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Involuntary / spontaneous orgasms
I'm 16 years old male and I'm very serious about this. When I'm mildly anxious quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. So basically every time I am writing an exam, i wear so much in my pants to hide this now, pants > shorts > underwear. I use to be pretty normal, school ends go to the park and play with friends. Now I cannot enjoy music or watching movies or any other activities as much as I used to. I don?t even care for regular social contact with friends or family anymore. This didn't all mysteriously happen, when I was 14 years old I had to get an appendix surgery, I know this is a very common procedure and happens so many times but after the surgery It was difficult to pee but it eventually got normal and I kept feeling physical arousal at my penis, like hypersensitivity slight movements would trigger it, I didn't really know how to explain it back then so i didn't even mention it. In school one day we had a test, I studied hard for it and there was like one question that i found difficult and my anxiety nerve went up mildy and that mildy made me spontaneous ejaculate. I was so distressed that day and felt so uncomfortable that something like that can happen without any control on my part. I told my dad and we went to an MD, refered to an urologist. The urologist which I waited so many months for said I was normal(do i have to record this for him or what!) yet I still get spontaneous ejaculations and hypersensitivity constantly. This is so embarrassing and i don't know what to do anymore. I also cant do presentation, luckily my doctor sent a document to my school that says i have extreme anxiety that excludes me from doing presentations (i don't but they aren't going to say spontaneous orgasm so im okay with it). What do i do? I came across this while searching i think he explained what happens during a test much better then i did: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/2uwgak/spontaneous_ejaculationorgasm_or_due_to_stress/ it is literally this, i messaged the op but it seems that account is inactive i hope he replies i asked him if he has fixed it somehow. I'm very desperate and i feel the medical system has failed me. My urologist would just lecture me how im at that age where i get "wet dreams and body development" and stuff i already knew. I don't know what else to do? See another doctor? See another urologist? See a psychologist?
Asked by Adrian (aged 16) from Canada on 20th March 2016 (in Health) • Views: 1901
Hi, you may read my post (Dan) on a similar topic here: http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/qa/question/spontaneous-ejaculation/ I think we are lucky! Apart of the little wet mess in our underwear, there is no need to worry about. Enjoy the nice feeling... Do you have more than one orgasm during one exam? After you are done (with the pleasure) do you feel ok going to finish the exam? I also had/have countless wet dreams in which I am dreaming to be at school exams, loosing the train or missing the flight. Again, I think we are a lucky minority. You may share your story with your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I am sure she/he will get very aroused. It would be the perfect foreplay. I am also sure that after you will start your sex life with a partner, these exam orgasm will diminish. At least when you will finish your school. You will miss the pleasure... And I absolutely advise NOT to go to another doctor. You (we) are perfectly normal!
0 0Answered by Dan (member of the public) 12th August 2016
Inability to pass out stools after anal sex.
After having anal sex for the 1st time I feel pain in my lower abdomen while passing out stools and very less stools come out.After passing out thee stools I have a feeling of having deposited stools in my abdomen.Please help!
Asked by Wells (aged 18) from India on 10th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 146
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When a male chastity device is worn and sex or orgasm is denied, how often should milking be performed.
Asked by anonymous on 4th September 2011 (in Sex) • Views: 3256
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
To keep the prostate healthy it is reccommended that at least once a week you should milk the prostate gland to allow the seminal fluids to drain through the penis - effectively pre-ejaculatory fluids - if left alone too long could develop bacteria and cause health issues.
0 0Answered by team member Matt 5th September 2011 (edited 13th Feb 2016)
Thank you for the reply and I will take that advice seriously, It's one thing to be put in chastity for sexual gratification, and to finish up with health issues would not be good. What are the health issues if your advice was ignored, I won't be ignoring your advice but would like to learn more, just for interest and i could also pass the information on to other chastity wearers I know.
