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Gelatine lumps in semen

For the last six months I have been noticing these gelatine lumps in my semen, I can feel them coming out during ejaculation, I've had a sti test and it was negative over the months it has started to get worse now I get a mild pain before ejaculation and my semen is thick almost gel like I am very concerned and have also noticed white pearly penile papules around my penis any idea what it might be. Diet? Infection? Irregular ejaculation?

Asked by Ricky
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: penis penis size gelatine ejaculation gay testing sti

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thank you for getting in touch with us here at Men's Sexual Health. Firstly there's a wide range of texture, odor, and taste in normal and healthy semen. There is even variation in color, including opaque white, transparent, and yellowish. This can be caused by a variety of factors such as diet, lifestyle and alcohol consumption and even lack of regular ejaculations. This is a common question asked on our Q&A, so please do not feel alone, a lot of men have suffered from this issue.

From our knowledge, sometimes the causes of jelly-like sperm is the massive concentration of protein compound of your sperm in your testicular sperm bank, usually those teens that masturbate actively for years and suddenly refrain from doing it have a greater chance of having this stuff(though its normal). Because during the time your still active in masturbation your testicles produces more sperm so it needs sugar and protein to produce a liquid substances wherein your sperm swam. So your brain may senses that during your frequent masturbation or sex maybe, it send a message to your testicles to produce more of these substances. Consequently, to the certain point of time you did not masturbate for along period, the sperm and protein base liquid in your testicles may over reproduce and the tendency of this if you were unable to let it ejaculate, it will accumulate in your testicles and becomes highly concentrated. Subsequently this causes your sperm to look like a jelly - like substance...its normal as long its color varies from white to yellowish and no blood or black or green.

Some people find drinking more water, drinking less alcohol and masterbating more often sometimes solves the problem.

You say you went for an STI test, did you discuss with the clinic about your sperm issue and what did they suggest? The fact that you are experiencing pain however we would suggest you see you local GP/Doctor to discuss this further to rule out any other underlying condition.

Regarding your white pearly penile papules, the fact you know what they are called shows you have done your research. This are perfectly normal, nearly all men have these, some have more and bigger than others, this are just the glans of the penis and should not be worries about, again the fact you have had a STI test confirms these are unlikely to be anything other than your glans. Please do get back in touch if things don't improve.

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Answered by team member Matt
30th January 2013

But sometimes I feel a little. Itching around the cap I thought it was infection but I got treated then I got this tiny rough pause on my cap what can this be because I did blood test and I was okay

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Answered by patrick
31st July 2014

Ty for clearing this up as I have the same issue and was rather concerned

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Answered by mercer
25th August 2015

i fel the same way too. i masturbate 3 times a week then one day i notice a yellowish in my cum too.

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Answered by papado
14th November 2015

I think best answer is available on http://www.webmd.com

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Answered by Dowell48
26th November 2015

thanks for the answer i was having the same issues

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Answered by dalton
4th January 2016

You hit the nail on the head. I was a horny lil fucker my teen years and i was really familiar with the attic. Then i was hospitalized in my late 20's and also became depressed. Consequently my right hand man and i slowly drifted apart. As things got increasing better " purchased a smart phone, with clear picture and sound. Lets just say I wasn't haveing trouble keeping myself enertained when i had some free time. But as stated especially my first time, if i had milk and a GOOD vanilla... well i guess now its your preference i happen to be a custard guy. Not to say there's anything wrong with flan. All jokeing aside a better diet and most importantly routine master baking really does help.

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Answered by Bear
24th January 2016

Thank you, I've had these symptoms for years and my doctor and clinic haven't been able to help, I'll try your solutions and see how I get on

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Answered by Paul
27th January 2016

I get this to. It has started ever since I've had the snip, not sure if anyone else has noticed the same after becoming a Jaffa?????

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Answered by Tezza
18th February 2016

I'm 14 and this is happening though what should I do

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Answered by Rhys
5th March 2016

get checked for UREAPLASMA

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Answered by Doctor
23rd March 2016

I had this problem recently after masturbating less frequently. I decided to start masturbating more often before seeking medical advice. This stopped the gelatine lumps appearing

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Answered by Jake
26th April 2016

I have been trying to find this answer everywhere I've been searching for hours today while I was giving my boyfriend a little help I recognised these white chunks of stuff we both started freaking out. We thought it was some type on sti and we were to scared to tell our parents we need to go and get checked up as I am underaged. Should I still go and get a check up just in case?

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Answered by Iesha
18th June 2016

Do a internet search for "Amyloid polychondritis in semen".

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Answered by Sara
18th June 2016

Hi i am having the same problems too cause when i was younger i use to masturbate a lot 3years times a day, i have been wondering wat happen to me when i see these lumps but am glad to know am not the only one and that's normal, question dose this stop u from getting someone pregnant, and lower your sperm count?

