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i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face that.it is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation
Asked by mr hash
10th June 2009 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health!
If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.
Answered by team member Mara
11th October 2010
Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!
Answered by michael
12th August 2016
Suffering from semen leakage and hair fall
Sir/maam i started masterbating when i was about 11.... I was masterbating once or twice every day and sometimes after a week.. But when i became 14 i started loosing hair and gaining alot of pimples... So i completely stopped it completely or i did it once in 2 months.... I continued this 2 years... But still i was getting night falls... Now I'm 18 pimples are controlled a bit but hair fall is still the same..... I dont talk with girls... Whenever i watch or think about sexual things something water like fluid comes out everytime.... And whenever i masterbate from the next day onwards whenever i poop semen comes out and also whenever i woke up ..... Please help me I'm very worried about I'm losing my self confidence because of this thing and hair loss
Asked by PC (aged 18)
29th May 2016 (in Health)
Hi my name is ken and am 24 years old. I masturbate about 2-3 times a week just to get penis increase. My penis size currently is about 4.3 inches in length. I really want to grow length and girth and I have tried jelking and penis stretches. I haven't seen a change. I have been doing it for about 3 months with no change. I just get frustrated when I see no change and I rarely want to have sex but my premature ejaculation coupled with my small penis wouldn't allow me enjoy sex .this and more have been my worries until i came in contact with dr.joefel through a friend he had help before and since i contacted him my sex life changed , i grown tremendous increase in my penis and i last longer during sex all thanks to dr.joefel who sent me his herbs which i used for just 3weeks..contact him now and save your self the stress via dr.joefelspiritualtemple@gmail.com or through his company email adonkoherbalmixture@gmail.com you can also call or add him up on whats-app via +2348139452225..thanks
Answered by kennedy
1st September 2016
I m noticed from last month tht when m going to do sex with my wife my cock not going hard for long time. After 5 or 6 minutes later its becom down. M not feeling good
Asked by Nick (aged 31) from India
19th December 2015 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
This can be quite normal when you are not feeling well. Try not to let it worry you and when your feeling better, it will probably be fine again. If problems persist its worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. Message us again if the problems persist.
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
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Answered by Jaye
20th March 2016
When I do potty then my genetic material come from my penis
Sir there is a problem occur with my penis is that when I do potty then my genetic material come from my penis. By this problem I feel alone and shame on me. And it's also itching in my penis. And before 2 3 days ago the genetic material come from my anal. And my backbone has also a pain due to this please help me sir
Asked by Bhagat (aged 19) from India
12th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello, please try not feel alone or shamed, almost every man has had some kind problems with his body and sexual parts. Looking for and getting help is the right thing to do. Every doctor will have see and spoken to men about problems with there penis and anal area, they will help you talk about it and find the right treatment for you.
I do think you need to visit a doctor or a sexual health clinic if you have them in your area, especially if you have had sex with another person. Please let us know how you get on and what services you find in your area, I am sure others in India would like to learn from your experience too.
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Answered by team member Douglas
12th January 2016
Lump of clear jelly in urine stream
Hi, For the last year or two, I have had a large lump of clear jelly like substance passing during or at the end of my urine stream. Sometimes it even comes out a few minutes after urinating. I don't experience any pain during urination or ejaculation whatsoever, but am concerned as to what this could be. I have been tested for STIs and I am all clear. I briefly mentioned this to my GP and he didn't think it was anything to worry about, although couldn't give me an explanation either. Any ideas??
Asked by Jim (aged 31) from United Kingdom
1st January 2016 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
This sounds like a function of your sexual organs: the prostate produces liquids, as do the testicles it is most probably from them. You have done the right things by going to your sexual health clinic and being checked for STIs and to your GP. If the problem persists and it continues to worry you it might be worth trying to catch one of these lumps in a clean jam jar and taking it to your GP. Yes, this is much easier said than done!
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
Sir, i am 27 and newly married. while doing sex, liquid is coming out and my pennis is losing the temper..because of this, i fell that i dont have better end.
Asked by anonymous
24th February 2016 (in Health)
Hello,
I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure pre ejaculation, so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my pre ejaculation problems.The article was very helpful to me.
If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.html
Answered by Chris
5th April 2016
Hi i am a 28yr old male that hasnt had sex in almost a year, i have been tested 3 times already for an STD/STI but it always come back negative. All of a sudden tonight my hormones was rising and so i masterbated i actually masterbate often cause thats safer than physical sex but tonight i ejaculated blood and semen, more blood though. What can this be? From a worried man in North Carolina
Asked by Deran (aged 28) from United States
17th December 2015 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
It sounds most likely that you may have a condition called "haematospermia". There are a number of causes for this, but in a younger man it isn’t often serious. Leakage of blood into your sperm from small capillaries is the commonest cause. The blood itself can irritate the urethra (pee tube) as you ejaculate, causing some pain.
