I've been with a guy for a few years and I get get checked a gum often and always come back clean, I found out my bf has never been checked and counts that cus I'm clean he must be. I know there are sti with no signs but would show in a screening, but HIV isn't always passed on first time, is there a chance he could be HIV without me having got it yet and without him showing symptoms? Or is this highly unlikely?
Asked by Jack
23rd June 2010 (in Sex)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Thanks for getting in touch with your concern. If you and your boyfriend have been in a monogamous relationship for few years, with you being tested regularly (for HIV and STI's)and having negative results, it is highly unlikely that he is HIV positive. There are a few things to consider though. It can, in vary rare instances, take years for a positive result. When you get tested for HIV, the test isn't for the virus itself, but for the HIV antibodies that your body makes to combat the HIV virus. For most people HIV antibodies show up in the blood within three months of being infected. If you test negative in three months then it's likely you are negative. In some rare cases it could take up to six months for HIV antibodies to show up in your blood. This would most likely only happen if your immune system is very weak and it takes a long time for your body to develop the HIV antibodies. If you get tested 3 months after your first test, without having put yourself in any risk in the meantime, then it is highly unlikely you are HIV+. It’s very, very rare that the HIV virus would go undetected after six months, but it can, unfortunately, happen. Possible? Yes. Likely? No. Also, in the unlikely event that either one of you is HIV+, it can take years for any symptoms of the virus to show. The best course of action to put your worries at ease would be for you to encourage him to be tested, possibly going along and being tested yourself. You clearly take your health seriously and may be able to put him at ease if he is uncomfortable in a medical setting, or with needles/injections, etc. With your support, he may be more willing to be screened, especially if you explain your concerns. Men’s Sexual Health offers a “Buddy Service”, whereby he can be accompanied to the Sexual Health Clinic, if he prefers not to go with someone he knows, but doesn’t want to go alone. I hope this helps. Please do get in touch if we can be of any further service or if you have any more questions.
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23rd June 2010
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