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Answered by marlon
19th June 2016

I masterbate 5 times a day im 35 years of age when was in my teen years and 20, 10 to 20 times a day so your saying my sperm is hard because I masterbate too much

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Answered by Oliver
26th June 2016

I masterbate 5 times a day im 35 years of age when was in my teen years and 20, 10 to 20 times a day so your saying my sperm is hard because I masterbate too much

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Answered by Oliver
26th June 2016

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Spontaneous ejaculation

When I'm anxious or excited I quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. It can be as simple as a stressful email at work, or if I think I'm going to miss the bus or something. I'm not saying that it happens every time something like that happens, but it does happen quite often, maybe a couple of times a month. I don't have an erection or anything when it happens. It can be quite awkward if I'm talking to someone or something, and I can't get to the toilet in time. This has been happening for years, on and off (I'm 35 now and I think it first happened during my exams, so I think it is more mental than physical). I take a spare pair of boxer shorts to work because of it, it happens so often. This doesn't happen when I have sexual thoughts, but I have a couple of sort of fetishes which can set it off. So, should I be worried? Anything I can do?

Asked by Dave
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation premature ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Dave,

Thanks for coming to us with your concern. This is obviously a serious problem for you, effecting you not only physically, but mentally and no doubt emotionally as well. There are many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand what the cause of spontaneous ejaculation could be, from physical to psychological to stimulation and medication, among other things. Though you've given a description of your problem, there are still many questions to be asked in order to get an idea which direction one would need to look for an answer.

Sometimes, these kind of problems can be linked to issues with an enlarged prostate, however, this generally happens to older men, and, as this has been going on since what appears to be your teens, it's probably not likely. Some medications (including antidepressants) can have the side effect of spontaneous ejaculation. It could be something as simple as too much stimulation that you're not aware of. Perhaps if you switched to briefs instead of boxers it might help. It is difficult to advise you with any kind of certainty as to the definate cause. The best course of action is for you to visit your GP who will be able to take a medical history and ask all the necessary questions, before advising you in this case. Hope this helps. Please let us know the outcome, as we are very curious ourselves.

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Answered by team member Mara
29th September 2010

Ok, thanks for your reply, not sure if I should be flattered or concerned that I seem to be a medical curiosity! I'm not sure if I want to bother a doctor about this, as aside from the embarrassment of describing it face to face it does not seem to be life threatening. I was sort of hoping it was common and only I did not know about it! If I do go to the Doctors and they can tell me exactly what is going on I will let you know.

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Answered by Dave
30th September 2010

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Well, we wouldn't call you a medical curiosity, but it would be interesting to know what the underlying cause is, especially in case anyone else came along who suffered the same problem! As for bothering your doctor, don't worry about that, you have a genuine concern. It would be best to have this looked at sooner rather than later. Though the condition may not bother you now, it may become more difficult to cope with as you age. From what you describe, it doesn't seem to show signs of letting up. GP's are used to patients being uncomfortable with discussing certain issues and should handle the situation professionally in a way to put you at ease. Men can be notoriously reluctant to visit medical professionals when it comes to their health... So, it's part of our job to give you a gentle nudge to make that dreaded appointment... We look forward to hearing from you again!

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Answered by team member Mara
30th September 2010

I am on doxycyclene right now for a testicular infection. upon taking the second pill this morning I had two spontaneous full on orgasms within 15 mins of each other. I have never had this happen before.Maybe you should get checked out.You may have a simple to cure infection.Im going to check with my GP to make sure this is normal.

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Answered by steve
18th January 2013

Hi, it's very interesting to read your mail. I also have spontaneous ejacualtions sometimes. They can happen anytime anywhere ... and can be embarrassing too, so I really understand how you feel. I "deal with it" the same way, bring extra underwear and change. I didnt want to ask the Dr as it's not like I'm sick or anything. I?m just trying to get on with it

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Answered by Luke
2nd June 2013

This sort of thing happens to me too (almost). It's only ever full on happened twice and both times it was when I was rushing to get something done. The first was in 8th grade (yeah...) trying to finish an art project before the bell rang. Luckily it was the end of the day and I had dark pants but it happened again freshman year of high school trying to finish an essay before the bell. It was 2nd period and I was wearing khakis. How there was no stain was a miracle. But every so often when I'm in a situation with high anxiety (performing, pressured situations of waiting, being with a girl I'm not comfortable around) I can feel it about to happen and a little leaks out. I usually dig my nails into my palms, arms, and back of my hands, hoping I can focus on the pain to reduce the feeling of ejaculation. I'm 19 going on 20 now and I want to know how to stop this because it BLOWS.

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Answered by Erik
6th August 2013

I had the same problem during my teens. My first experience was during exams, the last minute and haven't finished writing. I shot a load on my pants and had to rush to the toilet and deliberately spoil water over my pants to disguise it. Now I'm 40 and never had it since although I have had close encounters.... I thought I was the only one and this its my first tonne I've seek answers about. Unfortunately seemingly there's no medical explanation of the cause.

