All questions tagged with erection

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Penis is not stand

Hi, i just got married 8 months ago. my sex life was very much ok. we intercourse every day with good feelings. Suddenly 4 days ago i realised my Penis is not standing while foreplay. I thought its normal but the next day also same thing happen. its now 4 days my penis is not stand. its not stand even 20 percent. seems no feelings in my Penis. i m worried about it that. Pls suggest me. and let me know is there is any issue.

Asked by Srikant
29th October 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur.

Are you able to get an erection when you masturabte alone, if you are then it probably shows that there is nothing wrong physiologically with you and this it is more of a psychological issue.

We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Being open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor. But based on what you have said in your question, its prob psychological, performance anxiety, so counselling may help. Please let us know if we can be of further help.

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Answered by team member Matt
1st November 2013

When I jack it out and the white thing is about to come out my penis hurts

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Answered by Ayaan
29th February 2016

To determine whether it is psychological you may want to focus on your train of thought.



The only thing that should be in your head is what you are going to do with your partner, the touch and feel. You can get yourself turned on if you are good at picturing things and have a good imagination.



Personally I use it both ways, this way I can control my ejaculation mentally. It prevents premature ejaculation and gets you ready faster.

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Answered by Kenn
6th July 2016

I may not have clarified enough. If you use the method I mentioned you must be able to think of specific things only. If you think "Am I doing this right?" you have failed already. My girlfriend says she can see it in my eyes clearly when I am focusing my thoughts on this.

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Answered by Kenn
6th July 2016

Which Doctor should we go to for Such Disease Could any one Tell Please ?

Like for tooth we go to Dentist, for ears we go to ENT and Which doctor should we to for such Disease ?

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Answered by Abdullah
19th August 2016

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Spontaneous ejaculation

When I'm anxious or excited I quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. It can be as simple as a stressful email at work, or if I think I'm going to miss the bus or something. I'm not saying that it happens every time something like that happens, but it does happen quite often, maybe a couple of times a month. I don't have an erection or anything when it happens. It can be quite awkward if I'm talking to someone or something, and I can't get to the toilet in time. This has been happening for years, on and off (I'm 35 now and I think it first happened during my exams, so I think it is more mental than physical). I take a spare pair of boxer shorts to work because of it, it happens so often. This doesn't happen when I have sexual thoughts, but I have a couple of sort of fetishes which can set it off. So, should I be worried? Anything I can do?

Asked by Dave
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation premature ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Dave,

Thanks for coming to us with your concern. This is obviously a serious problem for you, effecting you not only physically, but mentally and no doubt emotionally as well. There are many factors to take into consideration when trying to understand what the cause of spontaneous ejaculation could be, from physical to psychological to stimulation and medication, among other things. Though you've given a description of your problem, there are still many questions to be asked in order to get an idea which direction one would need to look for an answer.

Sometimes, these kind of problems can be linked to issues with an enlarged prostate, however, this generally happens to older men, and, as this has been going on since what appears to be your teens, it's probably not likely. Some medications (including antidepressants) can have the side effect of spontaneous ejaculation. It could be something as simple as too much stimulation that you're not aware of. Perhaps if you switched to briefs instead of boxers it might help. It is difficult to advise you with any kind of certainty as to the definate cause. The best course of action is for you to visit your GP who will be able to take a medical history and ask all the necessary questions, before advising you in this case. Hope this helps. Please let us know the outcome, as we are very curious ourselves.

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Answered by team member Mara
29th September 2010

Ok, thanks for your reply, not sure if I should be flattered or concerned that I seem to be a medical curiosity! I'm not sure if I want to bother a doctor about this, as aside from the embarrassment of describing it face to face it does not seem to be life threatening. I was sort of hoping it was common and only I did not know about it! If I do go to the Doctors and they can tell me exactly what is going on I will let you know.

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Answered by Dave
30th September 2010

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Well, we wouldn't call you a medical curiosity, but it would be interesting to know what the underlying cause is, especially in case anyone else came along who suffered the same problem! As for bothering your doctor, don't worry about that, you have a genuine concern. It would be best to have this looked at sooner rather than later. Though the condition may not bother you now, it may become more difficult to cope with as you age. From what you describe, it doesn't seem to show signs of letting up. GP's are used to patients being uncomfortable with discussing certain issues and should handle the situation professionally in a way to put you at ease. Men can be notoriously reluctant to visit medical professionals when it comes to their health... So, it's part of our job to give you a gentle nudge to make that dreaded appointment... We look forward to hearing from you again!

