All questions tagged with premature ejaculation
When I'm anxious or excited I quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. It can be as simple as a stressful email at work, or if I think I'm going to miss the bus or something. I'm not saying that it happens every time something like that happens, but it does happen quite often, maybe a couple of times a month. I don't have an erection or anything when it happens. It can be quite awkward if I'm talking to someone or something, and I can't get to the toilet in time. This has been happening for years, on and off (I'm 35 now and I think it first happened during my exams, so I think it is more mental than physical). I take a spare pair of boxer shorts to work because of it, it happens so often. This doesn't happen when I have sexual thoughts, but I have a couple of sort of fetishes which can set it off. So, should I be worried? Anything I can do?
Asked by Dave
10th June 2009 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi Dave,
Thanks for coming to us with your concern. This is obviously a serious problem for you, effecting you not only physically, but mentally and no doubt emotionally as well. There are many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand what the cause of spontaneous ejaculation could be, from physical to psychological to stimulation and medication, among other things. Though you've given a description of your problem, there are still many questions to be asked in order to get an idea which direction one would need to look for an answer.
Sometimes, these kind of problems can be linked to issues with an enlarged prostate, however, this generally happens to older men, and, as this has been going on since what appears to be your teens, it's probably not likely. Some medications (including antidepressants) can have the side effect of spontaneous ejaculation. It could be something as simple as too much stimulation that you're not aware of. Perhaps if you switched to briefs instead of boxers it might help. It is difficult to advise you with any kind of certainty as to the definate cause. The best course of action is for you to visit your GP who will be able to take a medical history and ask all the necessary questions, before advising you in this case. Hope this helps. Please let us know the outcome, as we are very curious ourselves.
Answered by team member Mara
29th September 2010
Ok, thanks for your reply, not sure if I should be flattered or concerned that I seem to be a medical curiosity! I'm not sure if I want to bother a doctor about this, as aside from the embarrassment of describing it face to face it does not seem to be life threatening. I was sort of hoping it was common and only I did not know about it! If I do go to the Doctors and they can tell me exactly what is going on I will let you know.
3 1Answered by Dave
30th September 2010
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Well, we wouldn't call you a medical curiosity, but it would be interesting to know what the underlying cause is, especially in case anyone else came along who suffered the same problem! As for bothering your doctor, don't worry about that, you have a genuine concern. It would be best to have this looked at sooner rather than later. Though the condition may not bother you now, it may become more difficult to cope with as you age. From what you describe, it doesn't seem to show signs of letting up. GP's are used to patients being uncomfortable with discussing certain issues and should handle the situation professionally in a way to put you at ease. Men can be notoriously reluctant to visit medical professionals when it comes to their health... So, it's part of our job to give you a gentle nudge to make that dreaded appointment... We look forward to hearing from you again!
0 0Answered by team member Mara
30th September 2010
I am on doxycyclene right now for a testicular infection. upon taking the second pill this morning I had two spontaneous full on orgasms within 15 mins of each other. I have never had this happen before.Maybe you should get checked out.You may have a simple to cure infection.Im going to check with my GP to make sure this is normal.
1 1Answered by steve
18th January 2013
Hi, it's very interesting to read your mail. I also have spontaneous ejacualtions sometimes. They can happen anytime anywhere ... and can be embarrassing too, so I really understand how you feel. I "deal with it" the same way, bring extra underwear and change. I didnt want to ask the Dr as it's not like I'm sick or anything. I?m just trying to get on with it
0 0Answered by Luke
2nd June 2013
This sort of thing happens to me too (almost). It's only ever full on happened twice and both times it was when I was rushing to get something done. The first was in 8th grade (yeah...) trying to finish an art project before the bell rang. Luckily it was the end of the day and I had dark pants but it happened again freshman year of high school trying to finish an essay before the bell. It was 2nd period and I was wearing khakis. How there was no stain was a miracle. But every so often when I'm in a situation with high anxiety (performing, pressured situations of waiting, being with a girl I'm not comfortable around) I can feel it about to happen and a little leaks out. I usually dig my nails into my palms, arms, and back of my hands, hoping I can focus on the pain to reduce the feeling of ejaculation. I'm 19 going on 20 now and I want to know how to stop this because it BLOWS.