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Answered by Bhutini
13th August 2013

Hi, I had this happen to me when I was teenager now 50, but it use to happen to me while taking an exam. During final minutes and I had not finish yet, just the rush of not being done yet and they wher e going to take the tests away from us would make me heave an orgasm. Sometimes more than one. I'll say that it wasn't unpleasant, by the contrary I enjoyed it. It continued during college. Now not anymore since I dont take tests, but I wish I could feel this again. I have searched for other thrills, but nothing compares to the test taking. Just my grain of salt

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Answered by Bukake
15th November 2013

yes i have had the same problem for years, but much worse, and it has

affected my career. I've seen a neurologist about it who said it was

similar to premature ejaculation (but it isnt sexually aroused), but

there is a new medication out now called silodosin, after a case in

Japan.



I first had a spontaneous ejaculation at 14 in an exam. No sexual

thoughts are involved. After that, all my exams were suspect, and it

happened several other times, forcing me to take extra clothes to

school. It then spread to public speaking, where i have had to curtail

my career. At university i couldnt do any presentations, despite being

an able student and good speaker. I am now in my 40s.



The problem doesnt respond to efforts to reduce, despite much effot,

as i think it acts much like sweating, it is a physical neurological

response to a stimuli, usually fear or stress, much like the body

responds to heat with sweat. In my view it is not curable once

learned. fear or it occurring is enough for it to occur. Fear of

ejaculation-causes ejaculation.



The medical establishment is not very aware of this problem, but there

is a paper about the drug silodosin which someone directed me to,

which makes dry ejaculations, which at least stops the wetness and

odour.

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Answered by thingadonta1
15th February 2016

There are a lot of real stories like yours, with orgasms induced by stress during exams. It is not a medical case, in my humble opinion, it is more a very nice gift of our mind/body while we are in a very difficult situation.

It happened to me several times during one or two hours, when I was 11 or 12, being very scarred that my bike was stolen by a friend, who actually asked me to let him have a ride with my new bike. He was gone for 15-20 min, and I started to be very anxious/scared, and suddenly a very pleasurable feeling in my pants, even without erection, gave me a strong orgasm... It was sooo good that I had to touch my penis trying somehow to stop it. And after several more minutes another one came, intense, and another one... countless orgasms, without feeling exhausted as when I cum during masturbation. Finally, when my friend came back with my bike, I was a bit sad that the pleasurable experience stopped.

Another story of these non-sexual and non-masturbating orgasms of mine was the intense climax during climbing a pole in the school yard, again at the age of 12 approx. There was no touching of my penis to the pole, no rubbing at all, nit even erection. This was more easy to reproduce, and even tell to my best friends how good it feels if you try to climb the pole several times. Later, when I was around 14, I Climbed again that pole, late in the afternoon, when nobody was looking, and when suddenly the good intense feeling approached, very quickly I took out my penis from the short pants and ejaculated in the air...

There was also no erection, no sex thoughts, nothing. Just a pure orgasm coming from nowhere.

I believe we are special and lucky to experience such feelings.

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Answered by Dan
11th August 2016

Same thing happened to me when I was 14 yo. I am 57 yo male.

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Answered by anonymous
10th September 2016

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I'm worried about my penis head and foreskin.

Hi. I've been concerened about this for a while but i feel i need to sort it out now. I'm quite concered with the health of my head and foreskin. My penis head various from a very dark purple to light pink and when its dark purple it doesn't look nice at all. I also have some small yellow spots on the head and foreskin that i'm worried about. My foreskin is also very red. What can i do about this? 17 male from swindon

Asked by Brad
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: foreskin penis penis size yellow red spots gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello Brad, thanks for getting in touch. The colour of your penis head is fairly normal to change different shades off purple/pink, depending on many things, such as temperature and how sexually excited you are, this is due to the amount of blood flowing to that part of your body, and this is most likely reason behind this. Regarding the small yellow spots, the most likely answer is that these are your glans, again perfectly normal, some men they are more visiable, others not as noticeable. However i'm not sure what is causing your foreskin being red, sometimes it can get a bit inflamed if you have been masterbating/wanking too much, but it could also be a sign of a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), you haven't mentioned if you have had sex, and if you have, if it was unsafe (without a condom) if this is the case then there is a small chance that is what you may have picked up, if you have hand unsafe sex its best to book an appointment at the Swindon GUM clinic at the hospital, it is confidential so you parents won't find out, and if you need help we can make an appointment for you, and even come along with you if you need the support. I hope this has eased your concern, many lads feel concerned about there penis, having not seen others to compare it too, but they come in all shapes ans sizes so don't feel yours doesnt look nice. Please do get back in touch if you feel you want further advice.

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Answered by team member Matt
11th October 2012

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Dirty Anus

Even after going to the toilet (number 2) i'm still dirty after wiping alot. If I stick a finger up there during showering i have alot of poo still there. I'm looking to start having sex, and feel that this is going to make men run a mile. I never feel constipated, and generally go once a day. Is this diet related, as i would say i dont eat a perfectly healthy diet, or could it be more?

Asked by Pablo
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: anus

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thank you for getting in touch. There could be a couple of reasons behind this, and the most common is what you have suggested yourself, diet.