0 0Answered by anonymous member of the public 6th September 2011 (edited 13th Feb 2016)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Regarding the cleaning, a variety of bacterial infections could occur, including yeast infections, uriniary tract problems, which can lead to kindey infections, and the build up of smegma (the white substance) if not cleared away and cleaned could possibly lead to balanitis, this can depend of course if you are circumsised or not. Regarding the prostate, research has shown that having ejaculations reduces the risk of developing prostate cancer, if you look at our news item on the front page, prostate cancer is the most common form of cancer in Men. I hope this has helped inform you and others more. So long as you do clean the penis and milk the prostate, male chastity should be harmless.
0 0Answered by team member Matt 7th September 2011 (edited 13th Feb 2016)
I have a problem when I talk my girlfriend by mobile my peins small drop sperm small small drop always when I talk by phone. Plz tell me what should I do...I am worried about it....
1 0Answered by Tanveer (member of the public) 6th October 2016 (edited 13th Oct 2016)
My age is15 years i adapted to doing masterrubation
Asked by anonymous on 3rd May 2017 (in Health) • Views: 62
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Penis ejaculate even though didn't do anything
Hi there, I'm 22 and am wondering, recently I discovered that my penis ejaculate even though I didn't do anything to it (This includes masturbating) for the past few days. At home playing games, outside hanging out with friends, going to school, and sometimes it just ejaculate. Is it a sign of unhealthiness?
Asked by Yat (aged 22) from Singapore on 28th January 2016 (in Sex) edited by MSH • Views: 399
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
I think you are talking about a goo called precum which men can produce whenever we are sexually aroused; and this can happen a lot when we are young (even when we don’t realise we are thinking about sex). It is a natural lubricant: sticky and generally clear. This is different from ejaculating which feels much more physical and tends to come in several bursts and is usually a creamy white and can be lumpy.
If you have had sex with other people and you are leaking a yellowy green pus-like fluid and it stings when you piss (urinate) you may have an infection and you should visit a sexual health clinic or see a doctor.
But from your description I don’t worry that there is anything wrong and it actually shows you are fit and well.
1 0Answered by team member Douglas 29th January 2016 (edited 13th Feb 2016)
Water drop during erection and itchy top of penis
thanks for taking your time to read this messege. i have this problem from last many years i would say. whenever i get erection in a minute drops starts coming out of my penis , which firstly effect the erection and i Cum very fast . Also the top end of my penis (Glans) are is gets very itchy which seems to me very serious bcz of that i cant enjoy erection. i did too much masturbation as well.
Asked by shah on 6th July 2011 (in Sex) • Views: 5653
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, not all men get this, and those that do it can vary from just a little leak to a lot, but let me reasure you this is perfectly normall. Pre-cum is a clear fluid that emits from the tip of the penis when a man is sexually aroused, and its purpose is to act as a lubricant (please be aware this can transmit STI, HIV and can contain sperm if you are not using barrier methods such as condoms to have safe sex with). In very rare cases some men over produce this, if this is the case I would discuss with you GP if possible. Regarding the cumming very fast, this could be for various reasons, and I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your pre-cum. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Regarding the itchy end of your penis, if you masturbate too often then yes the penis could become sore, but there could also be other reasons, it could be a reaction to soap or cleaning product you are currently using, or it could be and Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), again I would recommend going to you doctor/GP and explain your concerns and get tested as most STI's can be treated. Please get back to us if you still have any further concerns.
0 1Answered by team member Matt 7th July 2011 (edited 14th May 2016)
As far as the itchiness is concerned, you should use a creme called Man1 Man Oil. It is made just for guys who have injured themselves during masturbation or other sex acts. Simply rub it into your penis skin once a day and things will be a lot better. It's a very helpful product. Safe too. You can get it online.