1 1Answered by Erik
6th August 2013
I had the same problem during my teens. My first experience was during exams, the last minute and haven't finished writing. I shot a load on my pants and had to rush to the toilet and deliberately spoil water over my pants to disguise it. Now I'm 40 and never had it since although I have had close encounters.... I thought I was the only one and this its my first tonne I've seek answers about. Unfortunately seemingly there's no medical explanation of the cause.
0 0Answered by Bhutini
13th August 2013
Hi, I had this happen to me when I was teenager now 50, but it use to happen to me while taking an exam. During final minutes and I had not finish yet, just the rush of not being done yet and they wher e going to take the tests away from us would make me heave an orgasm. Sometimes more than one. I'll say that it wasn't unpleasant, by the contrary I enjoyed it. It continued during college. Now not anymore since I dont take tests, but I wish I could feel this again. I have searched for other thrills, but nothing compares to the test taking. Just my grain of salt
2 0Answered by Bukake
15th November 2013
yes i have had the same problem for years, but much worse, and it has
affected my career. I've seen a neurologist about it who said it was
similar to premature ejaculation (but it isnt sexually aroused), but
there is a new medication out now called silodosin, after a case in
Japan.
I first had a spontaneous ejaculation at 14 in an exam. No sexual
thoughts are involved. After that, all my exams were suspect, and it
happened several other times, forcing me to take extra clothes to
school. It then spread to public speaking, where i have had to curtail
my career. At university i couldnt do any presentations, despite being
an able student and good speaker. I am now in my 40s.
The problem doesnt respond to efforts to reduce, despite much effot,
as i think it acts much like sweating, it is a physical neurological
response to a stimuli, usually fear or stress, much like the body
responds to heat with sweat. In my view it is not curable once
learned. fear or it occurring is enough for it to occur. Fear of
ejaculation-causes ejaculation.
The medical establishment is not very aware of this problem, but there
is a paper about the drug silodosin which someone directed me to,
which makes dry ejaculations, which at least stops the wetness and
odour.
Answered by thingadonta1
15th February 2016
There are a lot of real stories like yours, with orgasms induced by stress during exams. It is not a medical case, in my humble opinion, it is more a very nice gift of our mind/body while we are in a very difficult situation.
It happened to me several times during one or two hours, when I was 11 or 12, being very scarred that my bike was stolen by a friend, who actually asked me to let him have a ride with my new bike. He was gone for 15-20 min, and I started to be very anxious/scared, and suddenly a very pleasurable feeling in my pants, even without erection, gave me a strong orgasm... It was sooo good that I had to touch my penis trying somehow to stop it. And after several more minutes another one came, intense, and another one... countless orgasms, without feeling exhausted as when I cum during masturbation. Finally, when my friend came back with my bike, I was a bit sad that the pleasurable experience stopped.
Another story of these non-sexual and non-masturbating orgasms of mine was the intense climax during climbing a pole in the school yard, again at the age of 12 approx. There was no touching of my penis to the pole, no rubbing at all, nit even erection. This was more easy to reproduce, and even tell to my best friends how good it feels if you try to climb the pole several times. Later, when I was around 14, I Climbed again that pole, late in the afternoon, when nobody was looking, and when suddenly the good intense feeling approached, very quickly I took out my penis from the short pants and ejaculated in the air...
There was also no erection, no sex thoughts, nothing. Just a pure orgasm coming from nowhere.
I believe we are special and lucky to experience such feelings.
Answered by Dan
11th August 2016
Same thing happened to me when I was 14 yo. I am 57 yo male.