Depending on the type of food we put in our bodys, it can affect the colour, size, shape, of our stool (poo), try eating a more varied diet for a couple of weeks, with a variety of protein, fibre and carbs, eating fresh fruit and veg, try to avoid processed foods. And ensure you drink plenty of water throughout the day, at least 6-8 glasses is recommended.

Some men who have anal sex also like to ensure there anal passage is clear by using a male douche, you can find a variety of differnt ones online and this might help prepare you for sex if that is what you are concerned about, but please ensure you use them correctly and do not damage yourself in the process and if embarking on anal sex ensure you use lubricant and condoms, anal sex is very risky and many STI's including HIV can be passed on through having unprotected anal sex.

However if you are finding a change in diet is not improving the situation, you may want to consider going to your GP, you do not need to mention you intention for anal sex to them, just that you are suffering from a dirty anal passage even after showering and cleaning, as you may be suffering from some kind of anal weakening or other anal concern that he will be able to discuss with you. Please get in touch if you have any further questions or concerns.

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Answered by team member Matt
23rd January 2012

Basically don't just wipe your ass love with"lots" of paper... YOU need to used water and soap everytime... Dirty

Ok hope this helps

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Answered by FT
4th December 2014

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How to stop pre-ejaculation/water like sticky staff while chatting with girlfriend

Hello, I'm 27 now, 5'6" and 60kg. I didn't have sex with anybody. A bit quite mannered. I don't drink or smoke. My problem is when I talk or chat with my Girlfriend, precum or water like sticky staffs come. My pants become wet. Its really embarrassing to me. I don't think about sex even while talk or chat. Then, why its happening? How can I get rid of this problem, please tell me. I'll be really greatful. Thank you.

Asked by John
5th December 2010 (in Health)

Tags: precum

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

When a man is sexually excited, it is normal for a small amount of fluid to leak from the penis. This fluid is known as pre-ejaculate, preseminal fluid or more commonly, pre-come/precum, is different from ejaculate, which usually comes with orgasm. As this precome occurs when a man is becoming aroused, it is not normally considered a problem. Sometimes, men with prostate problems can have excessive leakage which may be considered for treatment. In your case, it sounds as though you are young and healthy, so are unlikey to be experiencing prostate issues. Most likely, what you are experiencing would be considered normal, however, the difficulty is that you state you are just talking to your girlfriend, and that it isn't sexual. It could be that on a subconcious level, your talks with her are arousing, thus triggering this kind of response for your body. Loving and affectionate talk could have a reaction similar to arousal. I am sorry I can't recommend anything to stop this from happening, but can assure you it does not seem out of the ordinary. If this is still causing you concern, please book an appointment to go see your GP who will try to help you further with this.

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Answered by team member Mara
8th December 2010

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Untreatable chlamydia

My partner who is a 36 year old male has been suffering with chlamydia for three years now. He has been on at least 5 courses of antibiotics over the last year but is still testing positive for it. It might be important to note that it was only detectable in a blood test and not in the urine. Symptoms include sever pain when penis is becoming erect, pain on ejaculation and after sexual intercourse in the penis. There is also pain while urinating. Why is this infection not getting cured with the antibiotics? Could it be something else and how else can he go about treating it? Thanks

Asked by Lani
23rd October 2009 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation chlamydia testing sti

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

As you've not mentioned it, can you please tell us if you have been receiving treatment at the same time. Also, though treatment is often a single dose of antibiotic, he must abstain from sexual activity for one week after taking it. Has this been the case? Is it possible you are passing it back and forth between yourselves? That would seem the simple answer, so please confirm you are taking neccessary precautions.

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Answered by team member Mara
25th October 2009

Hi Mara,

Thank you for your reply. My partner and i are actually in different countries at the moment so passing it back and forth between us is impossible.

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Answered by Lani
17th November 2009

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

You have stated that the Chlamydia is only showing up in blood tests, so it is just possible that what you partner is not actually infected with the Chlamydia Trachomatis bacterium, but the residue DNA from the original infection in his blood stream; this is quite rare, but not unheard of. If this is the case, then treatment is quite difficult, as he would need regular blood tests and only when the DNA count is low, would the doctor prescribe specific medication, and this would need be done two or three times before the blood is cleared of the residue DNA. The other aspect is that you have said your partner is in another country, though treatment for Chlamydia is quite universal today, there is evidence that show that in some countries not all antibiotics are as strong as they should be, or that the need to complete the full course is advised.

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Answered by team member Tim
3rd December 2009

I had recurring chlamydia that was actually where it had infected my prostate which was harder to cure apparently. Went in the end though with long course of antibiotics and inubrofen and Zantac.

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Answered by Bill
21st July 2013

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Involuntary ejaculation

My husband is nearly 52 and for six months or more has found that he ejaculates two or three times a day without an erection or any stimulation. He may just be doing some work in the house with no sexual thoughts. He has always been highly sexed and this has not changed as he ages but he is finding this problem uncomfortable. It doesn't happen every day but it can also make it harder to ejaculate during sex.

