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Hi, gud day sir

hi, gud day sir. Am 19 and i hav bin mastibating seens when i was 15 and i hav never had sex before nw. my first time of trying to have sex i kissed my girlfriend and i felt nothing lik am liking my lips, then i tried squeesin her breast and sucking her nipples, i still felt nothing, i even put my dick in her and i suddenly got soft and she gav me a blowjob and i still felt nothin. While doin al dis i hav no sexuall urge wen am with her,we tried it another day and it was d same thing. And i still pressed a frnds breast and i felt nothin.pls help me i hav lost my confidence

Asked by kaff
22nd November 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: penis erection masturbation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thank for contacting MSH. Having sex for the first time can be an extremely nervous situation for most people. Because your mind and subconscious knows this, your body will react from these fears, worries and concerns, so many man find on their first time that either they ejaculate too soon, or find it difficult to keep or maintain an erection. Because this happened to you on your first attempt, when you went to try again, you would be even more nervous that this would occur again, thus your body fails to perform. The fact you can masturbate shows that you can get and maintain an erection, but as you are alone when you do that, you don't suffer any performance anxiety. We suggest talking to your gf about this, explain your anxiety, and hopefully she will understand and support you. When you try again, take your time, explore each others bodies, find different kinds of foreplay that turns each of you own, every person likes different areas to be kissed and touched. Don't stress if your body doesn't react right away, trying giving her pleasure, kissing her, using your hands, hopefully by making her happy will have a positive reaction on your body. We hope this helps.

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Answered by team member Matt
22nd November 2013

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