduce this. 

One question: do you know if your penis is hard when you sperm in the night? If so it shows everything is functioning ok and that it is not a physical issue when you are sometimes not hard when you are intimate with someone. 

When you are with your partner try to focus on other parts of each others bodies, and build up the excitement so it's more exciting for you. Also talk about your worries with them. Try not to let it worry you: its a normal thing and will soon get better.

It is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. I hope this helps.

Answered by team member Douglas
15th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds most likely that you may have a condition called "haematospermia". There are a number of causes for this, but in a younger man it isn’t often serious. Leakage of blood into your sperm from small capillaries is the commonest cause. The blood itself can irritate the urethra (pee tube) as you ejaculate, causing some pain.

As you haven't had any recent sexual partners and you have been tested for STIs you really don't need to worry that this could be the cause of your blood.

We cannot tell you if your case is one of the rare ones which might be more serious so it would be a good idea to see your own doctor for a check. Depending on the findings you might need to see a specialist, but if nothing is found and you have had no more than 3 episodes of blood in a month, you will probably not need any treatment. In a man over 40 it is always recommended that you see a doctor for a specialist opinion.

Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016