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Answered by team member Mara
30th September 2010

I am on doxycyclene right now for a testicular infection. upon taking the second pill this morning I had two spontaneous full on orgasms within 15 mins of each other. I have never had this happen before.Maybe you should get checked out.You may have a simple to cure infection.Im going to check with my GP to make sure this is normal.

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Answered by steve
18th January 2013

Hi, it's very interesting to read your mail. I also have spontaneous ejacualtions sometimes. They can happen anytime anywhere ... and can be embarrassing too, so I really understand how you feel. I "deal with it" the same way, bring extra underwear and change. I didnt want to ask the Dr as it's not like I'm sick or anything. I?m just trying to get on with it

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Answered by Luke
2nd June 2013

This sort of thing happens to me too (almost). It's only ever full on happened twice and both times it was when I was rushing to get something done. The first was in 8th grade (yeah...) trying to finish an art project before the bell rang. Luckily it was the end of the day and I had dark pants but it happened again freshman year of high school trying to finish an essay before the bell. It was 2nd period and I was wearing khakis. How there was no stain was a miracle. But every so often when I'm in a situation with high anxiety (performing, pressured situations of waiting, being with a girl I'm not comfortable around) I can feel it about to happen and a little leaks out. I usually dig my nails into my palms, arms, and back of my hands, hoping I can focus on the pain to reduce the feeling of ejaculation. I'm 19 going on 20 now and I want to know how to stop this because it BLOWS.

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Answered by Erik
6th August 2013

I had the same problem during my teens. My first experience was during exams, the last minute and haven't finished writing. I shot a load on my pants and had to rush to the toilet and deliberately spoil water over my pants to disguise it. Now I'm 40 and never had it since although I have had close encounters.... I thought I was the only one and this its my first tonne I've seek answers about. Unfortunately seemingly there's no medical explanation of the cause.

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Answered by Bhutini
13th August 2013

Hi, I had this happen to me when I was teenager now 50, but it use to happen to me while taking an exam. During final minutes and I had not finish yet, just the rush of not being done yet and they wher e going to take the tests away from us would make me heave an orgasm. Sometimes more than one. I'll say that it wasn't unpleasant, by the contrary I enjoyed it. It continued during college. Now not anymore since I dont take tests, but I wish I could feel this again. I have searched for other thrills, but nothing compares to the test taking. Just my grain of salt

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Answered by Bukake
15th November 2013

yes i have had the same problem for years, but much worse, and it has

affected my career. I've seen a neurologist about it who said it was

similar to premature ejaculation (but it isnt sexually aroused), but

there is a new medication out now called silodosin, after a case in

Japan.



I first had a spontaneous ejaculation at 14 in an exam. No sexual

thoughts are involved. After that, all my exams were suspect, and it

happened several other times, forcing me to take extra clothes to

school. It then spread to public speaking, where i have had to curtail

my career. At university i couldnt do any presentations, despite being

an able student and good speaker. I am now in my 40s.



The problem doesnt respond to efforts to reduce, despite much effot,

as i think it acts much like sweating, it is a physical neurological

response to a stimuli, usually fear or stress, much like the body

responds to heat with sweat. In my view it is not curable once

learned. fear or it occurring is enough for it to occur. Fear of

ejaculation-causes ejaculation.



The medical establishment is not very aware of this problem, but there

is a paper about the drug silodosin which someone directed me to,

which makes dry ejaculations, which at least stops the wetness and

odour.

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Answered by thingadonta1
15th February 2016

There are a lot of real stories like yours, with orgasms induced by stress during exams. It is not a medical case, in my humble opinion, it is more a very nice gift of our mind/body while we are in a very difficult situation.

It happened to me several times during one or two hours, when I was 11 or 12, being very scarred that my bike was stolen by a friend, who actually asked me to let him have a ride with my new bike. He was gone for 15-20 min, and I started to be very anxious/scared, and suddenly a very pleasurable feeling in my pants, even without erection, gave me a strong orgasm... It was sooo good that I had to touch my penis trying somehow to stop it. And after several more minutes another one came, intense, and another one... countless orgasms, without feeling exhausted as when I cum during masturbation. Finally, when my friend came back with my bike, I was a bit sad that the pleasurable experience stopped.

Another story of these non-sexual and non-masturbating orgasms of mine was the intense climax during climbing a pole in the school yard, again at the age of 12 approx. There was no touching of my penis to the pole, no rubbing at all, nit even erection. This was more easy to reproduce, and even tell to my best friends how good it feels if you try to climb the pole several times. Later, when I was around 14, I Climbed again that pole, late in the afternoon, when nobody was looking, and when suddenly the good intense feeling approached, very quickly I took out my penis from the short pants and ejaculated in the air...

There was also no erection, no sex thoughts, nothing. Just a pure orgasm coming from nowhere.