0 0Answered by anonymous
10th September 2016
hello dr. im 21 years old boy from dubai, dr my pennis size is 4 inch i want to grown it how to do that ?dr from last 2 days my pennis is not standing when last time i had sex my pennis was not that hard as before and it sleep so fast while having sex im in tention that this may cause serious problem , im 101 kgs almost im trying to lose weight kindly help me out .
Asked by zayn (aged 21) from United Arab Emirates
13th December 2015 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
We all have different penis sizes and shapes. You can't change what you have, although there are a few surgical ways of trying to make your penis more prominent. But actually there are plenty of guys with a penis much shorter than your 4 inches who can and do have good sex. You might like to read the section on our website about penis size. We hope that this information helps, worrying about performance and size will unfortunately contribute to the problems you describe, try not to worry about it and try to focus on other aspects of sex. You might find this response to a previous question helpful too:
Question on Erectile Dysfunction
You say you are overweight, this almost certainly means that the base of your penis is hidden in some fat. It would look and measure more if you could lose weight – we have a section on ideal weight range for your height and weight loss help.
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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016
My husband is nearly 52 and for six months or more has found that he ejaculates two or three times a day without an erection or any stimulation. He may just be doing some work in the house with no sexual thoughts. He has always been highly sexed and this has not changed as he ages but he is finding this problem uncomfortable. It doesn't happen every day but it can also make it harder to ejaculate during sex.
Asked by MrsFrog
10th June 2009 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Given your husband's age combined with the symptom of spontaneous ejaculation, the most likely cause of his problem is an enlarged prostate, resulting on oversensitivity. Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) is a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged as part of the aging process. Most commonly, it effects urination, often restricting the flow, or even in later stages, contributing to UTI's. When the Prostate, also referred to as 'the Male G-Spot' is stimulated or massaged, it can result in an orgasm without an erection. If your husband is doing work that requires abdominal loading or pelvic straining, it may be putting pressure on his potentially enlarged prostate, thus resulting in ejaculation. As for the difficulty ejaculating during sex, normally BHP would result in easier to attain ejaculation; however, it could be restricting with an erection.
Being highly sexed is a good thing for your husband. Regular ejaculation allows testosterone to flow freely and is known to reduce the risk of prostate problems and cancer in men. Masturbation is sometimes recommended for men who experience delayed ejaculation issues.
The best course of action is for your husband to speak to his GP. He will need to go further into detail about what kind of activities bring on ejaculation and if he is taking any kind of medication. Please encourage him to visit his GP as soon as he can. We’d love to hear back from you to find out what the final diagnosis is. Please don’t hesitate to contact us again if we can be of any help.
Answered by team member Mara
21st June 2010
Water drop during erection and itchy top of penis
thanks for taking your time to read this messege. i have this problem from last many years i would say. whenever i get erection in a minute drops starts coming out of my penis , which firstly effect the erection and i Cum very fast . Also the top end of my penis (Glans) are is gets very itchy which seems to me very serious bcz of that i cant enjoy erection. i did too much masturbation as well.
Asked by shah
6th July 2011 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, not all men get this, and those that do it can vary from just a little leak to a lot, but let me reasure you this is perfectly normall. Pre-cum is a clear fluid that emits from the tip of the penis when a man is sexually aroused, and its purpose is to act as a lubricant (please be aware this can transmit STI, HIV and can contain sperm if you are not using barrier methods such as condoms to have safe sex with). In very rare cases some men over produce this, if this is the case I would discuss with you GP if possible.
Regarding the cumming very fast, this could be for various reasons, and I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your pre-cum. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer.
Regarding the itchy end of your penis, if you masturbate too often then yes the penis could become sore, but there could also be other reasons, it could be a reaction to soap or cleaning product you are currently using, or it could be and Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), again I would recommend going to you doctor/GP and explain your concerns and get tested as most STI's can be treated.
Please get back to us if you still have any further concerns.
