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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Don’t worry it's not harmful: it shows you're young and healthy. You might get a bit sore and tired in time but it's not a problem: just wank/release sperm less if that happens. 

Answered by team member Douglas
13th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health!

If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

Answered by team member Mara
11th October 2010

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

I think you are talking about a goo called precum which men can produce whenever we are sexually aroused; and this can happen a lot when we are young (even when we don’t realise we are thinking about sex). It is a natural lubricant: sticky and generally clear. This is different from ejaculating which feels much more physical and tends to come in several bursts and is usually a creamy white and can be lumpy. 

If you have had sex with other people and you are leaking a yellowy green pus-like fluid and it stings when you piss (urinate) you may have an infection and you should visit a sexual health clinic or see a doctor.

But from your description I don’t worry that there is anything wrong and it actually shows you are fit and well.

Answered by team member Douglas
29th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

During sex our blood pressure rises, this may be causing your headaches. You should visit your family Doctor and talk to him about getting headaches during sex, if you can’t say sex at least say during strenuous exercise and have your blood pressure checked. You should do this as soon as you can. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds most likely that you may have a condition called "haematospermia". There are a number of causes for this, but in a younger man it isn’t often serious. Leakage of blood into your sperm from small capillaries is the commonest cause. The blood itself can irritate the urethra (pee tube) as you ejaculate, causing some pain.

As you haven't had any recent sexual partners and you have been tested for STIs you really don't need to worry that this could be the cause of your blood.

We cannot tell you if your case is one of the rare ones which might be more serious so it would be a good idea to see your own doctor for a check. Depending on the findings you might need to see a specialist, but if nothing is found and you have had no more than 3 episodes of blood in a month, you will probably not need any treatment. In a man over 40 it is always recommended that you see a doctor for a specialist opinion.

Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This is quite common, especially in younger men, sometimes it is a bit of precum (a natural lubricant) when you're thinking about sexy things or it can be a full cumming, orgasm / production of sperms. This is totally natural and is nothing to worry about and it will not cause any problems to you later in life. In fact is shows everything is working as it should do in a young man.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello, it sounds like you have just had your first ejaculation. This is totally normal when you pleasure yourself and sounds like everything is working correctly. 

Answered by team member Douglas
24th December 2015

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, from your message it's clear you need to get checked out for clamydia if for no other reason that to put your mind at rest. Go to your local STD / STI / sexual health clinic (if you're in the UK you can find your closest clinic by following this link) where they will test you and treat you if you have it. If you are in UK you might be able to get a home testing kit with follow-up support.

The general advice seems to be to test each year or change of sexual partner, which would indicate that serious infertility issues take longer to emerge. As you say it has been more than a year you really should get tested.

Impotency does not seem to be associated with chlamydia and it may instead be caused by your worrying: so get tested and treated if necessary, and this will probably help with your libido issues too. Remember also the other things that can affect libido, like smoking, diet, exercise, stress, alcohol and medication. A healthy body helps build a healthy sex life. 

Answered by team member Douglas
25th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It is very unlikely that you have got infected by HIV, you did everything as safely as possible by using the condom. It sounds like it would be useful for you to practice putting a condom on and wanking / masturbating with a condom as this might help you stay stay erect when using one in the future. If you are still worried about HIV or other sexually transmitted infections you should visit a sexual health clinic or STD clinic. Condoms are often free from clinics too. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds like your husband has a tight foreskin, you say he can pull it back which is good, a little gentle stretching might help with that, below is the advice we gave to another person with a tight foreskin, we hope that helps. 

However, I would be surprised if this is the cause of your lack of conception and your best course of action is to see your GP. There are several tests that need to be done to check your and your husband's fertility and in most to of the UK, fertility and IVF assistance is free, however the amount of assistance does vary across the uk, but your starting point is your GP.

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur.

Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue.

We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.

Answered by team member Matt
1st November 2013

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Everyone goes though these periods and it can be caused by a variety of factors. Firstly talk with your partner and explain this is happening. It's possible life has just got in the way of sex and emotional life and you need to reconnect again; also try focusing on other parts of each others bodies. Try not to let it worry you, its a normal thing, it is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. We hope this helps: let us know if the problems persist, or see your family doctor they can help with physical checks and counselling. 

As to your watery sperm, a persons cum can vary in many ways including volume, thickness and colour and is also affected by your diet and general well being, from your description it does not sound like something to worry about. 

Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello the fluid that is coming out of your penis is called precum and is the body's natural lubricant. It is totally normal for a person to have precum when they are with someone they find sexy or read about sexy things. Do not worry, this is not causing you any health problems, in fact it is a very natural and healthy thing to happen. 

If you are feeling tired and weak, look at other aspects of  your life. Are you stressed about work or family? Is your diet worse than it should be? Are you getting enough exercise? These things are more likely to make you feel, weak and sleepy. A few changes to your lifestyle may make you feel a lot better. 

Answered by team member Douglas
2nd February 2016