Asked by MrsFrog
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation premature ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Given your husband's age combined with the symptom of spontaneous ejaculation, the most likely cause of his problem is an enlarged prostate, resulting on oversensitivity. Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) is a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged as part of the aging process. Most commonly, it effects urination, often restricting the flow, or even in later stages, contributing to UTI's. When the Prostate, also referred to as 'the Male G-Spot' is stimulated or massaged, it can result in an orgasm without an erection. If your husband is doing work that requires abdominal loading or pelvic straining, it may be putting pressure on his potentially enlarged prostate, thus resulting in ejaculation. As for the difficulty ejaculating during sex, normally BHP would result in easier to attain ejaculation; however, it could be restricting with an erection.

Being highly sexed is a good thing for your husband. Regular ejaculation allows testosterone to flow freely and is known to reduce the risk of prostate problems and cancer in men. Masturbation is sometimes recommended for men who experience delayed ejaculation issues.

The best course of action is for your husband to speak to his GP. He will need to go further into detail about what kind of activities bring on ejaculation and if he is taking any kind of medication. Please encourage him to visit his GP as soon as he can. We’d love to hear back from you to find out what the final diagnosis is. Please don’t hesitate to contact us again if we can be of any help.

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Answered by team member Mara
21st June 2010

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Chlamydia

My boyfriend was treated with Oxytetracycline tablets. I googled Oxytetracycline and it said that this antibiotic is used for chest infections and respiratory infections caused by chlamydia. Does it mean because he was given these antibiotics that he had chest infection because of chlamydia?

Asked by anonymous
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: chlamydia sti

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Oxytetracycline is part of a group of medications that are collectively are called Tetracyclines which are broad spectrum antibiotics. Oxytetracycline is still the antibiotic of choice for many Doctors in the treatment of many forms of infections, as there are very rarely any side effects.



A broad spectrum antibiotic is one that can be used to treat a wide range of bacterial infections, and is often used as they have a well proven track record in the treatment of both individual infections and more wide ranging infections.



Within the Tetracycline group is a range of antibiotics that can be used, some are more specifically targeted than others, but all treat Chlamydia effectively as well as respitory infections, so the fact that Oxytetracycline was prescribed may well just be because the Doctor prescribing them, prefers them.



So yes it is possible that the person being treated may have a respiratory co-infection, but it is more likely that the Oxytetracycline was give just to target the repsiritory infection.

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Answered by team member Tim
14th December 2009

Is it possible that this medication was given for a chest infection only and have nothing to do with chlamydia? Is this medicine prescribed for normal chest infections?

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Answered by anonymous
15th December 2009

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Unfortunately it is not possible to say with any degree of accuracy. Your partners Doctor will have carried out an examination and then prescribed according to what was diagnosed at the time. All we can say with any accuracy is that Oxytetracycline is a broad spectrum anti-biotic, and can be prescribed for many infections, this does include both for respiratory infections and Chlamydia infections. However, it is unlikely that the Doctor would have prescribed a single anti-biotic to treat both a chest infection and Chlamydia, they will have prescribed to treat one or the other. I appreciate that you Googled Oxytetracycline and found the Chlamydia link, but you may be inadvertently reading much more into the prescription than actually exists (especially as a chest infection caused by Chlamydia is not that common)

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Answered by team member Tim
15th December 2009

I have been prescribed Oxytetracycline in the past to help treat my acne. I've got nothing wrong with my chest and definately don't have chlamydia. Why don't you ask him, he may just be embarassed to be suffering from acne.

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Answered by anonymous
27th January 2010

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My penis gets soft

Hi. I am a gay guy and I have been dating with my BF more than a year. Until 3 months ago I had always been bottom in my life, but recently I became versatile. The problem is my penis gets very soft when I try to have anal sex with him, the moment it touches his anu it gets very soft, which hurts him so much and makes me very mad :( It sometimes works and we can have regular sex but for the 4 weeks I cant be top :( when I hug him, he touches my dick and he sucks it, or I become bottom in bed my penis gets very hard, but not when I try to become top :( I am so worried that he might lose his interest and look for somebody else, which he mentioned last night that worried me a lot, cos I love him so much, so does he. So please I need an urgent solution to overcome this issue and to have regular sex life with my lover. Thanx

Asked by Caliente
10th March 2012 (in Health)

Tags: penis erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, thank you for posting your question. The role's of Top (active) and Bottom (passive) in a relationship are differnt for each couple and for each person, there is no correct role to play, other than the role you are comfortable with yourself, you should never feel pressured to fit into a role you do not feel 100% comfortable with. Some men are 100% top and will never want to bottom and this can be for many reasons, each man with have his own answer, the same goes for some men who are 100% bottom. However some men are also versitile and will do either, you may also find men who will put it into a percentage when asked about their role saying "I'm 70% top, and 30% bottom" so guy who generally prefers to top than bottom, but is willing to bottom when he wants to. Also however, some, not all, will change roles as they get older, this could be because they acquire a new partner who is a differnt role, or because they want to experiment. For those that do try a different role, some will enjoy it and become versitile, and some will not enjoy and stick to the role than had before. Ultimately everyone is an individual and will chose their own role, and this could change over the course of the years, but not always. From what you have said, it sounds like you are finding it difficult to top, this could be for many reasons, but it sounds mainly psychological, you for whatever reason do not feel comfortable taking on that role. You should find a time, not during sex, to sit down with your partner and discus this issue, he should understand your concerns and uncertainty and acknowledge the role you are most comfortable with, you should never feel pressure to peform a role you are not happy to do, explain this to him and hopefully he will understand. Over time, you may feel for willing and wanting to try and top, but you may not as this is not a negative thing. If you partner is wanting to bottom and you are not keen to top then maybe suggest introducing some sex toys into the relationship, purchasing a dildo could fufil that desire your partner has. I hope he understands, and you can go on to have a healthy safe sex life. Feel free to get back in touch if you have any further comments or questions.