As you haven't had any recent sexual partners and you have been tested for STIs you really don't need to worry that this could be the cause of your blood.
We cannot tell you if your case is one of the rare ones which might be more serious so it would be a good idea to see your own doctor for a check. Depending on the findings you might need to see a specialist, but if nothing is found and you have had no more than 3 episodes of blood in a month, you will probably not need any treatment. In a man over 40 it is always recommended that you see a doctor for a specialist opinion.
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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016
The other day me and mynlady were going at it really hard, right b4 I was about to ejaculate I got a headache so I had to stop. This has happened 4 times. Why do I get headaches
Asked by Alessandro (aged 36) from United States
9th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
During sex our blood pressure rises, this may be causing your headaches. You should visit your family Doctor and talk to him about getting headaches during sex, if you can’t say sex at least say during strenuous exercise and have your blood pressure checked. You should do this as soon as you can.
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
Penis is not standing himself or hard its so soft.
I have over night sperming problem for long time. I also use for intimate for many time at a time 3 turns continues but its now cannot open or stand hard. Im worries
Asked by shan (aged 23) from Pakistan
13th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello, the things you are experiencing are quite normal and really nothing to worry about though I appreciate thats easier said that done. Sperming (ejaculating) at night is a very common experience for a young man, many have found wanking (masturbating) before going to bed can reduce this.
One question: do you know if your penis is hard when you sperm in the night? If so it shows everything is functioning ok and that it is not a physical issue when you are sometimes not hard when you are intimate with someone.
When you are with your partner try to focus on other parts of each others bodies, and build up the excitement so it's more exciting for you. Also talk about your worries with them. Try not to let it worry you: its a normal thing and will soon get better.
It is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. I hope this helps.
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Answered by team member Douglas
15th January 2016
Sir I am 18 years old and I release sperms 5 to 6 times in a day daily so I want to know it harmful or not?
Asked by anand (aged 18) from India
13th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Don’t worry it's not harmful: it shows you're young and healthy. You might get a bit sore and tired in time but it's not a problem: just wank/release sperm less if that happens.
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Answered by team member Douglas
13th January 2016
When i masturbated today,first time in couple of weeks,my sperm was like water,i had sex with my partner last sunday,and am finding it hard to get aroused resently,and its putting a strain on my relationship.
Asked by jason (aged 44) from United Kingdom
10th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Everyone goes though these periods and it can be caused by a variety of factors. Firstly talk with your partner and explain this is happening. It's possible life has just got in the way of sex and emotional life and you need to reconnect again; also try focusing on other parts of each others bodies. Try not to let it worry you, its a normal thing, it is worth looking at your diet, drinking, exercise and stress levels. We need a healthy and fit body to have the best from sex too. See our section with tips of how to manage your health. We hope this helps: let us know if the problems persist, or see your family doctor they can help with physical checks and counselling.
As to your watery sperm, a persons cum can vary in many ways including volume, thickness and colour and is also affected by your diet and general well being, from your description it does not sound like something to worry about.
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure watery sperm and arousal(libido}problem , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my watery sperm problems.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm
0 0Answered by john
5th April 2016
Producing sperms everyday without sex
Doctor iam producing sperms without sex i want to know that if i produce sperms everyday in future any side effects will be faced by me or after marriage i can satisfy my wife or not?
Asked by Puppy (aged 17) from Kuwait
22nd December 2015 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
This is quite common, especially in younger men, sometimes it is a bit of precum (a natural lubricant) when you're thinking about sexy things or it can be a full cumming, orgasm / production of sperms. This is totally natural and is nothing to worry about and it will not cause any problems to you later in life. In fact is shows everything is working as it should do in a young man.
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
When I'm anxious or excited I quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. It can be as simple as a stressful email at work, or if I think I'm going to miss the bus or something. I'm not saying that it happens every time something like that happens, but it does happen quite often, maybe a couple of times a month. I don't have an erection or anything when it happens. It can be quite awkward if I'm talking to someone or something, and I can't get to the toilet in time. This has been happening for years, on and off (I'm 35 now and I think it first happened during my exams, so I think it is more mental than physical). I take a spare pair of boxer shorts to work because of it, it happens so often. This doesn't happen when I have sexual thoughts, but I have a couple of sort of fetishes which can set it off. So, should I be worried? Anything I can do?
