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The question is:
difficulty reaching orgasm
I am a 35 year old man, and I have a real problem reaching orgasm during sex. I am married, and have to bug my wife constantly for sex. When we talk about it, she says she would be happy doing it once per fortnight, whereas in my ideal world, we'd do it every night! So we compromise and end up doing it, on average, a couple of times per week. So I spend all week looking forward to those rare nights, and when the day comes I find myself on-edge, anxious (that she might put it off again), but excited. Then finally the time comes, the kids are asleep, so we get into bed (she never wants to do it anywhere else) and we have sex. It is fantastic, and I am really turned on, but I just can't orgasm. I go at it for up to an hour, by which time I know my wife is tired, bored, and probably starting to hurt. So I stop, and we go to sleep. Then I start thinking about the next time, and looking forward to that with anxiousness and excitement, and so the pattern repeats itself.
It is making me thoroughly miserable. It makes me so angry with myself and depressed, I hate myself.
The thing is I don't have any problem at all when I masturbate, it is only when we have sex. And it makes my wife want to have sex less, because she says it takes so long!
Please help, it is really getting me down.
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