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Answered by team member Matt
15th March 2012

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Cum is like water

Hi i am 25 year old man,my penis cum is come like a water,i don't know what happened , why it is like this ,i really worried about my life now ,please help me

Asked by kumar
8th January 2013 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch. Please try not to worry, cum/semen can come in a wide range of texture, odor, and taste, there can even variation in color, including opaque white, transparent, and yellowish. This can be caused by a variety of factors such as diet, lifestyle and alcohol consumption and even lack of regular ejaculations. In your case, watery cum is generally linked to diet issues, a lack of zinc and lack of fructose. Try eating more fruits and vegetables that contain zinc and fructose and see if that improves the quality of your cum/seman. However, although unlikely based on the information you have provided, you may want to book an appointment with your GP/Doctor just to rule out something like a urinary infection for example, it probably isn't but for peace of mind it is always good to seek medical advice if your body suddenly changes. Your doctor will also be able to suggest good foods to eat and with a follow up meeting with him you can let him know if your sperm consistency has changed and if it hasn't he can look further into it. If you need further advice or support please do get back in touch.

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Answered by team member Matt
9th January 2013

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Bumps of smegma

I was just wondering whether it's possible to get hard bumps of smegma underneath the foreskin on the glans. I masturbate regularly and the bumps are easyilly seen through the foreskin when my penis is erect. They're mostly on the underside of my glans. Any clarification would be appreciated.

Asked by anonymous
7th February 2011 (in Health)

Tags: foreskin penis erection spots masturbation smegma

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Smegma is a natural secretion,produced by both men and women. This cheesy, sebaceous matter collects between the glans of the penis and the forskin, and is entirely normal. By washing your genitals at least once a day, making sure to retract the foreskin and get rid of any smegma, you will help keep your penis healthy and odour free. With daily washing, smegma will wash away. It will not remain in a hard lump stuck to your penis. It is likely what you see is an entirely normal condition called 'pearly penile papules,' which are small bumps that often form around the rim of the glans. These should be painless and benign, but if you have any worries about it, book an appointment to see your GP who should be able to put you mind at ease. If you have had unprotected sex, you should go to your local sexual health clinic to rule out the possibility of any STI's. If you would like more help with this, please give us a call: 01380 801951.

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Answered by team member Mara
8th February 2011

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Right testicle pain

Over the last 2 days i have had a dull pain in my right testicle, I have checked then over and not found any abnormal lumps or bumps. As i have felt it over as i feel the tip of the testicle the pain is at its worst. As you can more then likley understand i am pretty concerned about this and any advice / responces will be greatly appreciated.

Asked by Molton
10th June 2009 (in Health)

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

There many causes of testicular pain, some of which require immediate attention. As you have been experiencing this dull pain over a couple of days, it is most likely not due to trauma or torsion (twisting) of a testical. One cause of testicular pain is Epididymitis (testicle infection). This is an inflammation of the epididymis, usually due to an infection. It is the most common cause of testicular pain in men older than 18 years. It can be diagnosed with a urine sample and usually treated with antibiotics. However, this is normally accompanied by swelling, which you do not mention. As there are many possible causes, most easy to diagnose and treat, it is highly recommended you seek advice from your GP. If you would like further advice, or would prefer to use a local Sexual Health Clinic, please contact us. All calls are treated with strictest confidence.

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Answered by team member Mara
8th July 2009

I have not noticed any inflammation but thats not to say there isnt any.



I am currently taking Isotretinoin for my acne, in the leaflet that came with it they say that one of the undesirable effects could be that Leukoytes, Cells in the blood involved in fighting infection can decrease in numbers therefore making me more prone to infections.

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Answered by Molton
8th July 2009

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Taking medications can often have side effects, and it may well have contributed to the problem. When it comes to the possibility of testicular infection, if that is what you have, if left untreated, it can worsen. It is highly advisable you speak to your GP, to diagnose or rule out illness, especially if you find any further changes. It will be interesting to find out if the medication you are taking has contributed!

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Answered by team member Mara
8th July 2009

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Foreskin

As I get older(I'm 40)I've noticed my foreskin getting tighter.Is circumcision the only option?