Asked by Dave
10th June 2009 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi Dave,
Thanks for coming to us with your concern. This is obviously a serious problem for you, effecting you not only physically, but mentally and no doubt emotionally as well. There are many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand what the cause of spontaneous ejaculation could be, from physical to psychological to stimulation and medication, among other things. Though you've given a description of your problem, there are still many questions to be asked in order to get an idea which direction one would need to look for an answer.
Sometimes, these kind of problems can be linked to issues with an enlarged prostate, however, this generally happens to older men, and, as this has been going on since what appears to be your teens, it's probably not likely. Some medications (including antidepressants) can have the side effect of spontaneous ejaculation. It could be something as simple as too much stimulation that you're not aware of. Perhaps if you switched to briefs instead of boxers it might help. It is difficult to advise you with any kind of certainty as to the definate cause. The best course of action is for you to visit your GP who will be able to take a medical history and ask all the necessary questions, before advising you in this case. Hope this helps. Please let us know the outcome, as we are very curious ourselves.
Answered by team member Mara
29th September 2010
Ok, thanks for your reply, not sure if I should be flattered or concerned that I seem to be a medical curiosity! I'm not sure if I want to bother a doctor about this, as aside from the embarrassment of describing it face to face it does not seem to be life threatening. I was sort of hoping it was common and only I did not know about it! If I do go to the Doctors and they can tell me exactly what is going on I will let you know.
3 1Answered by Dave
30th September 2010
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Well, we wouldn't call you a medical curiosity, but it would be interesting to know what the underlying cause is, especially in case anyone else came along who suffered the same problem! As for bothering your doctor, don't worry about that, you have a genuine concern. It would be best to have this looked at sooner rather than later. Though the condition may not bother you now, it may become more difficult to cope with as you age. From what you describe, it doesn't seem to show signs of letting up. GP's are used to patients being uncomfortable with discussing certain issues and should handle the situation professionally in a way to put you at ease. Men can be notoriously reluctant to visit medical professionals when it comes to their health... So, it's part of our job to give you a gentle nudge to make that dreaded appointment... We look forward to hearing from you again!
0 0Answered by team member Mara
30th September 2010
I am on doxycyclene right now for a testicular infection. upon taking the second pill this morning I had two spontaneous full on orgasms within 15 mins of each other. I have never had this happen before.Maybe you should get checked out.You may have a simple to cure infection.Im going to check with my GP to make sure this is normal.
1 1Answered by steve
18th January 2013
Hi, it's very interesting to read your mail. I also have spontaneous ejacualtions sometimes. They can happen anytime anywhere ... and can be embarrassing too, so I really understand how you feel. I "deal with it" the same way, bring extra underwear and change. I didnt want to ask the Dr as it's not like I'm sick or anything. I?m just trying to get on with it
0 0Answered by Luke
2nd June 2013
This sort of thing happens to me too (almost). It's only ever full on happened twice and both times it was when I was rushing to get something done. The first was in 8th grade (yeah...) trying to finish an art project before the bell rang. Luckily it was the end of the day and I had dark pants but it happened again freshman year of high school trying to finish an essay before the bell. It was 2nd period and I was wearing khakis. How there was no stain was a miracle. But every so often when I'm in a situation with high anxiety (performing, pressured situations of waiting, being with a girl I'm not comfortable around) I can feel it about to happen and a little leaks out. I usually dig my nails into my palms, arms, and back of my hands, hoping I can focus on the pain to reduce the feeling of ejaculation. I'm 19 going on 20 now and I want to know how to stop this because it BLOWS.
1 1Answered by Erik
6th August 2013
I had the same problem during my teens. My first experience was during exams, the last minute and haven't finished writing. I shot a load on my pants and had to rush to the toilet and deliberately spoil water over my pants to disguise it. Now I'm 40 and never had it since although I have had close encounters.... I thought I was the only one and this its my first tonne I've seek answers about. Unfortunately seemingly there's no medical explanation of the cause.
0 0Answered by Bhutini
13th August 2013
Hi, I had this happen to me when I was teenager now 50, but it use to happen to me while taking an exam. During final minutes and I had not finish yet, just the rush of not being done yet and they wher e going to take the tests away from us would make me heave an orgasm. Sometimes more than one. I'll say that it wasn't unpleasant, by the contrary I enjoyed it. It continued during college. Now not anymore since I dont take tests, but I wish I could feel this again. I have searched for other thrills, but nothing compares to the test taking. Just my grain of salt
2 0Answered by Bukake
15th November 2013
yes i have had the same problem for years, but much worse, and it has
affected my career. I've seen a neurologist about it who said it was
similar to premature ejaculation (but it isnt sexually aroused), but
there is a new medication out now called silodosin, after a case in
Japan.