Answered by team member Matt
7th July 2011
Hello i m 25 i use to do masturbeat many time when i was 16 to 20. At the age of 20 to untill now i did not feel any attraction to do masturbeat. Since couple of years i meet many girls and try to perform sex but it was not happen. When i start kissing after 1,2 min i cum without get hard. Soo now my penis cum without get hard. I m not physicaly fit since at the age of 20. I got problm at that time. The problem was whenever i go to toilet for shit at the same time some sticky white water com from my penis. Right now i feel i hve nt get Any sexual attraction with girl. Please tell me whats kind of treatment i need.
Asked by Zik
25th August 2013 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi and thank for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. Obviously yours in fairly serve case of PE as you cum before stating sex. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this technique in a relationship. Regarding when you go to the toilet, if you are no longer masturbating, when having a bowl movement, it could be pressing on your prostate, which is causing some seminal fluid to come out your penis as you are not expelling this from masturbation so your getting a build up of this. However if you have had unprotected sex, then this could possibly be a discharge from a sexually transmitted infection. Either way, we would suggest you seek advice from your GP/Doctor to diagnose and treat this issue further. We hope this has helped with your issue.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
28th August 2013
Involuntary / spontaneous orgasms
I'm 16 years old male and I'm very serious about this. When I'm mildly anxious quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. So basically every time I am writing an exam, i wear so much in my pants to hide this now, pants > shorts > underwear. I use to be pretty normal, school ends go to the park and play with friends. Now I cannot enjoy music or watching movies or any other activities as much as I used to. I don?t even care for regular social contact with friends or family anymore. This didn't all mysteriously happen, when I was 14 years old I had to get an appendix surgery, I know this is a very common procedure and happens so many times but after the surgery It was difficult to pee but it eventually got normal and I kept feeling physical arousal at my penis, like hypersensitivity slight movements would trigger it, I didn't really know how to explain it back then so i didn't even mention it. In school one day we had a test, I studied hard for it and there was like one question that i found difficult and my anxiety nerve went up mildy and that mildy made me spontaneous ejaculate. I was so distressed that day and felt so uncomfortable that something like that can happen without any control on my part. I told my dad and we went to an MD, refered to an urologist. The urologist which I waited so many months for said I was normal(do i have to record this for him or what!) yet I still get spontaneous ejaculations and hypersensitivity constantly. This is so embarrassing and i don't know what to do anymore. I also cant do presentation, luckily my doctor sent a document to my school that says i have extreme anxiety that excludes me from doing presentations (i don't but they aren't going to say spontaneous orgasm so im okay with it). What do i do? I came across this while searching i think he explained what happens during a test much better then i did: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/2uwgak/spontaneous_ejaculationorgasm_or_due_to_stress/ it is literally this, i messaged the op but it seems that account is inactive i hope he replies i asked him if he has fixed it somehow. I'm very desperate and i feel the medical system has failed me. My urologist would just lecture me how im at that age where i get "wet dreams and body development" and stuff i already knew. I don't know what else to do? See another doctor? See another urologist? See a psychologist?
Asked by Adrian (aged 16) from Canada
20th March 2016 (in Health)
Hi, you may read my post (Dan) on a similar topic here:
http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/qa/question/spontaneous-ejaculation/
I think we are lucky!
Apart of the little wet mess in our underwear, there is no need to worry about. Enjoy the nice feeling...
Do you have more than one orgasm during one exam? After you are done (with the pleasure) do you feel ok going to finish the exam?
I also had/have countless wet dreams in which I am dreaming to be at school exams, loosing the train or missing the flight.
Again, I think we are a lucky minority. You may share your story with your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I am sure she/he will get very aroused. It would be the perfect foreplay.
I am also sure that after you will start your sex life with a partner, these exam orgasm will diminish. At least when you will finish your school. You will miss the pleasure...
And I absolutely advise NOT to go to another doctor. You (we) are perfectly normal!