0 0Answered by MikeH (member of the public) 29th November 2016
dr. i used to mastribute .. everything was going good.. but few days ago i realized that my dick is not erecting easily as it used to be.. why is this happening .. will it effect my sexual life as i am only 21 year old and unmarried
Asked by dev (aged 21) from India on 22nd November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 201
I am male and why my mouth start to watering when I see women giving blowjob?
Asked by anonymous on 25th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 125
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Hii my penis cant stand properly. It stand in loose position . I do arm practice since 7 yrs . 1 thing at past 1 yrs i m suffring from TB now its normal plz give solution
Asked by sumit (aged 20) from India on 5th October 2016 (in Health) • Views: 214
Asked by anonymous on 12th April 2017 (in Sex) • Views: 109
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When I want to have sex with my partner I don't find my penis hard that I could insert it easily, it's too soft n lose all the time, even when I masterbate, it just couldn't stand tight n hard, it was hard b4 but from last couple of years it has become embarrassment with partner
Asked by U (aged 24) from India on 22nd September 2016 (in Health) • Views: 219
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i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face that.it is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation
Asked by mr hash on 10th June 2009 (in Sex) • Views: 47161
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health! If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.
2 2Answered by team member Mara 11th October 2010 (edited 22nd Nov 2016)
Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!
2 2Answered by michael (member of the public) 12th August 2016 (edited 2nd Jul 2017)
Penis is not Standing got to Soft
Hello I m from pakistan, in my childhood due to watching movies and interest in Sex i had done Alot of HP (Hand practices) and now from passed couple of mouths its near to my Wedding and my dick Even didn't stand from 2,3 months .. So worried what should i do ? and Which Doctor should i see and is there any cure for it.. because i m too worried about it .... Please any one Give some usefull Advice and also like for Ears we go to ENT Doctor, for Teeth we go to dentist so the same for this disease which kind of doctor should i see ??
Asked by anonymous (aged 26) from Pakistan on 19th August 2016 (in Health) • Views: 282
Evn I have same kind of problem, my penis stand but it's too soft that I face prblm while inserting..??
0 0Answered by Amu (member of the public) 23rd September 2016
When mood comes to me and have sex the sperm comes out with in a min but my penis are tight and in good length
Asked by Hari (aged 20) from India on 12th November 2016 (in Health) • Views: 433
Hi Sir, I'm 20 year old i have recently seen my panis is curved to left side and i didn't feel pain before and now today i masturbate and start feeling small amput of pain middle of my panis iam so worried about it i feel like urinate,i didnt feel pain during masturbution or doing urine.my another question is i naver had wet dreams i used to masturbate 3 or 4 times in a week hope you understand my english is not good thankyou.
Asked by Rehan (aged 20) from India on 7th February 2016 (in Health) • Views: 525
Sorry forgot to fill in a answer. I would see a doctor that deals with penises a urologist would be a good start. Also I would check your balls and make sure there is no lumps in your sack. That is all I can say.
0 0Answered by Dave (member of the public) 9th March 2016
Addiction to manstribation and porn
I am a 20 year old guy and is addicted to porn and manstribation. it has become so worse that I eject 3-4 times a day and watching alot of porn. thus I want to stop but it is so difficult. isn't there some medical way that can help me so that I cannot get hard easily and be in the mood everyday for jerking off. please help
Asked by Zandile (aged 20) from Namibia on 7th May 2016 (in Health) • Views: 458
i have the same problem and what is working on me is simply doing something else... i tend to listen music untill the "mood" goes away, if you can do it it will get easier over time ... well it is for me atleast...
0 0Answered by anonymous member of the public 13th August 2016
My penis not stand suddanly after 4 days how to treat it?
Asked by anonymous on 9th April 2017 (in Health) • Views: 93
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Hi I noticed that there is some solid yellow things in my semen , even when i mastirbutemore time thr number of these part grows,
Asked by Karim (aged 24) from United Kingdom on 24th May 2017 (in Health) • Views: 51
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Asked by anonymous (aged 30) from United States on 11th January 2017 (in Health) • Views: 184
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