I believe we are special and lucky to experience such feelings.

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Answered by Dan
11th August 2016

Same thing happened to me when I was 14 yo. I am 57 yo male.

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Answered by anonymous
10th September 2016

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Penis goes soft

i m a 21 year guy n itx been a year that m in a relation and my girlfriend and me had really enjoyed havin sex bt itx been couple of months that while having sex my dick goes soft with ejaculation or i ejaculate to quick u cn say with in a minute.itx happened so rarely in the begnings bt now its like evry time we do it i have 2 face that.it is really emabarsing for me to go soft again and again in front my gf and she is also thinking that i am not intersted in having sex with her anymore thats why its hapning,let me mension here to that we both r also having problems in our reltionship and we just keep arguing with each other,so i just want to know that whether its a mental or sexual problem.please help me out of this situation

Asked by mr hash
10th June 2009 (in Sex)

Tags: penis ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

The problem you feel you are having actually sounds quite normal. After a man ejaculates, his penis usually becomes soft, returning to its smaller pre-erect state. He will usually need some time to recover, before he can have another erection and ejaculation. This recovery period is called the refractory period, and generally, is quicker for younger men. Some men can have an erection immediately afterwards, some can have a few orgasms/ejaculations in a few hours, whilst others take longer to become erect again. It all falls within the normal parameters of sexual health!

If you had difficulty maintaining an erection during sex, in your circumstance, the most likely cause would be mental; due to the problems you are having in your relationship. Erectile dysfunction, when your penis goes soft during when you don’t want it to, has many causes, both physical and mental and affects most men at some point in their life. To help prevent these kinds of problems in the future, you need to address your relationship issues with your girlfriend. If you've been fighting, even if you're having makeup sex, you most likely have residual worries that weigh on you that can affect you both. She may be experiencing similar feelings of worry, making it difficult for her to orgasm. If you two can work on your relationship issues, and not fight so much, it will no doubt ease the pressure you feel when you are having sex, as wedll as make life together happier! If you are finding that you ejaculate too quickly, again, your mind can play a large part in that. One thing you can try is using condoms, as they can help reduce sensitivity. There are also special condoms and lubricant you can use, that have a slight numbing effect on the penis, to help you last longer. The Delay brand, by Pasante or Performa by Durex, along with other store brands like Boots are specially made to help with premature ejaculation. These products prolong lovemaking by using a low dosage skin numbing ingredient like benzocaine, to reduce sensitivity and postpone orgasm. I hope this all helps. Please get back to us if you have any more questions or worries.

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Answered by team member Mara
11th October 2010

Hello, I am a 57 years old, i love having sex but the last few years it is very difficult to get a erection, when i do it lt last about a minute. Even i am going ejaculate my penis is soft! that can't be normal. I have gone to specialist's and G.P's, for treatment but nothing works. i have tried viagra that doesn't work, so i am absolutely stump!! Oh yes! i have lost two previous relationships over this!

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Answered by michael
12th August 2016

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Pennis size ?

hello dr. im 21 years old boy from dubai, dr my pennis size is 4 inch i want to grown it how to do that ?dr from last 2 days my pennis is not standing when last time i had sex my pennis was not that hard as before and it sleep so fast while having sex im in tention that this may cause serious problem , im 101 kgs almost im trying to lose weight kindly help me out .

Asked by zayn (aged 21) from United Arab Emirates
13th December 2015 (in Sex)

Tags: penis size premature ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

We all have different penis sizes and shapes. You can't change what you have, although there are a few surgical ways of trying to make your penis more prominent. But actually there are plenty of guys with a penis much shorter than your 4 inches who can and do have good sex. You might like to read the section on our website about penis size. We hope that this information helps, worrying about performance and size will unfortunately contribute to the problems you describe, try not to worry about it and try to focus on other aspects of sex. You might find this response to a previous question helpful too:





Question on Erectile Dysfunction





You say you are overweight, this almost certainly means that the base of your penis is hidden in some fat. It would look and measure more if you could lose weight – we have a section on ideal weight range for your height and weight loss help.



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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016

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Involuntary ejaculation

My husband is nearly 52 and for six months or more has found that he ejaculates two or three times a day without an erection or any stimulation. He may just be doing some work in the house with no sexual thoughts. He has always been highly sexed and this has not changed as he ages but he is finding this problem uncomfortable. It doesn't happen every day but it can also make it harder to ejaculate during sex.

