Hi guys. I'm very fit and active 28 year old man. However I've been struggling with some psychological Ed. I've had all the tests and blood work. And physically I'm perfect. But while getting in the moment I have a very hard time keeping my self from unraveling. This being said I've Been with my gf for 3 years. And we've had an incredible sex life. Up intil recently. I was wondering if there were any tips or methods to get my self back to well more my self. And become confident in bed. Thank you.
Asked by Hardball
21st May 2013 (in Health)
Response from Men's Sexual Health:
Hello and thanks for getting in touch with us at MSH. Erectile Dysfunction is either a Physiological issue, or a psychological issue. As you have stated, you have looked into the physiological sides and had tests done, so yes from what you have said it does sound more psychological. Some examples of such psychological effects are; Stress: which could be job related, money issues, relationship issues etc, Anxiety: Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED, Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner, Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED, Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance, also Childhood abuse has been related to ED. Some men suffer with more than one of the above issues, as some of these cause some of the others to occur. The best way to solve psychological ED is therapy with a professional counsellor sex therapist. Discussing you anxiety and fears and concerns will be a big step in dealing with them and overcoming them. Be open and honest with your partner will help this, and may benefit in both attending therapy. If you live in Swindon, we provide a free counselling service, please let us know if you would like to discuss this. I wish I could suggest a more immediate and quicker solution to your problem, but unlike physiological where meds could be prescribed, psychological issues take more time to resolve, and must be resolved for progress of ED to happen. We hope this has helped, if you need further support please do get back in touch.
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Answered by team member Matt
21st May 2013
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