Answered by Dan
12th August 2016
Lack of seaman and hard lump in gooch when getting or erect
A few months ago I caught clymidia and I had a swollen testical I took dyoxlyn this cured my problem at first but then a few months later I noticed my testical had got smaller and my testical tubes had shrunk and no fluid was going through them also when I go to get erect I have a large build up of something hard in my gooch area around my tubes or in them I seem to ejaculate far to quickly?
Asked by Cj
30th November 2014 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
This sounds quite complicated and we can only give you some general advice.
The treatment for your Chlamydia will have worked unless you didn’t finish it or you have since had sex with someone who has got it. It doesn’t cause shrinking testicles.
At a guess you might have had swollen testicle and tubes (called epididymitis) with the infection. The swelling would go down after it was treated and cured. This might make you feel as if your testicle had shrunk.
Most people can’t feel fluid going through the tube that drains the balls – we wonder how you know that no fluid was going through them?
The inflatable tubes that fill with blood to make an erection (called corpora cavernosa) actually start in the gooch area (perineum) well behind your ball bag (scrotum). When you get hard you should be able to feel the base of your penis filling up and hard there too.
Ejaculating very quickly ("premature ejaculation") is quite a common problem but is unlikely to be connected with the other things you mention.
If you are talking about sex with someone else, a longer period of foreplay without touching your penis can improve it for you both. If you pull out before you reach a climax and you (or your partner) squeeze your penis hard below the head, this will usually stop the climax and after a few moments you can start again. You can also try this technique when you are masturbating and see if you can control your orgasm and cum later.
There is professional help available from sex therapists if you are able to see one of them
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Answered by team member Dr Peter
8th December 2015
my problem is of masturbation i feel very tired always sperm scomes out from my urine also my penis is also too short my sperms out too early plz tell me is that any serious problem
Asked by gaurav
18th September 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Your questions confuse me a bit. When do you feel tired?
Sometimes there is leakage of semen in your urine if you have been aroused a little while earlier – this is normal
What makes you think your penis is too short?
If your sperms come out early, is this during masturbation, during sex, or even before you touch your penis?
If you can write giving some more information we may be able to help with some advice
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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016
I am a 20 year old boy at 14 -15 i use to to handjob and later on started doing cum free hand job i dont allow my to come outside of panis this created prblm now my panis size decreased i cum very less this is creating tension in my mind at early stage i use to do it for 5to 6 times a day pls help me
Asked by Waibhav negi
21st November 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for contacting MSH. We are unsure of the possible side effects to masturbating without letting yourself cum. Ejaculating is the natural reaction and result of masturbating, and it is healthy to ejaculate and produce fresh sperm. It is unlikely that this would have cause your penis to decrease in size but do to the stress and worry you are putting on yourself for having done this it is possible your body is reacting to this stress by not giving you strong erections and ejaculating less. It may be best to discuss this with your GP/Doctor to ensure all is working properly and correctly. You may benefit from some form of counselling to help alleviate your stress/worrys.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
22nd November 2013
sir,whenever i talk erotic,or watch erotic movies ,my penis get errected and at the same time semen(not sperm) flows out with in sec.i am not able to control it.it happens very quickly with very first erection.i feel dull after that.Does it affect memory?.plz plz help,i m a student.i feel lack of concenteration.
Asked by singh
3rd September 2013 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thank you for contacting MSH. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, this is a liquid a man produces when sexually aroused, this is perfectly normal, some men produce a lot, some men just a little and some men don't at all. Its the bodies way or producing a natural lubricant. This doesn't affect your memory and I wonder why you would think such a thing, if you could let us know. It is easy to become distracted, especially at your age, but your hormones are all over the place right now, and sex will often be on your mind, watching porn and masturbating once complete should help you relax and concentrate back on your studies. It is perfectly normal and healthy so don't stress too much about this.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
5th September 2013
Does Masturbating real fast make me come quicker during sex
Asked by Steven
14th November 2010 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
As previously stated, we take all questions here seriously, as a real concern for the individual asking. Solo masturbation should not make you orgasm quicker during sex. Actually, it is sometimes suggested to men who suffer premature ejaculation to masturbate in an attempt to help them last longer during intercourse. If you are masturbating during sex, it is most likely that this additional stimulation will make you orgasm faster.