Asked by MrsFrog
10th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: ejaculation premature ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Given your husband's age combined with the symptom of spontaneous ejaculation, the most likely cause of his problem is an enlarged prostate, resulting on oversensitivity. Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) is a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged as part of the aging process. Most commonly, it effects urination, often restricting the flow, or even in later stages, contributing to UTI's. When the Prostate, also referred to as 'the Male G-Spot' is stimulated or massaged, it can result in an orgasm without an erection. If your husband is doing work that requires abdominal loading or pelvic straining, it may be putting pressure on his potentially enlarged prostate, thus resulting in ejaculation. As for the difficulty ejaculating during sex, normally BHP would result in easier to attain ejaculation; however, it could be restricting with an erection.

Being highly sexed is a good thing for your husband. Regular ejaculation allows testosterone to flow freely and is known to reduce the risk of prostate problems and cancer in men. Masturbation is sometimes recommended for men who experience delayed ejaculation issues.

The best course of action is for your husband to speak to his GP. He will need to go further into detail about what kind of activities bring on ejaculation and if he is taking any kind of medication. Please encourage him to visit his GP as soon as he can. We’d love to hear back from you to find out what the final diagnosis is. Please don’t hesitate to contact us again if we can be of any help.

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Answered by team member Mara
21st June 2010

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My penis gets soft

Hi. I am a gay guy and I have been dating with my BF more than a year. Until 3 months ago I had always been bottom in my life, but recently I became versatile. The problem is my penis gets very soft when I try to have anal sex with him, the moment it touches his anu it gets very soft, which hurts him so much and makes me very mad :( It sometimes works and we can have regular sex but for the 4 weeks I cant be top :( when I hug him, he touches my dick and he sucks it, or I become bottom in bed my penis gets very hard, but not when I try to become top :( I am so worried that he might lose his interest and look for somebody else, which he mentioned last night that worried me a lot, cos I love him so much, so does he. So please I need an urgent solution to overcome this issue and to have regular sex life with my lover. Thanx

Asked by Caliente
10th March 2012 (in Health)

Tags: penis erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, thank you for posting your question. The role's of Top (active) and Bottom (passive) in a relationship are differnt for each couple and for each person, there is no correct role to play, other than the role you are comfortable with yourself, you should never feel pressured to fit into a role you do not feel 100% comfortable with. Some men are 100% top and will never want to bottom and this can be for many reasons, each man with have his own answer, the same goes for some men who are 100% bottom. However some men are also versitile and will do either, you may also find men who will put it into a percentage when asked about their role saying "I'm 70% top, and 30% bottom" so guy who generally prefers to top than bottom, but is willing to bottom when he wants to. Also however, some, not all, will change roles as they get older, this could be because they acquire a new partner who is a differnt role, or because they want to experiment. For those that do try a different role, some will enjoy it and become versitile, and some will not enjoy and stick to the role than had before. Ultimately everyone is an individual and will chose their own role, and this could change over the course of the years, but not always. From what you have said, it sounds like you are finding it difficult to top, this could be for many reasons, but it sounds mainly psychological, you for whatever reason do not feel comfortable taking on that role. You should find a time, not during sex, to sit down with your partner and discus this issue, he should understand your concerns and uncertainty and acknowledge the role you are most comfortable with, you should never feel pressure to peform a role you are not happy to do, explain this to him and hopefully he will understand. Over time, you may feel for willing and wanting to try and top, but you may not as this is not a negative thing. If you partner is wanting to bottom and you are not keen to top then maybe suggest introducing some sex toys into the relationship, purchasing a dildo could fufil that desire your partner has. I hope he understands, and you can go on to have a healthy safe sex life. Feel free to get back in touch if you have any further comments or questions.

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Answered by team member Matt
15th March 2012

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Water drop during erection and itchy top of penis

thanks for taking your time to read this messege. i have this problem from last many years i would say. whenever i get erection in a minute drops starts coming out of my penis , which firstly effect the erection and i Cum very fast . Also the top end of my penis (Glans) are is gets very itchy which seems to me very serious bcz of that i cant enjoy erection. i did too much masturbation as well.

Asked by shah
6th July 2011 (in Sex)

Tags: precum penis ejaculation premature ejaculation erection masturbation gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are describing pre-cum, not all men get this, and those that do it can vary from just a little leak to a lot, but let me reasure you this is perfectly normall. Pre-cum is a clear fluid that emits from the tip of the penis when a man is sexually aroused, and its purpose is to act as a lubricant (please be aware this can transmit STI, HIV and can contain sperm if you are not using barrier methods such as condoms to have safe sex with). In very rare cases some men over produce this, if this is the case I would discuss with you GP if possible.

Regarding the cumming very fast, this could be for various reasons, and I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your pre-cum. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer.