Asked by Paul
10th October 2009 (in Health)

Tags: foreskin circumcision

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

No! A circumcision should be the last option for your condition. Your question appears to describe Acquired Phimosis (also known as Pathological Phimosis). Phimosis is a vague term used to describe any condition where the foreskin does not retract over the glans of the penis. All males are born with the foreskin attached. It can take years, even well into puberty, for the foreskin to be able to retract over the glans. This can be completely normal. In adult males, however, Phimosis can lead to problems including difficulty with urination and painful intercourse, among others which can become more serious. It is important you visit your GP to discuss this condition. Your GP will explain your options, which should include applying a topical steroid cream, gentle manual stretching or possibly a combination of both. There is also another surgical procedure called Preputialplasty, which releases the band of constricted skin but preserves much of the foreskin. Please do not be afraid to visit your GP for fear that a circumcision will be immediately recommended, as this should be a LAST RESORT. Your GP may also be able to give you an idea why this condition has occurred and advise you how to avoid it in the future. Please let us know how it goes and don't hesitate to contact if we can be of any help.

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Answered by team member Mara
21st October 2009

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Semen

why does my semen have bits in it like jelly

Asked by phil
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: gelatine ejaculation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Consistency of semen varies from individual to individual and can be affected by different factors such as diet, lifestyle and alcohol consumption.

Semen that contains jelly like bits can be attributed to lack of regular ejaculation. The semen will solidfy into these jelly like lumps, regular ejaculation will maintain a smooth consistency in your semen. If further reassurance is needed please refer to your GP.

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Answered by team member Alex
11th June 2009

i dont think that is true in my case,.. i have a healthy amount of ejaculation time and one out of every ten times its got jelly bits in

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Answered by skid
2nd June 2011

You have an infection in eihter you Bladder or you prostrate - go see your doc. Its not serious but needs to be treated. Its not an STD either.

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Answered by Dave
16th February 2012

There is nothing wrong with jelly like sperm. As long as it's not a greeny colour it is perfectly normal and won't be caused by an infection. My partner gets it so I have read up on it, it is something to do with proteins.

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Answered by Rebecca
11th May 2012

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Fluid at the time of foreplay.

Hi, I am 25 yr man. I hav a good sex life. The only problem I have is my penis discharges a sticky fluid when I am aroused. Initially I use to feel that's normal and natural. But now since I have changed numerous partners I realize that its not normal. They all ask me what's that? Coz they hav never seen that before. They also hesitate to give me a blow job and I feel worse? Please explain in detail and tell me if this can be stopped?

Asked by Rustam
22nd January 2013 (in Health)

Tags: penis

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thank you for getting in touch with Men's Sexual Health. What it sounds like you are describing is Pre-Cum, this is a substance that the penis produces when you are feeling sexually aroused and is perfectly normal. Not all men will get pre-cum and the amount can vary for those that do get it. So it is possible the partners you encounter have met men who don't get pre-cum when aroused. Re-assure them it is normal, it is just the penis producing its natural lubricant for sexual activity. However please let me make you aware of some facts about pre-cum. You are able to get a woman pregnant with pre-cum if you pull out before you ejaculate, as sperm can be found in pre-cum, also sexually transmitted infections, and HIV can be passed on in pre-cum, the only way to prevent this is to wear a condom. If you are having a good sex life with numerous partners, it is always best to wear a condom with each one, the more people you sleep with, the more risk you put yourself and them of passing or catching a Sexually transmitted infection. Even with blow jobs you risk passing or catching something, so try flavoured condoms for oral sex, condoms will also prevent any partner being concerned about the pre-cum issue.

Although you don't mention any other signs or symptoms, there is a small chance that you may already have an Sexually Transmitted infection because a discharge from the penis can be a sign of an infection, if that discharge isn't pre-cum. As you are asking advice without a medical exam we can't rule this out hence why we are also mentioning this issue. The fact you have also had a lot of sex with different partners is also another reason we would deferentially recommend you booking in at a sexual health clinic to be tested for all Sexually transmitted infections and HIV, it is better to be safe and responsible and get the medicine than to be ignorant and keep passing something on. If you live in the Swindon area please remember you can order free condoms from our website, or if you need help booking in for a sexual health test do please let us know.

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Answered by team member Matt
22nd January 2013

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Never happened b4, penis goes soft.

Hi me n my partner have always had a healthy sex life, but atm we where having problems and n the process of over coming that and sex was still fine. Just last nyt we used the durex tingle rub 4 the 1st time n was good at the start next min he went soft and this has never happened, he said it felt like he could fel nothing n when i touched his penis it felt weird ie cold and the only wey i can describe it is flabby feelin. I also have to add he takes dbol n has 4 a wile but this week he started takin a new batch could any of this be the problem or is it me? Its made me very paranoid as its never happened b4 n i dunno wat 2 do or say...