0 0Answered by team member Mara
17th November 2010
Few weeks ago I've noticed that my foreskin got slightly tighter. It happaned rapidly over couple days and doesn't affect my life in other way than makeing sex uncomfortable. Internet research suggestet me that it could be early stage of phimosis. How can I recognise if that is it and can I cure it at early stage in other way than operation. Is the treatment avilable in UK. And how do I start it.
Asked by anonymous
25th January 2010 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Circumcision should be the last option for your condition. Phimosis is a vague term used to describe any condition where the foreskin does not retract over the glans of the penis. All males are born with the foreskin attached. It can take years, even well into puberty, for the foreskin to be able to retract over the glans. This can be completely normal. In adult males, however, Phimosis can lead to problems including difficulty with urination and painful intercourse, among others which can become more serious. It is important you visit your GP to discuss this condition. Your GP will explain your options, which should include applying a topical steroid cream, gentle manual stretching or possibly a combination of both. There is also another surgical procedure called Preputialplasty, which releases the band of constricted skin but preserves much of the foreskin. Please do not be afraid to visit your GP for fear that a circumcision will be immediately recommended, as this should be a LAST RESORT. Your GP may also be able to give you an idea why this condition has occurred and advise you how to avoid it in the future. Please let us know how it goes and don't hesitate to contact if we can be of any help.
0 0Answered by team member Tim
26th January 2010
sir, my age is 23 and got married, so whenever i try to do sex with my wife i have good errection during making love time but when i feel to do interence my penis suddenly loss the erection slowly, then i got cialis tablet and celdenifil tablets under prescription of doctor but deosnt worked,i have to mention before having sex my heart beating gets fast and exciting as well, i did try many times to have a successful sex but still problem exist, and my partener also not has cooperation in doing sex, please give me advise to overcome this issue , i am soo worry like i afraid to not loss my sexual power or phsical prob
Asked by anonymous
23rd November 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. We can understand this can be a worrying issue. Because you have already taken Cialis and Celdenifil and say this isn't working, it could show/mean that there is other issues that is causing you to lose your erection. Are you able to get an erection when alone and masturbating, if you are then this shows that there is nothing wrong physically with you, it is a psychological issue. For this we would suggest having therapy/counselling. If you are not able to get an erection when alone, then this shows there is something physically wrong and you need to go back to your doctor who gave you the prescription and explain that the tablets are not working, and they will look into other ares as to why this is occurring. We hope this has helped.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
3rd December 2013
Goes soft too quickly and slow to ejaculate
I am 71 and haved always enjoyed sex but lately I have had problems staying hard long enough to complete and it takes me too long to come. I do take BP meds but do not want to take pills as they don't seem to help...
Asked by Don
22nd March 2013 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thank you for contacting MSH. First of all it is perfectly normal and natural part of getting older that a man will find it more difficult to maintain a erection, not all men will suffer this and to what degree those that do will vary. Sometimes, however, erectile dysfunction is related to an underlying condition and this could either be a physical or psychological one. Physical issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. And some Psychological issues include - anxiety/nerves, relationship problems, depression, exhaustion, stress, childhood abuse.
We would suggest talking to your GP to discuss this, so they can establish which issue it is,
especially if this has happened abruptly. Once any underlying factors are identified, your doctor can suggest appropriate treatment options. For example: If loss of erection is related to depression, psychotherapy alone or in combination with antidepressant medication may help. If you're diagnosed with an unusually low testosterone level, treatment options may include testosterone replacement therapy. If a certain medication is contributing to loss of sex drive, your doctor may suggest an alternate drug. Remember to be open and honest with your doctor. The more you can tell him or her about your erection issue, the more effective treatment is likely to be.