Regarding the itchy end of your penis, if you masturbate too often then yes the penis could become sore, but there could also be other reasons, it could be a reaction to soap or cleaning product you are currently using, or it could be and Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI), again I would recommend going to you doctor/GP and explain your concerns and get tested as most STI's can be treated.

Please get back to us if you still have any further concerns.

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Answered by team member Matt
7th July 2011

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Bumps of smegma

I was just wondering whether it's possible to get hard bumps of smegma underneath the foreskin on the glans. I masturbate regularly and the bumps are easyilly seen through the foreskin when my penis is erect. They're mostly on the underside of my glans. Any clarification would be appreciated.

Asked by anonymous
7th February 2011 (in Health)

Tags: foreskin penis erection spots masturbation smegma

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Smegma is a natural secretion,produced by both men and women. This cheesy, sebaceous matter collects between the glans of the penis and the forskin, and is entirely normal. By washing your genitals at least once a day, making sure to retract the foreskin and get rid of any smegma, you will help keep your penis healthy and odour free. With daily washing, smegma will wash away. It will not remain in a hard lump stuck to your penis. It is likely what you see is an entirely normal condition called 'pearly penile papules,' which are small bumps that often form around the rim of the glans. These should be painless and benign, but if you have any worries about it, book an appointment to see your GP who should be able to put you mind at ease. If you have had unprotected sex, you should go to your local sexual health clinic to rule out the possibility of any STI's. If you would like more help with this, please give us a call: 01380 801951.

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Answered by team member Mara
8th February 2011

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Sperm comes out faster some time on only touching and penis is not getting hard it is lose and short

Sir/mam when ever I geting sex with my gf. My sperm comes faster some times only on touching and my penis is not so much tight and long

Asked by Ravi Kumar (aged 20) from India
23rd November 2015 (in Sex)

Tags: penis ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Ejaculating very quickly ("premature ejaculation") is quite a common problem and it often settles down and stops happening as you get older and more experienced sexually.





When you are having sex with someone else, a longer period of foreplay without touching your penis can improve it for you both. Try to find things to do for each other which feel nice without any contact with your penis. Then, if you go inside her, if you pull out again soon before you reach a climax and you (or your partner) squeeze your penis hard below the head, this will usually stop the climax and after a few moments you can start again. You can also try this technique when you are masturbating and see if you can control your orgasm and cum later.





There is professional help available from sex therapists if you are able to see one of them



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Answered by team member Dr Peter
9th January 2016

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Penis hurts and goes soft during sex

I am a 30 year old man and a couple of weeks ago i was having sex with my girlfriend and it popped and since then my penis has been going numb during sex and also goes soft. some stuff comes out of it when its hard, but its not cum or pre cum. it also hurts to pee sometimes. i dont have a problem gettin hard, just goes soft during sex

Asked by jc
22nd December 2010 (in Sex)

Tags: penis ejaculation erection gay

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

There is a chance you might haveincurred a penile fracture. The popping sound you mention is an indication of this. A penile fracture normally results in the penis going limp, with significant pain and brusing to the area. Since you don't mention any of these other symptoms this might not be what has happened, but we would recommend seeking medical help from your GP on this issue as leaving a penile fracture could result in further issues around maintaining an erection.

Regarding the fluid coming out of your penis, I don't know if this could be related to your injury, but the most common reason for a discharge from the penis, that is not cum or pre cum, would be an STI (sexually transmitted infection) such as chlamydia or gonorrhea. The pain when you urinate could also come from an STI. These can be tested for at your local GUM clinic, or when you see you GP regarding the possible penile fracture.

If you have any further questions please come back to our site or give us a call, but we would recommend seeing your GP soon.

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Answered by team member Matt
22nd December 2010

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Never happened b4, penis goes soft.

Hi me n my partner have always had a healthy sex life, but atm we where having problems and n the process of over coming that and sex was still fine. Just last nyt we used the durex tingle rub 4 the 1st time n was good at the start next min he went soft and this has never happened, he said it felt like he could fel nothing n when i touched his penis it felt weird ie cold and the only wey i can describe it is flabby feelin. I also have to add he takes dbol n has 4 a wile but this week he started takin a new batch could any of this be the problem or is it me? Its made me very paranoid as its never happened b4 n i dunno wat 2 do or say...