I first had a spontaneous ejaculation at 14 in an exam. No sexual
thoughts are involved. After that, all my exams were suspect, and it
happened several other times, forcing me to take extra clothes to
school. It then spread to public speaking, where i have had to curtail
my career. At university i couldnt do any presentations, despite being
an able student and good speaker. I am now in my 40s.
The problem doesnt respond to efforts to reduce, despite much effot,
as i think it acts much like sweating, it is a physical neurological
response to a stimuli, usually fear or stress, much like the body
responds to heat with sweat. In my view it is not curable once
learned. fear or it occurring is enough for it to occur. Fear of
ejaculation-causes ejaculation.
The medical establishment is not very aware of this problem, but there
is a paper about the drug silodosin which someone directed me to,
which makes dry ejaculations, which at least stops the wetness and
odour.
Answered by thingadonta1
15th February 2016
There are a lot of real stories like yours, with orgasms induced by stress during exams. It is not a medical case, in my humble opinion, it is more a very nice gift of our mind/body while we are in a very difficult situation.
It happened to me several times during one or two hours, when I was 11 or 12, being very scarred that my bike was stolen by a friend, who actually asked me to let him have a ride with my new bike. He was gone for 15-20 min, and I started to be very anxious/scared, and suddenly a very pleasurable feeling in my pants, even without erection, gave me a strong orgasm... It was sooo good that I had to touch my penis trying somehow to stop it. And after several more minutes another one came, intense, and another one... countless orgasms, without feeling exhausted as when I cum during masturbation. Finally, when my friend came back with my bike, I was a bit sad that the pleasurable experience stopped.
Another story of these non-sexual and non-masturbating orgasms of mine was the intense climax during climbing a pole in the school yard, again at the age of 12 approx. There was no touching of my penis to the pole, no rubbing at all, nit even erection. This was more easy to reproduce, and even tell to my best friends how good it feels if you try to climb the pole several times. Later, when I was around 14, I Climbed again that pole, late in the afternoon, when nobody was looking, and when suddenly the good intense feeling approached, very quickly I took out my penis from the short pants and ejaculated in the air...
There was also no erection, no sex thoughts, nothing. Just a pure orgasm coming from nowhere.
I believe we are special and lucky to experience such feelings.
Answered by Dan
11th August 2016
Same thing happened to me when I was 14 yo. I am 57 yo male.
0 0Answered by anonymous
10th September 2016
Do the gelationous lumps in my semen limit my sperm count?
Asked by Yoseed (aged 28) from Afghanistan
26th June 2016 (in Health)
Hi my name is ken and am 24 years old. I masturbate about 2-3 times a week just to get penis increase. My penis size currently is about 4.3 inches in length. I really want to grow length and girth and I have tried jelking and penis stretches. I haven't seen a change. I have been doing it for about 3 months with no change. I just get frustrated when I see no change and I rarely want to have sex but my premature ejaculation coupled with my small penis wouldn't allow me enjoy sex .this and more have been my worries until i came in contact with dr.joefel through a friend he had help before and since i contacted him my sex life changed , i grown tremendous increase in my penis and i last longer during sex all thanks to dr.joefel who sent me his herbs which i used for just 3weeks..contact him now and save your self the stress via dr.joefelspiritualtemple@gmail.com or through his company email adonkoherbalmixture@gmail.com you can also call or add him up on whats-app via +2348139452225..thanks
Answered by kennedy
1st September 2016
Masturbation from a long time ago
I am 25 years old weight 134 kg height 6 ft I think I m masturbating when I was 12 years old now I feel very tired after it I remain flaccid all time is I have loose my sex power ns what should I do to make myself strong fr sex
Asked by anonymous
18th March 2016 (in Health)
Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure tiredness, low sex drive , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my sexual problems and got my groove back.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm
0 0Answered by nappy guy
5th April 2016
Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure tiredness, low sex drive , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my sexual problems and got my groove back.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm
0 0Answered by nappy guy
5th April 2016
Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure tiredness, low sex drive , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my sexual problems and got my groove back.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm
0 0Answered by nappy guy
5th April 2016
Hello, I was in the same boat as you about six month ago.i began to search for a solution I had no idea what to believe online because everything seems to be an advertisement.I actually read a personal review about Vigrx plus for male enhancement and sexual dysfunction solution product and it seemed like the person had a great success using the product to cure tiredness, low sex drive , so i gave it a try. I couldn't have been more excited about the results as it totally eliminated my sexual problems and got my groove back.The article was very helpful to me. If you want to check the it out yourself you can read it here http://www.monthdiet.com/2016/04/how-to-get-big-dick-vigrx-plus-review_3.htm
0 1Answered by nappy guy
5th April 2016
Penis gets erects too quickly...