Answered by team member Matt
28th March 2013
Hi, I am of 25yrs and whenever I go for sex with my spouse it does not long last. Within 10sec or 15sec my sperms come out. Plz help
Asked by Eric
1st August 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. You would probably be classed as serve as under 2mins. However we can make some suggestions on how to last longer. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this skill with your wife. Please try the method listed above and we hope that helps. Also the penis will naturally lose erection most times after ejaculation, but after a short period of rest time, some men are able to get erect and and will find the second time it takes longer to ejaculate. Due to suffering with serve case of PE, you would probably also benefit from some form of sexual counselling, discuss this with your GP as they may be able to refer you onto someone in your area. Please get back in touch if you need to, we hope this has helped.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
7th August 2013
hi im marrid 24yr im not satsfid my sex life. My sex duration 5m below pls solu my early discharge pls help me
Asked by venu
5th July 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello thanks for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. You fall just under average, but you are also not clased as serve as under 2mins. However we can make some suggestions on how to last longer. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this skill with your wife. Please try the method listed above and we hope that helps. Also the penis will naturally lose erection most times after ejaculation, but after a short period of rest time, some men are able to get erect and and will find the second time it takes longer to ejaculate. Please get back in touch if you need to, we hope this has helped.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
9th July 2013
whilst having vigorous sex recently i had blood in my sperm this has happened before but cleared up quickly could this be a major problem
Asked by martin
9th January 2014 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for getting in contact with us. Although you could of caused a small cut/tear during your vigorous sex, we always suggest if you find blood in your semen that you should see you GP/Doctor asap, just to be on the safe side to rule out any underlying issues. We hope this has helped with your concern.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
10th January 2014
hi there i am 24 i have been masturbating when i was young due to early masturbating my penis has not grown the size it should have i mean when i have an erection its fine(acceptable) but when i don't then the size of penis is very small like a baby i m not sure what it is but i m worried, my sperms seems to be fine but im really disappointed when its not erected i m not to sure if have explained it right but just say i feel embarrassed while takin a piss in a public toilet without compartments due to the size i really wanna speak to some1 abt it but dnt know who to can u help????
Asked by ding
12th November 2013 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for contacting us about your concern. Masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy and nearly all men around the world masturbate and it will not affect the size of your penis, so please do not think this has happened. Mens penis's all around the world come in different sizes, shapes, colours. Some men will find quite a difference in size from being erect to being flaccid, others will see little change, again this is all down to the individual. So please do not be embarrassed when using public toilets, most men won't be looking when you use a urinal and as penis size is one of the biggest male concerns you probably aren't the only one at the urinal with this concern. We hope this has helped
0 0Answered by team member Matt
14th November 2013
Dear sir / madam when im during sex my sperm come out quickly and im 24 years old what should i have to do ....... plz help me
Asked by Amad
10th June 2009 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi and thank for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. However you don't state your time, so you may or may not be classed as suffering with PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something completely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masturbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this technique in a relationship. Also some men who cum quickly first time, after a little pause/breather, will be able to have sex soon after and will find it takes them longer to cum as they have already ejaculated once. We hope this has helped with your issue.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
13th December 2013
whenever i have sex my sperms will come out just within 1 or 2minutes. My fiancee complains a lot and has threatened not to marry me because i don't satisfy her. Pls help.
Asked by sperry
24th September 2013 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hi and thank for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. Obviously yours in fairly serve case of PE as you cum between 1-2mins. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something completely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masturbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this technique in a relationship. Also some men who cum quickly first time, after a little pause/breather, will be able to have sex soon after and will find it takes them longer to cum as they have already ejaculated once. We hope this has helped with your issue.
0 0Answered by team member Matt
1st October 2013