Asked by claire
5th March 2012 (in Health)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi, thanks for getting in touch. Many men at some stage in their life will encounter erection problems for one reason or another, and its either a psychological problem, or a physiological problem that is causing this. You say this is the first time its happened to him, but start by saying you are having problems and process of over coming them, if he is feeling at all pressured/stressed/inadequate this could be having a knock on effect and be causing his erectile dysfunction. Regarding his dbol usage, it is not stated as a side effect, however other users have suffered a loss of libido (sex drive) and erections when taking this, as it can result in lowered levels of testosterone, however you say he's been taking it a while and this is the firs time its happened, does he find he has strong erections when he masterbates? Does he feel is sex drive has decresed?. A few ideas, maybe get him to refrain from taking dbol for a while if this is possible to see if he's levels pick back up. Going back to your opening line, have you thought about counselling to help work past whatever issues there as, as like I said if this is playing on his mind, it could be what is causing his loss of erections. Feel free to get back in touch if you have any more info or questions about this. I hope things improve for you both in the near future.

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Answered by team member Matt
5th March 2012

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My penis is not standing

sir m 18yrs n for last 2yrs i hv nt shaken penis and now it doesn't stand may i watch porno/blue flim or any sex time in front of me, so give me solution how my penis may stand?

Asked by dhanno
6th November 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. What you are describing is a case of Erectile Dysfunction. This is when a man finds it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There are generally two types of ED, Physiological or Psychological. Physiological issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. Psychological issues include, Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur. We would recommend speaking to your GP/Doctor so they can determine if it a physiological issue or a psychological issue. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. If its physiological they will be able to run the appropriate tests and prescribe the right course of treatment for this, please do not seek medications online, you risk being prescribed the wrong medicine or worse, purchasing fake medicine that could end up doing more harm than good, so please make an appointment with your own doctor so they can explore what is causing this.

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Answered by team member Matt
8th November 2013

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Pre cum and losing erection

Hi, whenever I try and have sex, I generate some amount of precum, i understand its normal, but because of that I lose my erection within a minute or so and then don't get erect enough to perform intercourse. I am a 25year old male and have no other health problems. Also this doesn't happen during masturbation.

Asked by Adam
9th September 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: precum ejaculation erection masturbation

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us. There are two areas for erectile dysfunction, it is either a physiological issue or a psychological issue. As you are able to get an erection when masturbating, this shows it is not a physiological issue, just a psychological issue. What is it about pre-cum that causes you to lose your erection, as surely this also gets produced when you are masturbating. You seem to be suffering with some form of performance anxiety, you may benefit from some of sexual therapy/counselling to get over this issue. Please get in touch if you have further info/help needed.

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Answered by team member Matt
11th September 2013

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Cum quickly

Hello i m 25 i use to do masturbeat many time when i was 16 to 20. At the age of 20 to untill now i did not feel any attraction to do masturbeat. Since couple of years i meet many girls and try to perform sex but it was not happen. When i start kissing after 1,2 min i cum without get hard. Soo now my penis cum without get hard. I m not physicaly fit since at the age of 20. I got problm at that time. The problem was whenever i go to toilet for shit at the same time some sticky white water com from my penis. Right now i feel i hve nt get Any sexual attraction with girl. Please tell me whats kind of treatment i need.

Asked by Zik
25th August 2013 (in Health)

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi and thank for getting in touch with MSH. Many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal. Obviously yours in fairly serve case of PE as you cum before stating sex. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, these are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. Solution number 4 is prob going to help the most, the longer you can last on your own, the more chance you can use this technique in a relationship. Regarding when you go to the toilet, if you are no longer masturbating, when having a bowl movement, it could be pressing on your prostate, which is causing some seminal fluid to come out your penis as you are not expelling this from masturbation so your getting a build up of this. However if you have had unprotected sex, then this could possibly be a discharge from a sexually transmitted infection. Either way, we would suggest you seek advice from your GP/Doctor to diagnose and treat this issue further. We hope this has helped with your issue.

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Answered by team member Matt
28th August 2013

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Penis not hard and shoot to soon

I'm going to gym for a year now, the problem is my discharge time(sperm) is reduce and Penis is not become Hard as earlier so i think gym training is the cause of this problem, what you suggest, answer me please.

Asked by Ricky
8th February 2013 (in Sex)

Tags: penis erection discharge

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thank you for contacting Men's Seuxal Health. You seem to have two concerns, your penis not getting hard and ejaculating (discharge) too soon. I will attempt to address both these issue. First, erection problems are either a physical issue, or psychological issue. Most men have experienced some form of erectile issue during their life, some its a passing phase, others it can be a longer issue where support is needed, and that could be medical or psychological depending on whats causing it

For example some Physical issues include - deterioration of the arteries (this is more common in older men), diabetes, smoking, alcoholism, overweight, hormone problems. And some Psychological issues include - anxiety/nerves, relationship problems, depression, exhaustion, stress, childhood abuse.

It is unlikely the fact that you go to the gym that is causing this, usually the fact that you go to the gym is a positive good thing, and would normally effect the body in a good way.