I am 24 years old Bisexual adult. Whenever I sleep beside boyfriend or girlfriend my penis gets erects too quickly OR whenever cuddle each other my penis rises too fast. This is very embarrassing. How can I control this erection?
Asked by Dan (aged 24) from Pakistan
15th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
This is a totally normal reaction to being with someone you are sexually attracted to. The best way to overcome your embarrassment is to smile and talk to your partners about it. Explain that having an erection doesn’t mean you have to have sex but just shows how much you like them. The only thing that may help reduce your erections is to try and think of something non sexy when you feel an erection coming.
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Answered by team member Douglas
18th January 2016
My husband and I are trying to have a baby. We have been trying for 6 months but still no conception. My husband is 35 and I myself am 31. We have realised now however that when he ejaculates his sperm is not actually going inside me because a when he withdraws and pulls back his foreskin the sperm is still sitting around his penis, quite a lot of sperm as well. He believes very little, if any, is actually going inside me. We have tried numerous positions but nothing changes. We're thinking now of applying for IVF treatment but was hoping for an easier and cheaper solution?
Asked by anonymous (aged 31) from United Kingdom
6th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
It sounds like your husband has a tight foreskin, you say he can pull it back which is good, a little gentle stretching might help with that, below is the advice we gave to another person with a tight foreskin, we hope that helps.
However, I would be surprised if this is the cause of your lack of conception and your best course of action is to see your GP. There are several tests that need to be done to check your and your husband's fertility and in most to of the UK, fertility and IVF assistance is free, however the amount of assistance does vary across the uk, but your starting point is your GP.
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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016
My penis gets errect at night and ejects sperm
When ever am in deep sleep my penis gets errects and sperm comes out
Asked by Ritesh (aged 28) from India
28th January 2016 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi, this is a totally normal thing to happen and shows that you are healthy and everything is working normally. When we dream our bodies react to the dreams and we can get hard-ons / erections and sometimes ejaculate (sperm comes out) as well. There is nothing to worry about, even if it is sometimes inconvenient. You could try wanking / masturbating before going to sleep this sometimes reduces sperm coming out while you sleep.
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Answered by team member Douglas
29th January 2016
Addiction to manstribation and porn
I am a 20 year old guy and is addicted to porn and manstribation. it has become so worse that I eject 3-4 times a day and watching alot of porn. thus I want to stop but it is so difficult. isn't there some medical way that can help me so that I cannot get hard easily and be in the mood everyday for jerking off. please help
Asked by Zandile (aged 20) from Namibia
7th May 2016 (in Health)
i have the same problem and what is working on me is simply doing something else... i tend to listen music untill the "mood" goes away, if you can do it it will get easier over time ... well it is for me atleast...
0 0Answered by anonymous
13th August 2016
Hi, i just got married 8 months ago. my sex life was very much ok. we intercourse every day with good feelings. Suddenly 4 days ago i realised my Penis is not standing while foreplay. I thought its normal but the next day also same thing happen. its now 4 days my penis is not stand. its not stand even 20 percent. seems no feelings in my Penis. i m worried about it that. Pls suggest me. and let me know is there is any issue.
Asked by Srikant
29th October 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur.
Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue.
We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.
Answered by team member Matt
1st November 2013
When I jack it out and the white thing is about to come out my penis hurts
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29th February 2016
To determine whether it is psychological you may want to focus on your train of thought.
The only thing that should be in your head is what you are going to do with your partner, the touch and feel. You can get yourself turned on if you are good at picturing things and have a good imagination.
Personally I use it both ways, this way I can control my ejaculation mentally. It prevents premature ejaculation and gets you ready faster.
Answered by Kenn
6th July 2016
I may not have clarified enough. If you use the method I mentioned you must be able to think of specific things only. If you think "Am I doing this right?" you have failed already. My girlfriend says she can see it in my eyes clearly when I am focusing my thoughts on this.
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6th July 2016
Which Doctor should we go to for Such Disease Could any one Tell Please ?
Like for tooth we go to Dentist, for ears we go to ENT and Which doctor should we to for such Disease ?
Answered by Abdullah
19th August 2016