Asked by claire
5th March 2012 (in Health)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, thanks for getting in touch. Many men at some stage in their life will encounter erection problems for one reason or another, and its either a psychological problem, or a physiological problem that is causing this. You say this is the first time its happened to him, but start by saying you are having problems and process of over coming them, if he is feeling at all pressured/stressed/inadequate this could be having a knock on effect and be causing his erectile dysfunction. Regarding his dbol usage, it is not stated as a side effect, however other users have suffered a loss of libido (sex drive) and erections when taking this, as it can result in lowered levels of testosterone, however you say he's been taking it a while and this is the firs time its happened, does he find he has strong erections when he masterbates? Does he feel is sex drive has decresed?. A few ideas, maybe get him to refrain from taking dbol for a while if this is possible to see if he's levels pick back up. Going back to your opening line, have you thought about counselling to help work past whatever issues there as, as like I said if this is playing on his mind, it could be what is causing his loss of erections. Feel free to get back in touch if you have any more info or questions about this. I hope things improve for you both in the near future.

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Answered by team member Matt
5th March 2012

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Chlamydia antibiotics..

A few months ago my partner had a sevre chest infection whereby doctors placed him on all types of antibiotics (eventually four different types!). I have recently tested positive for chlamydia (which I know he gave me due to regular check ups) and wonder if he had it them months ago would the chest infection antibiotics cleared up his chlamydia? I am aware there is a link between the antibiotics used to treat both the conditions. An answer will be much appreciated, thanks! :)

Asked by anonymous
30th June 2010 (in Health)

Tags: chlamydia sti

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, thanks for getting in touch with your question. As your partner was being treated for a chest infection, the antibiotics he received were specific to treat that illness. When the medicine he was using wasn’t working, another one was tried, possibly before the first course of treatment was finished. Some antibiotics are used to treat a number of infections, so, might clear up a different infection to the diagnosed one being treated. The kind of treatment prescribed to treat Chlamydia will vary, depending on who is giving the medication, allergies, and other variables, and the number of days you take the antibiotics will depend on the illness and the type of antibiotic medicine. The most common antibiotics used to treat Chlamydia are azithromycin, which comes in a single dose, or doxycycline, sometimes called vibramycin, which is taken once or twice a day for at least one week, possibly two. Azithromycin and doxycycline cure chlamydia in up to 95 out of 100 cases. Some people may not be able to take these medicines but are able to take a different one. There can be many variables with these treatments. Also, even if your partner had the correct antibiotic and dosage for treating Chlamydia, if he didn’t abstain from sexual activity,during the treatment and for a week after, he risks recurrence of the infection. So, in summary, though it seems logical to think that if he had the type of antibiotics sometimes used to treat Chlamydia, that he should not have carried the infection since treatment for his chest infection, it is entirely possible that the Chlamydia could have survived through his 4 antibiotic treatments. I hope this helps clarify things for you. Please get back to us if we can help or if you have any further concerns.

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Answered by team member Mara
30th June 2010

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Lump of clear jelly in urine stream

Hi, For the last year or two, I have had a large lump of clear jelly like substance passing during or at the end of my urine stream. Sometimes it even comes out a few minutes after urinating. I don't experience any pain during urination or ejaculation whatsoever, but am concerned as to what this could be. I have been tested for STIs and I am all clear. I briefly mentioned this to my GP and he didn't think it was anything to worry about, although couldn't give me an explanation either. Any ideas??

Asked by Jim (aged 31) from United Kingdom
1st January 2016 (in Health)

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

This sounds like a function of your sexual organs: the prostate produces liquids, as do the testicles it is most probably from them. You have done the right things by going to your sexual health clinic and being checked for STIs and to your GP. If the problem persists and it continues to worry you it might be worth trying to catch one of these lumps in a clean jam jar and taking it to your GP. Yes, this is much easier said than done!



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Answered by team member Douglas
11th January 2016

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Chlamydia

can u get chlamydia from just kissing a girl

Asked by mike
31st July 2009 (in Health)

Tags: chlamydia

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Mike, Chlamydia can only be contracted from unprotected sexual contact, such as vaginal, oral, or anal sex, and cannot be caught by kissing.

If you have had unprotected sex and concerned you might have caught Chlamydia you can request a free test from us! Or pop along to you nearest GUM clinic for a full Screening

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Answered by team member Matt
2nd August 2009

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Cum quickly

Hello i m 25 i use to do masturbeat many time when i was 16 to 20. At the age of 20 to untill now i did not feel any attraction to do masturbeat. Since couple of years i meet many girls and try to perform sex but it was not happen. When i start kissing after 1,2 min i cum without get hard. Soo now my penis cum without get hard. I m not physicaly fit since at the age of 20. I got problm at that time. The problem was whenever i go to toilet for shit at the same time some sticky white water com from my penis. Right now i feel i hve nt get Any sexual attraction with girl. Please tell me whats kind of treatment i need.

Asked by Zik
25th August 2013 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation premature ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi and thank for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. Obviously yours in fairly serve case of PE as you cum before stating sex. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this technique in a relationship. Regarding when you go to the toilet, if you are no longer masturbating, when having a bowl movement, it could be pressing on your prostate, which is causing some seminal fluid to come out your penis as you are not expelling this from masturbation so your getting a build up of this. However if you have had unprotected sex, then this could possibly be a discharge from a sexually transmitted infection. Either way, we would suggest you seek advice from your GP/Doctor to diagnose and treat this issue further. We hope this has helped with your issue.

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Answered by team member Matt
28th August 2013