Regarding your second issue, discharging too soon, again many men suffer from Premature ejaculation, a recent UK survey said 10% of male population had suffered with PE at some point in their life. Another European study classed PE as lasting around 1.8 mins, and with 7.3 mins being classed as normal, would you say you fall into this first category as what you class as PE might not be PE. There are initially 4 treatments for PE - 1) Distraction method - when you are nearing climax, think about something comepletely different than whats going on. 2) Applying a delay gel to your penis, this will decrease sensitivity and hopefully improve your duration. 3) Delay condoms, this are coated with the delay gel and with the added thickness of the condom this too will help improve your duration. 4) start stop method - when alone try masterbating till u reach the point where you are going to climax but stop yourself, repeat this 3 or 4 times to build up your own self control, and then allow yourself to climax, after a few times a week doing this, you should find yourself lasting longer. The penis will naturally lose erection most times after ejaculation, but after a short period of rest time, some men are able to get erect and ejaculate again. Again it is unlikely that going to the gym is causing this issue either. The fact you are suffering from both erection and premature ejaculation makes me think you have more of a psychological problem to overcome than anything going on with your body physically. We would suggest trying some sexual therapy/counselling, if you live in the Swindon area we can provide this for free. You could also discuss this with your GP/Doctor to confirm there is no underlying health issues going on and they should also be able to suggest a good counselling service if they also think you would benefit from such treatment. Please get back in touch if you need any further advice or support.

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Answered by team member Matt
12th February 2013

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Soft penis that ejaculates

my husband is hard and bugs me for sex. I get in the bed and he rubs his penis next to my vagina and cum. It's never hard and because of that and he so quick, I start masterbating myself. I am tired of being let down. I don't tell him. I just take care of myself before we get in the act and after b/c i am so horny. What is wrong with him? now I avoid having sex with him and he thinks i got a problem.

Asked by anonymous
12th March 2011 (in Health)

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

It sounds like a big part of the problem between you and your husband is communicating with each other. The longer your situation continues when you are trying to be intimate, the more difficult it will be to address. It may seem hard for you to sit down and speak with your husband about these sensitive issues, but that is the best chance to work through your problem. It is not uncommon for couples to experience sexual problems, and for both people to get frustrated. If the two of you can start talking about what is happening, you can try to come up with solutions, together. If you find it too difficult to speak with him alone, there are professionals who can help you. Please feel free to contact us for more help with this matter: 01380-801951

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Answered by team member Mara
22nd March 2011

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Erection Problems

My boyfriend is having occasional problems with his erection not going down in the morning, regardless of whether he's managed to pee or not and the longer his penis stays erect the more painful it becomes. On the most recent occasion he tried his usual method to get it to go down by washing his penis with cold water, this time it didn't work and he ended up having to put an ice-pack on it. Although this problem is only occasional it is worrying although he's not worried enough to see a doctor yet. Any advice please?

Asked by Deb
29th June 2009 (in Health)

Tags: penis erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Hi Deb, to give specific advice I would require further information for example does you boyfiend use a supplement such as viagra or is he currently taking any prescribed or non-prescribed medication? It might be more beneficial if could encourage him to call us to discuss his situation in more detail. Either on 01380 801951 during office hours or 07970 473962.

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Answered by team member Mark
30th June 2009

Thank you for your prompt response, I'll try and get my boyfriend to give you a call. What I will say is he's in his late 40's, takes no supplements or medication (either prescribed or otherwise) and is generally fit and healthy. He's not overweight, has a good diet and although he does no fixed exercise, he does a lot of DIY, a fair bit of walking and some gardening to keep fit.

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Answered by Debs
30th June 2009

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Involuntary / spontaneous orgasms

I'm 16 years old male and I'm very serious about this. When I'm mildly anxious quite often have a spontaneous ejaculation. So basically every time I am writing an exam, i wear so much in my pants to hide this now, pants > shorts > underwear. I use to be pretty normal, school ends go to the park and play with friends. Now I cannot enjoy music or watching movies or any other activities as much as I used to. I don?t even care for regular social contact with friends or family anymore. This didn't all mysteriously happen, when I was 14 years old I had to get an appendix surgery, I know this is a very common procedure and happens so many times but after the surgery It was difficult to pee but it eventually got normal and I kept feeling physical arousal at my penis, like hypersensitivity slight movements would trigger it, I didn't really know how to explain it back then so i didn't even mention it. In school one day we had a test, I studied hard for it and there was like one question that i found difficult and my anxiety nerve went up mildy and that mildy made me spontaneous ejaculate. I was so distressed that day and felt so uncomfortable that something like that can happen without any control on my part. I told my dad and we went to an MD, refered to an urologist. The urologist which I waited so many months for said I was normal(do i have to record this for him or what!) yet I still get spontaneous ejaculations and hypersensitivity constantly. This is so embarrassing and i don't know what to do anymore. I also cant do presentation, luckily my doctor sent a document to my school that says i have extreme anxiety that excludes me from doing presentations (i don't but they aren't going to say spontaneous orgasm so im okay with it). What do i do? I came across this while searching i think he explained what happens during a test much better then i did: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskDocs/comments/2uwgak/spontaneous_ejaculationorgasm_or_due_to_stress/ it is literally this, i messaged the op but it seems that account is inactive i hope he replies i asked him if he has fixed it somehow. I'm very desperate and i feel the medical system has failed me. My urologist would just lecture me how im at that age where i get "wet dreams and body development" and stuff i already knew. I don't know what else to do? See another doctor? See another urologist? See a psychologist?

