last 2 weeks i am not excited for sex what is the reason..yes i am doing mastburastion 3 ya 4 times in the day.
Asked by parth
20th December 2012 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thank you for getting in contact with us.
Erection problems are either a physical issue, or psychological issue. Most men have experienced some form of erectile issue during their life, some its a passing phase, others it can be a longer issue where support is needed, and that could be medical or psychological depending on whats causing it.
With the information you have provided, it could that yours is more psychological and the fact that you masturbate so often could be reducing your sexual libido so when it comes round to sex, you are unable to perform. We suggest abstaining from masturbation for a week or two and see how you feel when you next have sex. As you won't have ejaculated in a while your desire for this to occur should be increased and through sexual foreplay with your partner you will hopefully gain and maintain an erection to have sex. Also when the moment occurs try not to think to much about trying to get an erection, I know that sounds easier said then done, but the more you think about it, the more pressure you will put on yourself and more likely to go limp. Just enjoy the moment, take your time, lots of kissing and touching, foreplay will help highten the sexual desire between the two of you. If this does not work, don't give up on your first attempt, your partner should understand and try again another day. Should you find no improvement after a few attempts, then maybe a therapist would be a good idea to talk about your issues, also a discussion with your GP, although its unlikely to be a medical physical issue as you are able to get an erection when masturbating, but let him rule out any other possible issues.
Please do get in touch if you need further help or if you live in Swindon and we can make an appointment with our free counselling service.
Answered by team member Matt
20th December 2012
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