Asked by Adrian (aged 16) from Canada
20th March 2016 (in Health)

Tags: penis ejaculation premature ejaculation erection gay testing

Hi, you may read my post (Dan) on a similar topic here:

http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/qa/question/spontaneous-ejaculation/

I think we are lucky!

Apart of the little wet mess in our underwear, there is no need to worry about. Enjoy the nice feeling...

Do you have more than one orgasm during one exam? After you are done (with the pleasure) do you feel ok going to finish the exam?

I also had/have countless wet dreams in which I am dreaming to be at school exams, loosing the train or missing the flight.

Again, I think we are a lucky minority. You may share your story with your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I am sure she/he will get very aroused. It would be the perfect foreplay.

I am also sure that after you will start your sex life with a partner, these exam orgasm will diminish. At least when you will finish your school. You will miss the pleasure...

And I absolutely advise NOT to go to another doctor. You (we) are perfectly normal!

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Answered by Dan
12th August 2016

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Penis size

Is there any way to make your penis longer when it's flacid and when it's hard? What are some good tricks to lasting longer and to not pre ejaculate?

Asked by Josh
23rd May 2013 (in Health)

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Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Thanks for contacting MSH. This is a very common question on our Q&A. What you think as small may not be small. Many men would like to increase the size of their penis as penis size is one of the biggest male concerns, nearly all men worry at some stage in their life about the size of their penis. A lot of it can be due to watching porn and seeing how big other men are, but men in porn tend to always be very well hung and that is why they use them in porn. Some men are so unsatisfied it can cause them great distress and make them seek out ways to increase their size. Please ignore any adverts you find on the internet, in magazines or emails claiming to make your penis bigger via any form of pills, you could be putting yourself in more harm and these pills do not work. The only way to change the size of your penis is through surgery and this is extremely risky and could result in you unable to get an erection. The male penis comes in all shapes and sizes, all over the world there are different sizes, for example in India the average size is 4 inches, the UK is 5.5 and the congo in Africa is 7. We are all built differently and never let someone make you feel inadequate with what you have, people fall in love with the person not the penis. There are many different positions you can try with a partner so that you are both sexually satisfied, experiment and see what works best for you. You may benefit from some form of sexual counselling if it is affecting your life a lot, and if you live in Swindon please get in touch as we offer a free counselling service. Regarding pre-ejaculate, if you'd like to look at the question below this one you will find a question from someone who asking the same thing, and technique 4 will also help with you lasting longer. We hope this helps, please get in touch if we can be of any further support.

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Answered by team member Matt
23rd May 2013

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Weakened orgasim

I am 56 over the past few years my orgasms do not seem to be as enjoyable and I seem to ejaculate less fluid. I find it hard to get erect unless I watch porn. I still find myself getting aroused mentally when I see my wife undressed but when we make love it take ages to get aroused.

Asked by George.
22nd June 2011 (in Sex)

Tags: dysfunction ejaculation erection

Response from Men's Sexual Health:

Unfortunately as you are probably aware, some men will find as they get older, more difficult to establish and/or maintain an erection, and a sense of lose of libido. This can be for a variety of reasons which fall under two categories, Physical reasons and psychological reasons.

Physically - Alcoholism, drug abuse, obesity, anemia, Hyperprolactinaemia (a rare disorder where the pituitary gland produces too much of the hormone prolactin), being on certain prescribed drugs, Low testosterone level,Any major disease such as diabetes.

Psychologically - depression, stress and/or overworked, childhood issues, relationship issues/concerns.



The best thing to do would be to see you GP, they should hopefully be able to diagnose which of the above could be the issue, and either deal with the issue, or refer you to a specialist in that field. I can understand discussing such issues with a GP can be difficult, but if you want to move on from your issue it would be you best route forward. Please get back in touch if you have any further questions.

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Answered by team member Matt
27th June 2011